Abuse Question?

Question

I've asked some questions earlier, and been reading some questions on the "cycle of abuse". I've found that on this site most people that say if a (abused as a child) adult starts abusing a child, that it is his own fault, because he chose that path.

Now basically is this saying that we should be all free to abuse whoever we feel like because it would be that victims reasonability to chose weather or not he or she likes to abuse other people?

What exactly about percentages and statistics here, it is statistically more likely for a person that has been abused as a child, to repeat the behavior (as well a, I actually cannot find the source with a percentage but here are a few that support what I’m saying.

This question is really not meant to cause an argument, nor disrespect anyone, I’m doing a final (report) for my criminal justice class, and I want to see another persons view.

http://www.bellaonline.com/articles/art29945.asp
http://www.prevent-abuse-now.com/stats.htm#Chil

As you notice in the sources crime rates are typically higher (according to National Incident-Based Reporting System) among those that have been sexually abused in childhood.

I cannot find the sources at this point but I will look again...I BELIVE it was according to the National Crime Report (NCR) that convicts that were arrested (for substance abuse), had been arrested in youth for substance abuse at early ages...I'll try again to find the source, it was something very similar to that though.

Answer 1

Basically, the thinking is that children who have been abused learn no other way to deal with their emotions, unless they choose to as adults. Which begs the questions, are we or are we not slaves to our childhood? I personally think that we can be slaves if we choose to dwell in the past and not to look at who we want to be but each of us must move past the things that we experience as children, whether major or minor. I bet you can get a lot of evidence and information from the Victim Services in your area. They help crime victims (obviously) but they do a lot of work with domestic violence victims and educate to "break the cycle". Try them or Family Services to get info.

Answer 2

I don't think you are reading people right. No one is excusing the abuser's actions, even if they understand their tendency toward that behavior.

No one is "free" to abuse others. And abuse is a crime. While history may be a mitigating factor, it doesn't disprove guilt.

Answer 3

No, you've gotten it out of context. It's saying we shouldn't abuse. It's saying that having been abused, is why people do it. BUt in some cases, the abuser starts out abusing pets, then switches to people. It's saying that's why some people are abusive. They were abused and they want revenge by taking it out on other people.