why does the ring mean so much when asking the girl to marry you?

Question

I just don't get it, why is the ring such a big deal. Girls told me that alot of them actually have their desired ring picked out ahead of time and they would be dissapointed if they guy gave them a different one. Isn't ring suppose to be just a sign that you are taken? Why do girls get so obsessed about that kind of thing? Would you not rather make a down payment on a car and buy a cheaper ring? It's just a piece of metal and a carbon piece of crystal attached. Any explanation and ideas would be greatly appreciated.

Answer 1

The ring is a symbol of commitment. I personally don't think the size has anything to do with it, never spend more than you can afford. I've had mine for 33 years and wouldn't trade it for a bigger one. It's something you should talk about and agree upon before the time actually happens.

Answer 2

First of all....don't pay any attention to the girls who say they've already got a ring picked out! It might go on their finger,but they ain't payin' for it!
But why does it matter?
Because it symbolizes your seriousness.A ring is a high-dollar investment.When you come forth on bended knee do you think she's gonna take you seriously if you present her with something that represents a weeks pay laboring at Wendy's?
F@#k no! She wants to see that she means the WORLD to you!
Any woman worth having wants to see that you're gonna offer her something that represents true sacrifice.
That's why the rule of thumb is a ring should be the cost of 3 months of your salary.Even if your salary is dirt,she'll love such a sacrifice.THAT is a true commitment.
Of course the two of you might be of lesser means,and therefor may agree upon some other symbol of your love,such as NEW FURNITURE.That's cool too.
But a woman wants to be sure you are indeed commited to the long term well being of the marriage.

Answer 3

first off, I'll tell you I'm not one of "those", I agree, buy a cheaper ring and get something u need. (for a 25/50 yr anv., get THAT type of ring for a gift, you'll have a deeper love for each other and it will mean more!) Some ladies (and guys) see it as a sign of love, that a quality of the ring describes the quality/amount/kind of love that the couple has for each other. In the end, it is a sign of love, that your love should and shall last forever, that you belong to each other. Some rings do look cheap, but my aunts ring looks like she spent A LOT OF CA$SH on it but it wasn't very expensive. You can still show your love for one another w/out spending so much $.

Answer 4

This is not how I feel personally, but from what I can gather...
The larger and more elaborate the ring, the more the guy supposedly loves the woman. If it is a small ring, then the guy is thought of as "cheap" and people assume that his woman doesn't mean enough to him to be worth an expensive ring.

As far as I'm concerned though, ANY ring would be fine with me. I'm more about practicality than aesthetic value.

Answer 5

A ring is round and sybolizes never ending. I think the "big deal" about a ring is that YES: of coarse it symbolizes you are taken, but a small, ugly ring also symbolizes that the man is cheap or has no character, but a beautiful ring symbolizes that the man can make his woman happy. Even if men see a small ugly ring on a girl, they think, dam that guy is cheap!

Answer 6

so if he leaves you at the altar or if your marriage is a flop, then you have some collateral. the more a man spends on a ring, the more he is committed to the relationship- because, otherwise, he ain't getting it back.

but personally, i would use the same very nice ring that was the engagement ring and have him move it to the wedding ring finger during the ceremony (that's the old custom and it is very sweet).

besides, one really expensive ring is worth more than two mid-price or cheap-o rings!

Answer 7

You got me, because I'm a woman and I don't know why some chicks want the expensive stuff...most people can't tell real from fake anyway, so unless it's known you have $$$, they'll assume it's fake...

A simple ring always worked for me...I'd rather have more fun with the money saved, than carry it around on my finger...

Answer 8

For me it was a way he showed me how much he loved me. After he proposed to me, we went ring shopping together and picked it out. He ring was bought at Kmart and mine was bought at a jeweler at the mall. We spent a total of $1000. I think its just the gesture.

Answer 9

it's a symbol of your love.

it's an outword sign that you love this other person. it shows the world they are taken. It's considered a bond between the two people

i hope this helps a little.

although i believe price and size doesn't matter. my wedding band and my husbands TOGETHER cost $25 all together..lol

Answer 10

for me and my friends it does not mean
if my lover give me just a metal ring it will be the whole world to me becouse when i see it i will remember how happy iam and it is enough that he touched it and wear me it with his hands with anice kiss on my bottom hand


but alot of girls like what you said you know why
just to proud towords her friends but i feel this girls are stubit and feel jealous from her friends rings