When I say "in the wedding", I mean a groomsman or a bridesmaid, not an usher or a hostess. And of course, it's all contingent on the fact that you, your sibling and your spouse have a good relationship and all. I only have one brother and it was understood that he was going to be as groomsman, just like my husbands brothers were understood to be groomsmen as well.
2006-08-14 09:48:35 · 23 answers · asked by virgaux78 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My sister-in-law was just married in June and didn't have her only brother in the wedding. He was an usher. Not even a back-up groomsman. It really hurt him.
I say be honest with your sibling and your husband's siblings. Let them know what you're doing and why.
2006-08-14 14:48:45 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the most part Yes. And unless you have a really bad relationship with your sibling they will assume that they are in the wedding. If you are getting to large of a wedding party or it's getting out of hand. Lots of people Just have family in the wedding instead of friends. And if your family is helping or your husbands family is helping pay for the wedding- that's a TRIPLE YES, it is automatic! Sometimes it's a pain if you don't really care for your husbands loud mouth sister.. but she's now part of your family. It would be really insulting to Not be in a sibling wedding... you might as well just spit on them at Christmas too. LOL
Sometimes though- if the sibbling are a lot older or younger then you- you can be excused. My FI sisters are all in their late 30's with 2 kids and are over being in weddings
Friends come and go but family is forever...
2006-08-14 10:06:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No.
I think it goes by relationship, like you mention.
My best friend is getting married in October. She and her brother (her only sibling) have a VERY strained relationship (She is a college grad with a great job and he has been in and out of jail for drugs and battery, etc.)
She did not ask him to be a groomsman. She has not asked him to be an usher. As far as I know, she has not even invited him to the wedding since she is afraid of him starting stuff with her and (especially) her parents. However, his son (Who he is also quite distant from.) is going to be the ring bearer.
2006-08-14 09:59:01 · answer #3 · answered by Laura 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, it's kind of an understood thing that you should ask siblings to be in the wedding party. I had my husband's aunt and sister as bridesmaids because he is close with both of them.
2006-08-14 10:18:31 · answer #4 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. I'm very close with my siblings, but I didn't have any of them in the wedding because I wanted all of their children to play a part (10 of them), so there wasn't room. They understood and I think were grateful!
2006-08-14 11:13:52 · answer #5 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I couldnt even contact my older sister to send an invitation, she's a deadbeat, ex-con who left her child when she went to priso, my parents have been raising her and she doesnt even call. She certaily was not automatically in my wedding. However, my younger sister was a jr. bridesmaid because I wanted her in the wedding somewhere, and my neice, the wonderful, abandoned child, was my flower girl.
2006-08-14 09:56:07 · answer #6 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. My fiance's brother isn't going to be in the wedding, my sis-in-laws aren't, and my brothers are only in it insofar as they're walking me down the aisle since our dad died when I was young.
But then, we're only having one attendant apiece (Best Man and Maid of Honor), so it's not like we've got a big line of attendant slots to fill.
2006-08-14 10:13:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding, you can have who you want to be party of the wedding party. It's not a given that it's your family. When I got married my two best friends were in my wedding not my sisters.
It's up to you and what you want to do. Remember it's your day!
2006-08-14 10:25:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding and you get to do what you want. If you aren't close with your siblings and if your husband isn't close with his or yours, then no. That's what I think anyway.
Also, don't get to bogged down on having even sides, it doesn't have to be all picture perfect and matching.
2006-08-14 09:55:25 · answer #9 · answered by melissa2talkwith 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes your siblings should be in your wedding, unless of course one of them is a crazy toxic person who isn't in your life.
2006-08-14 13:06:26 · answer #10 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋