My son went to his grandma's for the week he didn't have a dummy to go to sleep with at his grandma's. then when he came back home he wouldn't go to sleep without one he nearly made himself sick until i gave him one. any advice how to get him to stop having a dummy at night. as he is 4 now. his baby brother has one but i don't treat either of them any differently. Any suggestions.
2006-08-14 09:25:26 · 29 answers · asked by jules 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
It sounds like your son has been spoilt at grandmas and has had one to one attention. Kids do this, they can go through phases where they regress, he has gone back to his dummy as he sees this as a way of gaining your undivided attention as he is now home and has to share you again. Believe me i speak from experience as my son used to do this regularly.
I would suggest calmly referring to him as a big boy/little man whetever you are comfortable with, try a bit reverse psychology, dont take the dummy off him but get him to see that to be a little man, he shouldn't have it for himself
Good luck i hope this helps
2006-08-14 09:43:15 · answer #1 · answered by kestral 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I am taking it that a dummy is a pacifier. My son called them binkies. Well I would try a few techniques. First: give him something else to cuddle with, he is using the pacifier as a comforting device. Buy a new stuffed animal and let him pick it out. But tell him this is only for big boys and big boys don't use dummies. If that doesn't work then try this trick: cut a small whole at the tip of the pacifier. That way there will not be any suction so it doesn't serve as a purpose anymore. That is what my son's pediatrician told me to do and it worked like a charm. Good luck!
2006-08-14 17:18:46 · answer #2 · answered by mommyK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Birthday soon? Leave the dummy for the birthday fairy / unicorn to collect when his presents arrive.
Or Christams, leave it on the tree for Father Christmas to collect.
Don't sweat it though - he'll lose it by the time he gets to school. My daughter has a really awful blanket like Linus from Peanuts and a dummy, but she soon came round once she started school.
Oh, and there's a great book, I think it's Tony Ross called "I want my dummy!" which is a good bedtime story too - it makes them think that dummies are a bit childish.
Good luck, and let him get on with it!
2006-08-14 16:37:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try "the dummy fairy" and talk to him about how the dummy fairy comes to take paci's from big kids and leave them a gift for becoming a big kid. Talk it up for a while and mark a date on the calendar that you expect her to arrive so he has time to digest the idea. Have a little basket or something where he can leave it for the "dummy fairy" before he goes to bed one night and then the next morning let him find some small prize there in exchange for it with a note saying how proud the fairy is of him for becoming a big boy.
2006-08-14 16:35:30 · answer #4 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the best time is christmas time,my daughter had a dummy at 4yrs old too,i told her that if she left her dummy in her stocking santa would take it,and give her more toys,i'm not saying it was an easy xmas eve as she had lost her comfort but the next day when she realised her stocking was full she wasnt really bothered about her dummy,that night she asked for it but i explained santa had taken it.at the end of the day its like a smoker not being allowed a cigarette or a person who loves a cup of tea not being allowed any,its his comfort an addiction,he'll come off it when he's ready,believe me i've got 4 kids its not easy telling a child they cant have something,its easier to give in :-)
2006-08-14 19:39:07 · answer #5 · answered by stokies 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get the toothfairy to come and take it away, and leave a present in its place. Explain that now he is four, he is to old for a dummy. Also try a sticker chart to reward him each morning he sleeps through without the dummy, reward him once he reaches 10 stickers.
2006-08-14 16:37:34 · answer #6 · answered by Little C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter loved her dummy and had to part with it because of her speech patterns. We weaned her off it that she only got it at night then kept praising her that she was a big girl now and only babies had dummies. She got picking "grown up" big girl pants/vests etc and in a short time, she decided she was a "big girl" who didnt need her dummy! Good luck.
2006-08-14 16:40:26 · answer #7 · answered by elbev 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask his grandma, not this bunch of child hating freaks. Judging by this site all children in the US are regularly beaten and tortured. That might explain GWB...
Note to America: a dummy is what you call a pacifier, maybe you should think why it's called that...
2006-08-14 16:37:28 · answer #8 · answered by flipper girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok when I was little I loved my pacifier to death!!!!!! I would not give it up for anything.........so one christmas when I was 3 or so my mom and dad asked me if I would like to give my pier to Santa since he brought me so many nice presents that I should leave him one. I gave it up without a second thought!!!
My son who is now 4 also loved his pacifier. When he was about 2 or so I tried the santa thing.......didn't work. So I would take it out of his mouth and tell him what a big boy he was that he looked so much bigger without it. He liked that and felt proud. It was a little bit of a process but within a week and a half he no longer needed his pacifier anymore....
It is scary for a little one when you take their security item away but just stay positive and be paitent and they will eventually warm up to the idea. Best of luck!!
2006-08-14 20:11:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your 4 year old son dosent bother about having a dummy when his brothe isnt around. but because he sees you giving your younger son a dummy he thinks he can have one to. just give him time and he will soon grow out of this.
2006-08-14 17:11:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋