Im a good Baby Daddy. When ever my BM tell me my daughter need something i Get it. (I keep my Recipts) She got a new boyfriend now that supposedly works 3 jobs and got his own place (WHy he work 3 jobs and dont own a car I dont know, and why he got his own place but they dont live together?) Im working 2 jobs to pay my rent and bills and take care of my seed. I ask her to bring me my daughter so I can take her to my family reunion on saturday. She says "I dont have no money" (She just lost her job last week) I ask her well how can you have a boyfriend that supposed to be working 3 legal jobs but you walking around broke. She wanted to go off on me bout being in her bussiness. Im just telling her the rules to the game. I got sisters nieces, cousins ect. and aint non of them ever sat up and let a n***a Phuck on them and not support them finacially. I aint telling her to sell her body to him Im just saying how can he be your bf and u cant get no $ from him. Am I wrong?
2006-08-14 09:55:55 · 20 answers · asked by Dr. Love 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im not asking him to take responsability for my child I got that under control. In fact I would be upset in a way if another man was doing for my child.
2006-08-14 10:04:16 · update #1
Her personal life matters to me because my daughter is going to watch her as she is growing up and I dont want her to think that what she is doing is right. I Never loveed my BM She tried to trap me by having a baby by me, But I didnt strap up so Im taking my resposabilities like a man.
2006-08-14 10:07:28 · update #2
you are absolutely right. 100% i am a baby mama with no man for that same reason......i did not put up with nonsense from my daughters father and i will not put up with it from a man that is not her father.......
i will say this about her....she obviously got desperate for a man....and she got the first man that came her way.....
2006-08-14 10:02:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
See you got a real bm situation. My advice for you find that hoe a Job the less income she has the more coming out of your pocket, Come on now if the n*igg*a got three jobs she supposed to have money right cant no male lay up with me with three jobs and I aint got no money to take my son to see his daddy. See i try to keep in open line with my bd we talk about alot of stuff but we have boundaries I dont want to hear about yo broads and i not gone tell u bout what i do. Naw u not wrong she need to wake her game up.
Why when u have a baby by a man they automatically think you trying to trap them? I didnt hold a gun to your head and make you not use a condom?
2006-08-14 18:01:38 · answer #2 · answered by Khais Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its good your doing what your suppose to be doing for your child, however just because you Baby's Mama doesnt have any money I dont think its right for you to put her down, maybe she doesnt want to depend on this man for money for her reasons, that doesnt make her a bad mother, I cant judge her for not having money, it happens sometimes that doesnt mean she is using it on her boyfriend, And maybe she doesnt want to use the money for "That" reason and is preserving it for whatever else, maybe you might have to extend yourself more by picking up your daughter, its about the child, if you want your daughter to go that bad then you find a way to get her, there are some men out here that just because they gave you money and you have kids, then they are doing you and yours a favor and your suppose to kiss their a** and he could be that type and maybe thats why she doesnt get money from him, Im sure women you might sleep with dont have to come out of pocket, its ok to be mad, but its wrong to allow everyone to dog out on her when none of us really know the real picture here. And yes I am a single parent and no I dont always get my support, but I refuse to ask another man for financial help, Id rather work 2 jobs first, now if he offers out of the kindness of his heart and doesnt expect an award ceremony then perhaps I would, but it would only be out of a last resort.
2006-08-14 18:05:39 · answer #3 · answered by brite star 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship is different, what your sisters and cousins have may not be the case for this woman you're talking about. She may had made up the whole story about the jobs and the place of his own as a diterant towards you, to make you feel less than a man. You have to remember, what she tells you and whats going on or more than likely two different stories, and if her mentality is what you appear to make it to be, then maybe she just told you she was broke to see if she could get a little change out of you.
2006-08-14 17:02:05 · answer #4 · answered by snowflake9540 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not wrong and she should be more supportive at least your not a deadbeat dad why dont you see if a family member could pick you up then run to get your daughter before the family reunion or take the bus a cab a train dont give up keep your head in the game and dont let her fool you
good luck
2006-08-14 17:06:12 · answer #5 · answered by elmo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel u if he's her man and she got no money he should definitely be helpin her out i mean if he cares about her he would do something to help her out put some money in her pocket or whatever in hard times otherwise he's just using her and getting the p*ssy for free and don't care about her or the child...he doesn't have to support her but since she has no job and a kid to take care of he should atleast be helpin her with things here and there that's what relationships are all about
2006-08-14 17:03:38 · answer #6 · answered by babygirla718 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby Mama Drama.
You know she playin you, See you have 2 jobs, so she's got to make him "out do" you by saying he's got 3 jobs. He probably ain't workin and she's not gonna tell you that.
He's probably livin at home with his parents.
She'll drop the drama once you stop asking her questions or listen to her drama. Then she get worried and start doing whatever you ask
2006-08-14 17:04:48 · answer #7 · answered by ktwister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What your bm does in her life is on her. As long as you take care of your child, you are doing your job. Are you still in love with your bm? Why does her personal life mean anything to you?
2006-08-14 17:04:01 · answer #8 · answered by katherine t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is this man's sugar mama and she and your child would be better off without him. She should be ashamed of herself taking care of some moocher first before her child. I am a single mother myself and there is no way in hell a man would ever sponge off me my child comes first and if that is not ok with him he know where the door is and hopefully it won't hit him on the way out.
2006-08-14 17:05:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long have they been together? do u know he doesnt give her $or does she just tell you that so she can gold dig you? If you want your daughter, then you need to go to her. You go pick her up. But as far as yu keeping your receipts, that dont hold up in court. they count thoose as gifts. so your best bet is to get a support order so she cant gold dig yu anymore. I wish you were my baby daddy. keep doing good and stay in her life.
2006-08-14 17:03:10 · answer #10 · answered by white_choclte 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love someone then you shouldn't put your penis where it don't belong. That's good that your taking care of your child,but that is what you are suppose to do, most of the time men don't do it though. Your babies mother should not expect to get money from her boyfriend and you shouldn't expect it either. Good luck
2006-08-14 18:56:50 · answer #11 · answered by Deerrunner 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋