im going to see my mother for the first time in 13 years, what do i do?
2006-08-14 10:33:59 · 39 answers · asked by The Way 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Wow this must be really overwhelming for you! I am sorry that you haven't seen your mother in thirteen years and I hope it was not horrible circumstance that kept you apart. If you will be happy to see her, take a deep breath, give her a hug and kiss, and tell her whatever you feel in your heart. She will understand. But if you are mad at seeing her, still do the same. She can not fault you for your feelings and I hope this will be a successful and happy reunion for the both of you.
2006-08-14 10:41:52 · answer #1 · answered by sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep an open mind and listen to her explain why she hasn't seen you in that long. Hopefully you two can reunite and start to get to know each other. Sometimes mothers give up seeing their kids for different reasons. Maybe they were too young when the baby was born, perhaps there was a substance issue, and sometimes because of fear, ignorance or some other reason. I'm sure that you'll both feel uncomfortable for while but hopefully will be honest and communicate how your feeling at present and have been feeling for previous 13 years. Best of luck to you.
2006-08-14 10:46:41 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my biological father after over 20 years of not seeing him. It was hard and I was very nervous. We had been corresponding via letters for about a year before we met, but the actual meeting was nervewracking. Once I got there, I tried to act natural and after a few hours of being together, we kind of fell into a comfortable relationship. It was hard, I didn't know how to treat him. But, I just let things take its course. I wish you the best.
2006-08-14 10:39:30 · answer #3 · answered by Alicia L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to be yourself, she's probably just as nervous as you are. It's going to be uncomfortable in the beginning. Try to find out somethings about her past and current interests - you may be able to connect on that level. If you have more pointed, personal questions - try not to bombard her with them when you first see her.
Good luck and try to relax.
2006-08-14 10:40:11 · answer #4 · answered by kids and cats 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to find some common ground upon which to build a relationship and go from there. Good Luck
2006-08-14 10:37:50 · answer #5 · answered by Cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to her , like you would any other person that is a stranger to you. Be friendly and respectful. I am sure it will be very awkward , but I am confident in you that you will be able to handle it. I hope everything will work out for you. Good luck !
2006-08-14 10:41:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don`t have any high expectations because you may get disapointed. Just go there with an open mind and keep your cool. Hopefully everything works out for good, good luck.
2006-08-14 10:37:15 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica Marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get acquainted with her again..Im sure you have tons of questions that you want to ask but dont overwhelmed yourself. Stay calm and listen to her explanations so that you will have a better understanding on why you are just seeing her now.
2006-08-14 10:41:38 · answer #8 · answered by Jon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself! Act natural and be ready to ask questions and get to know her. Don't have any preconceived notions - just be ready for whatever happens. It might be emotional or it might not be, just be prepared for whatever happens. Go with the flow and enjoy your time with your mom!
2006-08-14 10:39:02 · answer #9 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hug
2006-08-14 10:38:04 · answer #10 · answered by Lucy Lu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋