how can i stop my 2 year old hitting me?

Question

dont know why she is doing this,i do tell her NO but she keeps doing it

Answer 1

You can't hit her back like several people have suggested so far in the answers. You can be reported for child abuse, regardless of how hard. You don't need them crawling up your bum for something minor.

Time out will work. You will have to have the patience to follow through. Take her to a chair, stool or spot near a wall. Tell her she's in time out for hitting you, that hitting is wrong & hurts, using a firm voice but do not yell. If she tries to walk away, put her back into the spot. If she has a tantrum, let her. Then start timeout over. Use a kitchen timer to keep track of the 2 minutes. If she cuts up or has the tantrum, make it ding then start it over, making sure she's watching you do so. This might go on for 20 minutes or longer. It'll become effective once she realizes you're serious about the timeout.

She's found a way to get your attention & make you mad. Ignoring it won't work too long & will reinforce the fact that if she hits, you'll do nothing. Then, it'll be more hitting, onto biting or worse. She'll soon realize that she can do whatever she wants & you'll ignore her or walk away.

I've done the timeout startover with my son. He's 9 & still has to start over sometimes. Any length of a timeout is an eternity to a child of any age. When I was a nanny, this method worked too. I spent almost an hour with a 2 year old who had numerous tantrums, peed her pants, had a BM, screamed, shouted, cried, stomped her feet, headbutted the wall & finally held her breath. Finally at almost the hour mark, the 2 minutes were complete. Why that long? 2 clothing changes due to the peeing & BM, the tantrums & other stuff. I went through this with her for almost 3 weeks solid before she got the message. Some kids learn faster than others.

Answer 2

my daughter is not quit 2 yet went through that faze, she thought it was a game, i use to tell her no also, but that never worked, use to pretend to cry she just hit all the more, the more notice i took of her hitting me or others around her the more she would just do it, i got fed up with being hit by such a little sweety, so i use to just say stop it, if she never listened tell her its not nice only naughty girls do that, then ignore her hitting me,if she carried on i would just go into an other room, it soon wore off when she realised she wasn't getting attention for it, as for hitting her back NO way. all those who suggested it must be bit sick to hit some one so small, they are still learning rights and wrongs not easy to tell some one so young what right and wrong is it takes time. if you hit them for any reason some where along the line they will think it is right to hit out. best of luck

Answer 3

you will absolutely NOT hit her back!
sit her firmly on her lap facing you - do not allow her to squirm - hold her firmly in a "hug" if you have to. - look her in the eye and address her firmly but gently.
say her name and continue with you may NOT hit people. Hitting anyone is not ok. you need to learn not to hit me and to treat me with respect. And because you are not behaving in an appropriate manner, you must sit on this chair (have a little chair ready in a corner, or used your steps) for 2 minutes. If you move from this chair, you will have to sit for another minute. When you are ready to behave like the nice little girl I know that you are, you may come off of the chair (or steps) and come and talk to me.
when she is ready to come off of the chair, she must come and talk to you - you say "thank you _____, are you ready to show me what a nice little girl you are now?" and she should say yes - then ask her if she is sorry for what she has done. She needs to reply yes to this question, and you need to say " thank you and I forgive you" then give her a hug and tell her you love her so much and carry on

if she repeats her action at any time after with either you or anyone else (even a stuffed toy) go through the entire process again.
do not lose hope and do not give up
repeat the same exact process every time.
IMPORTANT NOTE : do not reward her in any way as in letting her have a doll, or toy while on the chair, or giving her a treat afterward. you need to treat this action with absolute firmness so that she will relate to it as a negative experience and not want to repeat it. The goal is to have her remember that her action was wrong and you are in charge.
SUGGESTION: although you are not rewarding her immediately after the incident - you can certainly give her a treat at a later time by suggesting - "_______ can you help me tidy up your toys and then we can have a treat"
ALSO: don't assume because she is 2 that she won't understand this language - trust me she will - use a firm soft voice and not with angry eyes. disappointment on your face (a little bit of it) will work better
trust me.

Answer 4

Well, you are bigger and stronger so physically stop her by taking her arm and holding it so that she can't do it. If she wont mind you, give her a time out on the stairs or in a chair for a couple of minutes.
Don't you ever watch Super Nanny or Nanny 911? There are lots of techniques you can learn with regard to dealing with your children on those shows.
I also wonder why she is so frustrated that she is doing this. Has she seen other family member disrespect you? That all has to be stopped and you have to get some control.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Hey im only 17 with no kids of my own burt i do have 6mnths of experience in a day nursery and have learnt alot. The technique we were tuaght to use, is ignoring bad behaviour and if that doesn't work then the time out method works a treat . Remeber that your child should get a warning then if the bad behaviour continues they go into a time out area for 1minute per every year of their life which in your case would be 2 mins. but you gotta stick to it no matter how hard it gets. Really hope u get it sorted and remember all kids can be a handfull behind their cute little faces and also make sure you get time to yourself to have a cuppa and a treat! sounds like you need it.

Answer 6

try explaining hitting isn't an astonishing component to do. and also you ought to commence pertaining to outing because the naughty chair. maximum youthful children target to thrill. you ought to target doing away with toys. Everytime he hits you're taking a fave toy and then he has to earn back his toys with the aid of doing good things. We do the marble technique. each and every newborn has a jar and at the same time as they are good they get a marble and at the same time as they do some thing undesirable we eliminate a marble and then at the same time as the jar is done they get to purchase a sparkling toy. they are particularly dissatisfied at the same time as they lose marbles they labored to earn. 2 twelve months olds are particularly complicated to self-discipline. purely be particular you commonly win the conflict, do not ever supply in because if he wins on an same time once he's conscious of he can do it back. be particular there is consistency so he's conscious of what to anticipate at the same time as he hits. If he loses a toy everytime he hits than I wager ya he will end actual speedy. good success!

Answer 7

Why you wanna her to stop? Does it hurt? My two-year-old brother does that all the time, and I never mind it. I think there is a certain lack of affection between you and her. Indeed, this is what I discovered a while ago. To make my little brother stop, I have been more close to him lately. I take him in my arms, kiss him, lull him to sleep, bring him whatever he needs. And wow, he stopped hitting me. I think it is all about love and affection. Are you a working person? I guess she needs you. Give her love.

Answer 8

Have u tried the naughty corner out yet? u just sit the child down somewhere out of the way but with nothing to play with for 2mins (depending on age of child 1for each year they r alive) and try rewarding the good things. i have a 3year old so i have been thro this myself.

Answer 9

Watch supernanny. Devise a naughty corner and make him/her sit there for two minutes when he/she mis-behaves and then apologise. The hitting is for attention so distract your child with stuff you can do together like finger painting and building blocks. Best of luck !! Mine are now 28/29 years old

Answer 10

C'mon, this is a 2 year old were talking about. Hit her back. I'm not saying turn her black and blue, but a good spanking in the booty will do, then put her on time out, or take away her favorite toy or something. Remember, YOUR the adult, not her.