K my bf and I been together for about 9 month, I love him so much, and he loves me so much as well, he talks about me all the time. I am a year older than him, I am in school he is not, we both work at the same job, but I get paid more then he does, I don’t think he know that but I know, and he never ask me how much I get paid or anything. Anyway he leaves with his ill brother, he taker of his mother, he just bought a car, he have a lot of responsible, and he got fines to pay because he just had a car accident, and in order for him to get his license he have to pay his fines, so I told him to pay that first but he said he don’t have any money right know so he is going to pay it next month. SO I FELL SO BAD and he never ask me for any thing. Should I give him money or is that to much it is a bout 200 hundred. What should I do and how should I do it please help me
2006-08-14 10:22:26 · 22 answers · asked by sweet84 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As a general rule...I have NEVER given money to a bf. Nor have I ever asked for any money or accepted any money. I don't involve anything about money unless I have been with them for many years. If he can pay it next month...let him wait a month. If he needs a ride or something...give him one. But I wouldn't give him any money...he many not have bad intentions and he IS in a bad position...but don't make him dependent on you to get him out of a difficult situation whenever it comes up. Plus...it can motivate him to make more money in the future. He may just be telling you to get support...not financial support but your first inclination is "I have it...I can pay it." I think that is for people that are married.
2006-08-14 10:30:10 · answer #1 · answered by Jenny Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I personally wouldnt care because mine pays for so much & what can I really say when he gives me money at the drop of a hat if I need it. I think it depends how serious you are. We live together so it's like everything is both of ours. But we both also have jobs & pay mainly for our own things. I pay my phone, insurance, gas, & anything extra I want. If your boyfriend already sucks you dry & then on top of that took money without asking yes I would be pissed. If you are say Not in a comfy situation with money meaning every dollar you make you have something in mind for it to go to then YES I WOULD BE UPSET & let him know NO MORE.
2016-03-27 01:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on whether or not you will feel guilty about it later. i mean, you are by no way obligated to give him anything- he is grown. no one told him to get a car- he could have bought a $50 bicycle and gotten where he needed to be, you know? he chose to get a car and pay that monthly car note.
the real question you should be asking is, is he the right one for you? i know it sounds harsh but... what is he doing for you? seems like he's a pretty busy and preoccupied person... and you say you are older than him... and he's not in school... so... like, if yall stay together, what is he going to do for you in the future? you know? work at the same job forever? not saying at all that he can't go to school in the future.. but, just something to think about.
2006-08-14 10:29:08 · answer #3 · answered by casadienickole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are tight on money as well, then you could 'loan' it to him. Then type out a contract to have him sign that will ensure you will get your money back. Set up a payment plan (so much a month). Or if you want, just give it to him. However, put yourself in his shoes, would he 'loan' or give you the money if you were in need. That is how I would base my decision. Good luck hun!
2006-08-14 10:30:04 · answer #4 · answered by Britta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the rule on loaning money to friends...if you can forget that you loaned that person money, including watching that person spend frivolously, then it's ok. If you expect that person to pay you back, before buying the new t.v. they had their eye on, then I would refrain. So many friendships are lost when money is loaned out. Communicate your expectations with that person and you should be fine. Good luck!
2006-08-14 10:28:43 · answer #5 · answered by Elsie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should help him out. Tell him you will lend him the money and he can pay you back when he can. Sounds like he has a lot on his plate with his ill brother/mother and he could use your support.
2006-08-14 10:27:35 · answer #6 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no don't give him money! He got himself into that mess and he can get himself out of it. If he can't pay those fines and get his license back, he has two feet and he can walk. Let this be a lesson to him of what happens when he messes up.
2006-08-14 10:30:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you need to learn how to spell first off!!! If you really want to give him money you need to write up a payment plan that you both can agree to so that he can pay you this money back and you should both sign it. That way if you guy break up or he screws you over you can sue him for it and you will eventually get this money back.
2006-08-14 10:28:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, do you think that you're wallet can handle it? It sounds like he is responsible and would pay you back, but that's really for you to judge. So if you trust him and you have enough spare cash, you should. People in relationships should support each other.
2006-08-14 10:29:09 · answer #9 · answered by Bondy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you trust him then give him the money, if you dont then dont.
If he takes the money and runs, then its a lession that costs you 200 bucks, but it will be something you'll remember for a long while.
Best of luck with what you choose.
2006-08-14 10:28:35 · answer #10 · answered by Chris H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋