My boyfriend of one year just moved to Las Vegas from Wisconsin. We had to endure being seperated by 2 hours while I was in college. Now he had to move back home with his mom because he had some financial problems. We really love each other. We plan to eventually getting married. I want to know what we can do now to be able to get through not getting to see each other and talk to each other as much as we use to? We will probably be apart for over a year?
2006-08-14 12:01:36 · 21 answers · asked by mustangbaby_05 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, in my own instance, my husband travels extensively and is gone 6 weeks and then he is home for about 9 days. We talk non-stop though while he is gone. I think you would have to take great steps in creating a trusting relationship that can withstand some distance. Go to great lengths to stay in touch, send cards, call often & see them as much as possible. I think it is attainable, but both people would have to be willing to make necessary sacrifices to make it work. It would have to be both of you! Good Luck!
2006-08-14 12:10:33 · answer #1 · answered by KIMBO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen mustange Baby, If you are both out of college this works only one way. You move to Vegas. I don't care if he has money problems you guys get a one bedroom aptartment and start being adults. Vegas is the fastest growing city in the us. For gods sake you can make 50,000 a year parking cars. The only reason to move in together is to see if you want to get married. If you both arn't willing to make the sacrific then stop wasting you time your not in love. A MAN in love does not leave his woman to move into mom's basement. Think about it.................Is you guy a loser, or does he just not love you. Hey I don't know the answer i'm just some guy.
2006-08-14 12:13:21 · answer #2 · answered by brooklyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two really want to stay together, then form traditions. For example, spend one hour a week watching your favorite TV show together over the phone. Send e-mails frequently about what you did during your day, and send pictures and hand written love letters often. A relationship is alot of work whether it's long-distance or not. So you may as well get in the habit of working hard at it now
2006-08-14 12:07:05 · answer #3 · answered by Chickie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry honey. Less Visibility means less love. Worse if the time apart is longer. Be prepared for any change of plans.
Meanwhile, I would suggest more calls, esp if you can do video calls then it would be much better. You can show him your latest happenings and so can he. IF possible, try to make a trip every few months to deter any unwanted attention by any local female predator and also to reinforce the love. You would not want him to **** for a year and neither would he
2006-08-21 21:45:07 · answer #4 · answered by Baby_Apocalypse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I loved somebody - I mean REALLY loved them and knew they were my "soul mate", then I would find a way to be with them - either to live with them or live close to them. I wouldn't take the chance of ruining the relationship. Some will say "If it's meant to be then it will be" that's B.S., you got to make it happen girlfriend *snap*snap*! Being this situation has no real ending date makes things even worse. Come up with a plan with real dates (umm - like "calender" dates - ha), this "up in the air" stuff ain't gonna work honey. Good luck!
2006-08-14 12:29:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is having Financial problems...why not both of you try to get an apartment somewhere close to your College.. and he get a job and you a part time job around the area.....it works..i been living on my own since i was going on 17 and my gf is a year older then me...we been living together and had jobs since i was 17...im now 19 going on 20 in November and shes going on 21 in sept. 30th. still doing good too and my credit score is around 780 just at 19years old :)
2006-08-14 12:10:28 · answer #6 · answered by Iceman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My roommate went through the same thing with his GF, this involves:
-Almost never leaving the house and being on MSN with each other constantly
-Suspision and wanting to know excactly what th other is doing all the time
-Visits as much as possible, very important!
2006-08-14 12:07:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation that you are. I am in college and my girlfriend is in Chicago right now...She lives 500 miles away from me. She had to move in with her dad until she goes to college. You can't do anything except talking on the phone with him and just stay in touch.. I know it's hard...I know how you feel.
2006-08-14 12:07:56 · answer #8 · answered by divinevegeta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, my boyfriend lives 6 hours away. There are alot of emotions(jealously, sadness,anger). It's gonna be hard no doubt about that, but if you and him really love eachother you'll get through it. Just keep in mind that you'll be together again.
2006-08-14 12:07:06 · answer #9 · answered by batman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old r u? Sorry sweetie, it's not gonna happen. 2 hours isn't so bad, but that far is. Maybe u do love each other, but it doesn't always work out. I know. If u do love him u have to let it happen and possibly let go.
2006-08-14 12:06:37 · answer #10 · answered by samantha wilson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋