I am engaged and saving for a wedding and it is not easy. i am getting over 80 hours a week at work but it is causing me to not have much time with my fionce. i want to get married soon that is why i am picking up so many hours at work so that we can have the money to get married this year and she can still get her dream wedding. is this OK???????????????
2006-08-14 11:22:42 · 8 answers · asked by jesse lee h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Keep talking about how you both feel. I was in the same situation. I lived with my husband before we got married and we never even saw eachother because he works days and I work nights. Since the wedding we have seen more of eachother and are both very happy. Just talk.
2006-08-18 06:46:24 · answer #1 · answered by ejg411 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would say that it is your life and your marriage. 80 hours a week is a lot of time to spend for 52 weeks for one day. If I were you I would sit down and make a budget of exactly how much you need for your dream wedding and how much you need for an acceptable wedding. If your dream wedding is $10,000 then you will know how many hours you will need to spend away from your fiancee for one great day. However, if you could cut $1,500 of the budget out for stupid things like less expensive wrapping on the favors or slightly smaller centerpieces, you could have several more hours with the love of your life. It is up to you to decide which is more important to you: your wedding or your marriage.
Good Luck!
2006-08-14 18:30:56 · answer #2 · answered by emp04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that is fine! Don't listen to people who tell you no. You will have time after the wedding. My husband and I got engaged and married within 3 months. I think it was worth us both pulling long hours so that we could have the wedding sooner. I would have died if I had to wait a whole year for it! But once you married you get every day together so it is all worth it. Tell her that, and I am sure that she will understand. If she doesn't then it wasen't ment to be!
Forgot to mention that he lived in another state so we only saw each other every weekend for one night if that for about 6 months.
2006-08-14 18:36:48 · answer #3 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Building the relationship is most important. Is she also working that hard? If not, she will have too much time on her hands and it will not be with you! You know what is said about idle hands. I pray that she is saving like mad as well. It is really on her/ her family to pay for the wedding, especially a dream wedding. The honeymoon is really on you. Don't try to do too much and find it wasn't worth it. If you both are willing to sacrifice and really make it work, go for it! God bless both of you.
2006-08-14 19:10:26 · answer #4 · answered by the Goddess Angel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this rate you won't have a relationship by the time you get to the wedding. The wedding should be about committing your lives to each other, not if she has a designer dress and a full bar at the reception
2006-08-14 18:29:33 · answer #5 · answered by Jan S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I can appreciate what you are trying to accomplish, we all have to make consessions in life. Depends on how loong you plan on doing this. Dropping dead from exhausion isn't going to benefit anyone. You asked if what you are doing is okay? Why should be care, we aren't involved. But apparently you are having trouble with it, otherwise you wouldn't have asked.
I know how disappointing a situation can be when you have your heart set on something and just can't swing it financially.
But the goal here is to become husband and wife, with a solemn, meaningful, tasetful wedding.
2006-08-14 18:40:14 · answer #6 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-14 18:50:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This very OK. What a wonderful thing to do. I hope she appreciates it. Good luck to you both.
2006-08-18 12:32:34 · answer #8 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋