please give me an opinion of a relative dating your ex?

Question

A woman I dated for 2 1/2 years and had met alot of my family i just found is now dating my first cousin. I always felt that he kinda had a thing for her but certainly would have never expected them to start dating. We had only stop seeing each other for a couple of months when this started. Her response was that it just happened and she was very uncomfortable with it at first. they have now been together for over 6 mos. there has yet to be a family gathering where we all would be present. Personally, I feel that is a line that should not have been crossed especially since as kids my cousin and I spent so much time together

Answer 1

I personally think that is crossing the line. However I have seen it happen to people I know. My advice is if you dont want her back dont sweat it. They are obviously not worried about your feelings so dont give them the pleasure of letting them upset you. There is nothing that can be done now so dont cry over spilled milk. They are together and will continue to be together and although it is uncomfortable for you at your family functions or whatever dont worry everyone knows who had her first! :)

Answer 2

I think that you're right to be upset. 2 1/2 yrs is a long time to be committed to someone. Maybe if it was just a one night stand and you didn't develop feelings it wouldn't have been so bad, but I think that both of them are wrong.
Granted neither of them are obligated to do or not do anything on your behalf, it still would have been the right thing to not have started anything.
Even if you're not trying to get back with her it's always going to be awkward and both of them should have been more respectful of you. Family members should always be off limits.
Then when you throw in the fact that he liked her before... that makes it even worse. I'd wonder if he was sitting in the background waiting for you to mess up the whole time. Or if he approached her while you were still together.
Definitely not cool. You trusted him when you brought her around and he violated that.
(She's no better. There's no such thing as something "just happening" unless you put yourself in a situation where it could "happen")

Answer 3

How I was raised my mom always told us (siblings) if someone has been with a male/female in the family then he/she is off limits to you. Some might say that is old fashioned but I'm young 25. That way you don't have to worry about someone saying girl that was my man how dare you? Less drama

Answer 4

Pardon me but I think your cousin just pulled the wool over your eyes. You are a seat-warmer for your cousin.

I suggest you just move on and no need to encourage or discourage the new couple. No bitterness too.

Regarding the lady who man-hopped, good luck to your cousin that nobody will be pulling wool over his eyes.

All the best!

Answer 5

I might have to agree with you.
But you can't stop other people
from doing what they want.
So, get back in the saddle, go out
and find a woman even hotter than
her, and show up at one those family
functions. Don't let them have all the fun!
And if possible, make sure that you have MORE!

Answer 6

She doesn't belong to you now, nor did she ever. Let them be and get on with your life. If you want to do the classy thing, take time to wish them both best wishes. That will probably drive 'em nuts too. :)

Answer 7

it's just not a good thing, if u see what i mean.... it's your cousin & she's probably like a sister to u.

Answer 8

i agree with you...
the least they could have done was to ask for your permission....i think your cousin is being inconsiderate to your feelings and does not care about what you think.