Well my bf and I have been dating for a few weeks. and I really really like him, but he says Im too good for him, so is this good or bad? anyone ever have this happen?
2006-08-14 11:23:46 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont think he would cheat on me, and I don't want to dump him. I like him more then most of my other bfs
2006-08-14 11:28:19 · update #1
Just make him feel secure by telling him how much you like him. And that it's not about one of you guys being too good for each other. It's about how well you get along and how much you like the other person. And make sure that he knows you like him and he's the only guy in your head.
However, i can think of only one problem related to his comment. He could have insecurity issues that may be small now but bigger when you guys are really involved. Just talk to him casually about it. And make him feel good but also let him understand that it's not about you being perfect or him being perfect but you two being perfect for each other AT THE MOMENT.
2006-08-14 11:28:37 · answer #1 · answered by falzalnz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say this... but it sounds like he's trying to break things off w/ u in an "it's not u it's me" sort of way... The best way I've found in situations like this is just to resolve it head on and ask if that's what's going on. If he REALLY swears that's not it and he doesn't want to break it off w/ u then u just need to reassure him that if u really thought u were better than him u wouldn't have thought he was so wonderful that u wanted to date him. In other words people who aren't equal in a relationship don't end up together in the first place! WARNING: be prepared that if u ask a question that refers to u getting hurt, u might actually get an answer u don't like!
2006-08-14 11:32:15 · answer #2 · answered by elk571 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of the many code phrases.
When a guys say "you're too good for me" it means... either:
1) You're not good enough or
2) his self esteem is not up to the level that a normal human beings should have.
Since... let's say if you really were... then he gets a BONUS and the added opportunity to make himself a better person for YOU and HIMSELF.
I'd say... DUMP HIM and find a MAN. Not a sniveling wussy.
2006-08-14 11:30:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend would always tell me that too and until this day he still tells me that. We have been together for nearly 8 years though. Just because he says that doesn't mean the relationship is ruined. Make sure that when he says that to you that you don't agree with him and that you make him feel like he is worthy of you. He might just have low self esteem.
2006-08-14 11:32:54 · answer #4 · answered by Pinky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is most important is that he thinks he is not your equal. This feeling will either go away or continue through out your relationship. I would have a talk with him about it and maybe the two of you can work it out.
If he keeps saying I don't deserve you with that goofy love smitten look I would ignore his comment and say no you don't.
2006-08-14 11:33:59 · answer #5 · answered by Just ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes in my relationship been with him 4 4 months and as it got deeper he would say the same but i told him if u love me b the guy cus if he felt that way so strong but we still wanted 2 b 2gether so i told him that or u could say in my eyes its different i care 4 u u do me good thats all i need u r da guy 4 me i hope 2 help but what eva u do dont let him go he wants da best 4 u and thats true feelins
2006-08-14 11:31:09 · answer #6 · answered by yanira 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be in shock that you like him. He'll get over that.
He may have some history that you don't know about him - and he may be
right. You'll find that out as you get to know more about him.
He may be using this as a way of appearing humble. That could get
annoying. Hope he gets over it or tell him it bothers you.
He may have a very low self esteem - self esteem can be very very
difficult to get back. Therapy may help. Your beautiful self may help.
Nothing may help. It could get so annoying you just end up leaving him.
Hard to tell from here.
2006-08-14 11:29:47 · answer #7 · answered by Elana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't assume what someone means. Ask if your not sure. But, it could mean that he was paying you a compliment or it could be a polite excuse as he is on the way out the door.
Play it safe and ask him what he meant by it, and you appreciate honesty. Good luck!
2006-08-14 11:41:35 · answer #8 · answered by sweetcitywoman2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ARE YOU? people should never marry out of there class is he beneath you but you really really like him anyway. You have to understand that if you are upper middle class and he lower middle class he'll never fit in, oh theres always the exception to the rule but people are always happier if they marry and date there own financial comfort ground.....Now I know that sounds cruel but honestly its the reality of truth. eventually he'll make the fatal mistake that will end your relationship. Pride is the biggest factor you may never make him feel uncomfortable but some one close to you might and since he will always be on guard it will end the 2 of u.
2006-08-14 11:40:28 · answer #9 · answered by ROSEY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes this has happened to me and let him think that and see if that is what he thinks or if it is his way of trying to dump u. Anyway my bf thinks i am to good for him but just see how it is for u
2006-08-14 11:28:21 · answer #10 · answered by jackie06babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋