Ok, theres this girl ...we have been very good friends for more than 3 years, and she likes me.
She has told me many times, and that we should try, etc.
her face is ok,but I dont like that shes a little fat.
I like her personality, shes sweet and she really loves me, but I dont like her body.
But I "love her" and I became fond of her, its just that I think I can love a pretty girl of my type the same way I love her, and I love her just because I havent tried with other girls that I really like.
So should I be with her and ask her to be my girlfriend?
2006-08-14 10:41:59 · 9 answers · asked by Roger S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A little less than a year ago I became friends with a guy that was not terrible physically attractive (to me) but had a wonderful personality. We had a great connection and a lot of common interests. We were friends for a couple of months, and then the connection became undeniable, so I decided to go for it in spite of the fact that I didn't find him all that attractive physically. Almost 9 months later, we have an amazing relationship, because it's based in friendship, not lust. The physical form is just a shell for the true person inside. If she has a beautiful soul, she can become beautiful to you.
2006-08-14 10:51:28 · answer #1 · answered by Morgan S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be unfair to ask her out right now, knowing full-well there are already aspects you are not into. Sure, people can often see past physical imperfections in someone they truely love..but you cannot seem to do that in this case. To me, that indicates you don't truely love her-at least in a romantic way. I think [if you asked her out ] that you would start to become resentful and unhappy. You might end up hurting her more in the long run. I suggest keeping it at the close friend level. If you are not able to hold and touch and love her with physical affection too, it will only create hurt...
2006-08-14 17:55:30 · answer #2 · answered by *** 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! You will end up hurting her in the long run...if you are going to be that self absorbed and only "want" a girl that has a nice body then you shouldn't even lead this girl on. Just be her friend, but don't let her feelings linger on for you. It needs to stop right now!
2006-08-14 17:51:26 · answer #3 · answered by Workinmamma 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know, I would say don't ask her out. You seem to only love some aspects of her and I dont think it wold be fair to her if you hook up without loving her entirely. You seem to be a man who cares about size, and thats cool if your like that. But let her know that you are just not interested right now.
2006-08-14 17:48:20 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well that is a very shallow thing to say. I wouldn't ask her to be your girlfriend just yet. If i were u i would just take her out to dinner and then see if any sparks fly. If you don't like her then why would you want her to be your girlfriend? Tell her that you just want to be friends and that you are really sorry....or you can just tell her to do some excersizing hehe
2006-08-14 17:49:07 · answer #5 · answered by Youra_fruitcake 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. You would not make her a good bf. You have to accept the whole person and you are not willing to do that. You should remember that looks are not everything.
2006-08-14 17:59:57 · answer #6 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are damn shallow. Tell her that you are not ready for this kind of relationship right now. I'm sure she'll move on; if she doesn't then...you know she has issues...
Well so do you.
2006-08-14 17:56:27 · answer #7 · answered by nomucatoday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wood give her a chance becase you know what might happin i look at the heart of a prerson
2006-08-14 17:52:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you know the answer- (shallow), but hey - if you love but don't like her - then good luck
2006-08-14 17:49:20 · answer #9 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋