what would you do if...?

Question

if you let your boyfriend of two years, borrow your car during the hours that im working in condition that he picks me up when i get off. but..... for the third time in a month and a half he has showed up like an hour late. the first time him and his friends got pulled over in my car, second time he had to give his friends rides, thirs time he didnt know what time it was. i get soooo mad and me getting mad just makes our realtionship worse. is it worth getting mad over. why does he do these stupid things. we are supposedly in love and everything is good until he does stupid things like not picking me up from work with my car?????????/

Answer 1

you are trusting him a lot with your keys, but he is not being responsible and doing his half of the deal and picking you up when he says he will. if i were you i would stay with him a little bit longer but not let him borrow the the car. see how he reacts. see if he really loves you or transportation.

Answer 2

He should be more responsible. It is your vehicle you are being kind by letting him use it. The very least he could do is be there to pick you up on time. Getting pulled over shows that he was being irresponsible. His friends needing a ride should come second to you needing picked up. I am sure if he is old enough to drive he can read a clock. The guy is being a jerk. Don't yell at him but make sure to talk to him about it. If he can not be there to pick you up then he does not need to be running the wheels off your car while you are at work. Good luck.

Answer 3

No more car privileges. 1-Not picking you up on time (which was the condition to get the car ) 2- being excessively late at picking you up 3-getting pulled over(it counts on his license but your insurance ) 4-Using your car as a Taxi

Driving someones car is a extremely big responsibility and hes just abused the privilege. That scenario would strain any relationship and basically it comes down to your car your rules if he doesn't like that ...Let him get a car or walk.

Answer 4

Use your head...Don't let him use the car!!! If he asks why, tell him it is because he is too irresponsible about picking you up and your safety should be the most important thing to him!!! If he is running his friends all over town, driving like an idiot to be pulled over, can't tell time, not replacing the gas he used for his own needs, then it's time you put the brakes on and stop him from using the car. Further more he should have a car of his own, and if he can't afford one, kick his @ss to the curb and find some one who can take care of his own needs. Quite frankly he sounds like a lazy bum who only thinks of himself (probably only works part-time or not at all, correct?) BYE-BYE LITTLE GUY.

Answer 5

Then you shouldn't be letting him use your car.
Tell him next time hes late picking you up in your car that he will have to find another means of transportation, that you are tired when you get off work and do not feel like waiting on him to get there with your car.
I would also tell him that i would prefer he not chauffeur his friends around in my car.
You know if he has a wreck in your car his friends could sue you since you are the owner.

Answer 6

First off, don't allow him to use your car!! Clearly your car has been transformed into a taxi for your mans stupid *** friends! It's your car, you should have rules! If he can't even pick you up on time without a valid excuse, then he needs to be taught a lesson.

Answer 7

Okay, third time's a charm! Obviously, if you continue to loan him your car, then you can count on his continuing to show up late. Don't even try with the "if you loved me you'd be on time" stuff, that doesn't work. Just stop loaning him the car. Keep in mind, though, that he might break up with you once you're not paying for "his" car anymore.

Answer 8

If he is really serious abt the relationship otherwise, then my way of dealing with it wud be, to make excuses (which sound genuine) when he asks for ur car. I am sure if u will do this couple of times then he won't ask 4 it (If he is sensible and understands u). You can even seek help of ur colleagues or boss to make the excuse of not being able to share ur car for work appointments

Answer 9

Basically he is being irresponsible. Why is he picking up his friends in your car without your permission? Just no longer allow him to use your car and get yourself back and forth to work? I bet that you'll see that he gets mad because he cannot use your car any longer because he was taking advantage of you having a car.

Answer 10

He's taking advantage of you. If he doesn't pick you up on time then he doesn't get to use the car. SIMPLE AS THAT. Tell him he's grounded from your car. If he gets real upset then you know he's using you for the free ride.