Ignore Fighting Parents?

Question

How do you ignore your parents fighting? I mean, it can get pretty nasty (nothing physical so far) and honestly I don't know how much more I can take. Plus, there's my little brother but I don't know how he really feels.

Anyway, is there any way to just block it out?

I'm pretty sensitive, and I did cry at some of their fights. Whenever they see me crying, though, it seems like it frustrates them more and gets them even more mad, at each other and me.

Answer 1

If you can, go outside, go visit a friend/family member, or find someplace in your home that is quiet. My major suggestion is pray. And if you feel that you can't tell your parents how you feel, discuss it with a family member or church member who is willing to sit with you and have a talk with you and your parents.

Blessings To You & Yours

Answer 2

This is tricky. I have no good answer, but if you are a child, and your parents are fighting all the time, maybe it's time they got a divorce. Or at the very least, some councelling.

A child should not need to "block it out". And it is not your job to take care of your little brother, because your parents are fighting (although it's great that you do! But be careful about taking on too much responsability!). Something is wrong in the house you live in, and it's not you.

From my viewpoint, your parents need a "kick in the ***" to get their act together. I know, it isn't easy to be a child, and ask them if they would consider marriage counselling. A better bet would be to be a bit more insidious. If your parents are part of a church, try to talk to someone in your church about it. Or maybe someone in your family, such as one of your uncles, aunts, grandparents, etc... You can also try to talk to a teacher you trust at your school, but if I were you, I would try the other options first.

Answer 3

You have some GREAT answers already! If I were you though I’d focus more on making the fighting stop. You need to sit one of them down and basically tell them to grow up. They need to realize they have children and there actions are taking affect on both you and your brother. But DON’T tell them like that!!! Just sit them down and explain how you feel. Also you need to maybe ask your brother on his thoughts! And if all else fails and you can’t stop the fighting you need to scan the situation carefully and make sure there’s no physical abuse! (If they don’t stop the fighting soon it may just turn into that) And when the very first punch is thrown you know you need to get your brother out of the house and call 911, or tell your grandparents, aunt, uncle, or teacher, or school counselor. But in the mean time you should do what everyone else said, put the headphones on and chilax! Or go out of the house (TAKE YOUR BRO) But if they EVER touch one of you (you Or your brother) call childcare, counselor, 911, or something like that! Don’t let them hurt YOU!

Answer 4

Can you occupy your time, by going over to a friends house? I think if this is on a consistent basis within your home, then closing your door maybe the only option right now. If you feel the fighting is getting out of hand, I'm sure your little brother feels the same. I think you need to talk to someone, because someone is going to end up hurt. I don't want that to be you or your little brother. Stay safe.

Answer 5

Can you maybe just get out of your house with your brother. Take a walk or (I don't know your ages, sorry) play a game outside for a while. If it's at night, maybe slip on some headphones. Tell your parents (or if you can't talk to them, tell a relative or teacher) that this is really hurting you and your brother.

Answer 6

i had the same situation when i was young, my parents fought all the time and it was just me and my little brother. they are now after 30 years of marriage getting divorced. it is sad, i had a hard time wondering if it was ever going to turn into anything worse like hitting and stuff. i had to even as an adult get into the middle of things by putting myself in the middle of my mother and father so that if anyone was going to get hit it would be me and not my mom. i took great risks alot to keep my family safe. just watch out for your mother, love her and tell her that you love her. make sure that if your mother ever gets hit that you call the police on him even though your mother may not press charges, mine wouldnt. mostly keep your brother safe and yourself safe. it is not easy. all i can tell you is one day it will be over, but for now try to tell your mom to get help so that it dont get worse between them. just be careful, and i wish there was something more i could do for you, i wish there was something someone would have done for me and my brother. im here if you need to talk ok.

Answer 7

Well the best way to ignore it is to either leave or close the door..Worked for me..Or what really work s for me is sometimes I just tune them out..Or if u can go and take a walk around the block...or listen to your ipod(if you have one) I find that listening to music really calms my nerves...

Answer 8

take u and ur bro 2 a room lock in and lisin 2 lyfe he da best words of truth or some Gospel what eva calm ur soul or u and him sleep over a cousin house trust u can get through it if i did any1 can and ma pray God can always help

Answer 9

Take you and your little brother to the library or something for awhile and just hang out.

Answer 10

leave the house with ur brother or go into ur room and turn ur stareo up really loud