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im 14 and never had a b/f. ive asked a guy if he liked me (i realt thought he did too but nope) and it got around skool in less the a day and i never want that to hapen again. so... HELP!
ive like him for the pass skool year. and now he's going to be going to a difernt hs and im going to miss him so fing much
and i u want to know more about him ask me.....HELP!!!!!!!!!

2006-08-14 10:17:57 · 19 answers · asked by DJ 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

o i for got ALL my friends have b/f

2006-08-14 10:23:54 · update #1

im almost 15 just so all of u know

2006-08-14 10:26:16 · update #2

he. lives close to me but im going to one HS im our town and hes going to the other. so i would like some more help!

2006-08-14 10:44:17 · update #3

19 answers

You might not want to hear this, but if this guy doesn't know you like him by now, he's interested in someone else. And you sure don't want to butt in on what's going on there. If he IS available, and still hasn't noticed you, it's because he doesn't want to. I've been in your shoes several times. I even dropped secret admirer notes in one guys locker, but he was always surrounded by girls, so I figured he was too much of a jock for me. Another guy was too much of a ladies man, playing with the girls to get what he wanted then moving on. I didn't want to be another notch on his belt. If a guy isn't attracted to you on his own, he's not worth hanging out with, nor the effort to get his attention. Little one, please listen to one who's been there. Don't get involved with a guy right now. They end up sucking up all the brain power that's needed to get you through high school, and not worth the effort of failing grades. Have fun, but don't be serious about any one boy. Go to parties, dance, have fun. But keep it friendly and nothing more. If he doesn't want that kind of relationship, he's not worthy of your friendship. Get the best grades you can get. Stay involved with lots of different activities. Graduate at the top of you class. Go to college. Do the same. Get your dream job. Then, while you're not looking, the guy you were MEANT to be with will be ready for you and you'll be ready for him. Then, you can work on the dating thing, preparing yourself for marriage. After all, that's originally what dating was meant for. If EVERY girl would do that, there would be NO teen pregnancies. And more women would hold high paying jobs. Set your sights on your future, not on what's in front of you. Boys will come and go, but your grades will follow you forever, and so will your good name. I know these are words that many teens don't want to hear, but it's SO true. You want help? Let him go. Years down the road, if you're meant to be together, it will happen. More than likely, you might find the same thing I did about the one I let get away. It was a good thing. And I'm so much better off now, with my best friend in the whole world, who happens to be my husband of almost 29 years! <*)))><

2006-08-14 10:36:33 · answer #1 · answered by Sandylynn 6 · 1 0

Your question is a little unclear. Please take the time to read your question back to yourself before you send it out to see if it makes sense, okay?

That being said, your situation is a toughy. If your not going to see the guy, how do you expect to keep the fire burning? He's going to be seeing other people and so are you. Unless you go to football games, etc., you're not likely to run into him much, are you?

My guess is that by the end of the first trimester, there is going to be another guy that melts your heart. I know that's not what you wanna hear, but...it's the age old story of been there, done that. It hurts and that's about all I can say, unless you wanna pour your guts out and tell him how you feel. Even then, with both of you in different schools, the likely hood of it working out long term are not good.

Here's what I did when I was your age, in your predicament. I wrote love letters to the guy, then, tossed 'em. That helped me realize my pain and get it off my chest. It helped my writing skills and I didn't make a fool of myself. When I was alone, I'd dream about what it would be like to be with him and, I'd practice what I'd say so that when and if the time ever came, I'd be really good at talking to him. I'd know exactly what to say.

Sorry I couldn't be more help. 14 is a tough age. It gets better. Trust me. Good luck!

2006-08-14 17:33:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

what you need to do is ...even though u a girl get some balls and go up and talk to the guy but be yourself tell him that youve known him for some time and that over the time of your friendship that friendship has grown in your heart and that you have gotten feelings for him and tell him to be real with you about whether he has any feelings towards you, if he is willing to give you a change, or if its just not happening.


look im going to be sincere and straight up with you your are 14 and youve never had a bf, part of growing up is learning about relationships not just from others or from tv or from ...i duno movies? but what im trying to say is that somethings gotta happen here you cant be afraid to get into relationships you have to learn to be hurt you have to learn to live through pain...because whether you want it or not...its gonna happen someday and its better for you to experience it now so you are ready in the future


so back to the question...if he likes you too or is willing to give something a chance then congratulations but if he doesnt then hey move on let it go...it not going to be easy im not saying it is but you have more experience and trust me no matter how long it may take there will be more and...eventually one will work out well good luck and hope this helps

2006-08-14 17:28:16 · answer #3 · answered by C01 2 · 0 0

First of all, you really can't say you love someone until you really know him. Second you are only 14 years old. You are young yet. I was like you i never really had many b/f at all until i got to high school. Even then i didn't have much. It is better to wait for the right person to come to YOU! There is a reason that this boy is moving away and a reason that this boy hasn't talked to you much or even tried to start something with you, that because he isn't the one. I know its hard to hear that and you are probabley thinking who is she to know, but trust me you will find the right one. But if you still really want to talk to this guy, you can simply just ask him for his email address and start messenging him or do it my way, ask someone that you know well enough to talk to that would know is email address and do it that way. But i wouldn't set your heart on this boy just because you think he is CUTE! Just keep the options open

2006-08-14 17:25:33 · answer #4 · answered by meangel15 2 · 0 0

You need some good pick-up lines. Here's a couple that never fail.

1#- Hey big boy, what is your fascination with small rodents?

2#- Do you like me? If you don't I'll be forced to cut off my left arm. Please don't force me to hurt myself.

3#- I've been videotaping you for the past three weeks. You seem really nice, want to get some lunch?

#4- Are you gay? Everyone says it, but I don't believe it. Want to be my boyfriend and prove them wrong?

5#- My dad is a hitman for the Mafia, want to go out with me?

2006-08-14 17:28:22 · answer #5 · answered by ZenTurkey 4 · 0 0

you are just 14 you have lots of time 2 love someone but just go for it, ask him in steps take your time asking if he likes you if he says no then you will just have to get over it and move on ,it once happen to me i liked this guy and i ask him if he like me but i ask him in steps but he didn't like me turn out he like my best friend i had 2 get over him and learn that every one you like is not going 2 like you in the way you want them 2.

2006-08-14 17:29:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

ummm ur only 14 so umm chillax
u gots a long waaay to go
jus have fun being single
and if they dont like u
get over it

2006-08-14 17:21:36 · answer #7 · answered by MiK3 =D 3 · 0 0

you need to concentrate on school- your spelling is really bad- forget the boyfriends, but if you still insist on wanting to be with this guy- then show him your interested, and if he is interested then leave the asking to him- if not then move on your still young there are plenty of boys out there

2006-08-14 17:22:46 · answer #8 · answered by shannon 4 · 0 0

Hun you are only 14 and I know you have probably heard that before..Give yourself time to grow ok..You will find many boys you will really like alot throughout your years in school...Just take it easy and slow and all will work out for ya ok...God be with you hun

2006-08-14 17:22:04 · answer #9 · answered by glowworm 3 · 0 1

ok so wut r u gonna do some guy u like doesnt like you its not the end of the world. there are plenty of guys out there and someone is probably wanting to ask you out right this second. dont spoil you many chances for one boy. you will be much happier that way. good luck^^

2006-08-14 17:23:18 · answer #10 · answered by Night visions 6 · 0 0

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