We live together, I adore him. He doesn't want me to go, but he can't say I love you. Do I stay and suck it up or leave and find a loving man? We're good together but I like affection.
2006-08-14 09:32:55 · 8 answers · asked by Ade 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey what are the chances out there that you can find a man who is perrrfect??! I know totally what you mean. If he is in general treating you like a queen and showing you his affection instead of saying it, why would you leave him and take your chance outside not knowing you might end up with a big time loser. Some men are scared to say the words, because they feel that you'll take advantage of them or something. That's crazy, I know, but those men are out there too.
If he is not treating you well in general then I think you should leave. Or give him some time and then leave if nothing comes out of it. If he is not treating you well and can't say that he loves you, then he definitely doesn't love you. If his actions tell you that he loves you or he used to tell you that he loves you, but he's not saying it (now), it could be because he's confused at the moment. Some things had happened and he needs to evaluate things.
2006-08-14 09:42:16 · answer #1 · answered by Natalie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish your question was a little more detailed. Is he a good man in all other aspects? Are you a loving couple but he just can't say the words? What is your age group? Does he not show you any type of affection? Not to be nosy, but do you have any type of sexual contact with each other? All the questions I have just asked play a part in your question.
I can say that there are many men who have grown up thinking that saying "I love you" and showing affection, is a sign of weakness. They have been taught this through past generations of family. A young man growing up was told that showing emotions was not a "manly" thing to do along with confessing "I love you".
Sometimes you do feel that they forgot to get in line for the emotions department. It is difficult to learn to live with but it depends on how much you "love" this person.
Perhaps with a little communication if you can, express to him how you long to hear the words to show you he cares.
2006-08-14 17:03:13 · answer #2 · answered by Tweek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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simply put, if u r not being satisfied in any way; emotionally, mentally, physically.... than ur relationship is gonna be hard. not saying it won't work in the end, but i'm saying i'ts gonna be hard. because this person is not willing, or not Able, to do whatever it is that u need to be truly satisfied, happy, fulfilled....the list goes on and on. how can u truly trust someone and continue to give love to someone who cannot do the same for you? eventually u will get burned out, and he will become frustrated, blah blah...ur heading down that road.
i say, give him a chance. because u Do love him. but, give urself a time frame, or at least some kind of boundary and expectation of what u want in a man. if he doesn't do what he can to help ur relationship to grow, then there's not much to do. u cannot force him to change, but u can change yourself. u can give him the chance to do something, or u can leave and find someone else. the sad thing is this guy probably doesn't APPRECIATE that u WANT to be with him. u are giving him this chance to stay with you! if he doesnt' change, than u are going to go out and find someone else. if he lets u do that, than it is his fault, not urs, that the relationship isn't working. ur love is Worth Something. u are Worth Something. u are committed, loving, affectionate, u adore him. find someone who does the same for you, and will do all he can to be that for you, and u will never think of leaving!
2006-08-14 16:40:36 · answer #3 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you bee together? everyone says those words at different times. you wouldn't want him to say them if he didn't fully mean them, right? Give him some time, if you two love eachother and expect to be together forever, a few months won't make a difference. Have you tried talking to him? Explain to him that you need the affection, even if he can't say the words he can show you.
2006-08-14 16:39:07 · answer #4 · answered by Gotquestions?? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's in like with you. Tell him you need to know if he's committed to this relationship. Don't let him say he's just not an emotional type.. that's a cop out. You deserve love from the man you give your life to.
2006-08-14 16:38:12 · answer #5 · answered by Spiked Coffee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be an underlying reason why he won't tell u he loves u. i think for u to be truely happy with him u need to know what this reason is. Good Luck!!
2006-08-14 16:40:10 · answer #6 · answered by Katie Anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some time. Also, you souldn't moved in with him if he hadn't said it yet. I think.
2006-08-14 16:39:20 · answer #7 · answered by tonya86_chipmunk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesnt wanna b a liar...he dnt love u....if he dnt say i love u then that sux 4 yoo...muahahahahahahahaha...
2006-08-17 17:32:19 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs.Evan Ross 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋