Did I over react? What should have been said?

Question

The 6 yr old grandson of the people across the street came over to play today. My 6 year old let him in while I was in the shower. (BigNo No answering the door I know) While I was showering they took the mattress off her bed, put peanut butter in the sink and pretty much trashed the playroom. I told them to go in there and clean up the play room and then the boy was going home. While I was cleaning the mess they made in the other bathroom they got out the scissors and he cut my daughters waist length hair. I was irate (and in tears) when I went to check the progress of their clean up. He said my daughter asked him to cut her hair. She denied it. I marched them both across the street and told the grandmother what happened/ She said I am really sorry but "Where'd he get the scissors?"
My daughter does alot of crafts and has several pairs of scissors. I am a hairstylist and she has never cut her own hair. The grandmother said since I was so upset the boy wouldn't be over again.

Answer 1

WOW, and I thought we had it bad with our neighbors. You did the right thing and I think this boy won't be a issue for you anymore ( good job ). can't believe the response about where he got the scissors........ What a ( insert bad word here ).
I can't tell you though, My child would be dead meat for opening the door when you were in the shower 1 and then trashing the place 2. I am not sure what your punishments are but but if she were mine she could count on a trip over my lap w/pants down.

Needless to say you did great confronting your neighbor. by doing this that terror they call a boy should stay away.
Good Luck

Answer 2

No, your not Maybe, the boys guardian should have made a phone call before letting the little devil loose. I am really sorry for what happened, But then again you need to make sure your daughter never answers the door ever even if your paying attention to her, But You couldnt have helped the kid acting the way he did.

Answer 3

No you didn't over react, but in all fairness, if the scissors (be it real scissors or safety scissors) were where they could get to them, then you can't really blame the kids, afterall they are kids and kids do alot of stupid things. You probably should have immediatly sent him home, instead of making him help clean, not unless you were going to stand there and watch them, cause you had already seen what happened when they were by themselves. My son was at one of my friends house one day while I was at work, when I got there to pick him up, he and her daughter had poured Kool-Aid in the back of a 25 inch tv and had sprayed WD40 in the speakers. Obviously the tv was ruined. I could tell that she was waiting for me to offer to pay for the tv, but I just asked "Where were you when they did this? And where did they get the WD40, cause it could have been someones eyes they sprayed it in?" Come to find out, she was in the shower too. I know in your case, you didn't give permission for this kid to come over, but unfortunatly there was something within their reach that could be used to cause damage. I know you probably never thought this would happen with your daughters craft scissors, but you see that kids can use anything to "have fun".
But I would not let this kid come over again, cause the granny should still have gotten on to him for what he did.

Answer 4

good day, how are you? Why dont you come back over to my abode tonight? lets communicate and merely relax. I actually have reserved some alcohol or beverages and an excellent wasteland only for the both one human beings. we may be able to play this loopy recreation that i have made up, i'm hoping you're as a lot because the project. because you're the lady of my targets i visit no longer help yet smile each and every time i see your face, my heart beats speedier each and every time I see you.

Answer 5

I don't think you over reacted. I would have done the same thing. When I was that age my friend cut my hair too. I looked like Carol Brady. I was still allowed to play with the girl who cut my hair, but we were both punished. I think you should ground your daughter or take away priveledges or something. She knew that cutting her hair was wrong and so did that little boy and they should both be punished. Good luck!

Answer 6

No i dont think you overreacted i would be in tears. but now that the waters have settled maybe you should go and apoligize to the grandmother because kids will be kids and even though i know some kids i would like to dicipline for their parents they sometimes dont know what they are doing and mimmick. It would be totally different if the kid was 10 years old and knew right from wrong.

Answer 7

no you didnt over react it wasnt a good thing to cut her hair but it can always grow back. the mess was made so you told them to clean it up they got the scissors and cut off her hair. you went across the street and told his grandmother.

Answer 8

I would tend to agree with the child's grandmother. First, you need a security chain on your front door. Children do not understand that disobeying can sometimes endanger their lives. It seems like your daughter has lots of unsupervised time while you're home for this to have happened. (And yes, I have a 4 y/o.)

Answer 9

if your li'l girl is disobedient enough to answer the door when she's not allowed then she might have cut her own hair..and you might want to lock the door and take the key with you next time..or better still,if your girl can't be trusted take her with you.. its easy to blame other peoples kids when u may need to question your own kids behaviour..hope her hair ain't too bad..(oh,and hide those scissors,they're always potentially dangerous around kids)

Answer 10

My good woman, you were a lot calmer than I would have been! You had every right to be angry, and maybe it's for the best if your son wouldn't play with this kid anymore. Also, maybe it would be a good idea if your daughter hid her craft stuff.