I have a very large group of friends, some married with kids, some single. We all get together at least weekly for bowling and a night out (at the least). In the past two months of my pregnancy I feel l ike I have been entirely forgotten. I am on bed rest, only two people have come to visit me, and only one or two others have even called. They did throw me a very nice baby shower, but that is the last time I have seen anyone.....( which was almost 3 weeks ago).
I feel like I have been cut off from the world!!! How do you get in the swing of things without being a leech?
2006-08-14 09:14:01 · 9 answers · asked by slowjenn7 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
i remember this feeling! god i was so lonely. besides the other reasons given such as hormones, and people just seeming to stop calling. It sounds like you are a stay at home. there's not much you can do. learn to find entertain yourself. Start watching a new television series. Join a pregnancy support group, make new friends that are pregnant just like you. Go the movies with these new friends, or even by yourself. Call people every other day. those that do not call within a few days or so, leave them alone. they aren't worth your stress. go get a pedicure. Stand in the middle of your house and listen the the silence. (it may be a very long time before you hear that again).
you could try this guilt trip (you didn't say if this was your first pregnancy). offer to babysit a friend's kids. say it's for the practice. this way when you need a night off, you don't feel bad for asking them for help. that's if you are up to it. try one of the older kids. they usually are so helpful.
2006-08-14 09:41:22 · answer #1 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember those days. I got put on bed rest at 31 weeks due to preterm labor. Let your friends know how you feel, often times people just do not know what exactly you need. Making contact with people does not mean that you are a leach, and your mommy friends should understand this. Get your gal pals together and plan a "movie night" you guys can just hang out, watch some movies, and maybe everyone can bring something to eat. Your friends aren't going to know how you feel unless you tell them.
This faze of your life will not last forever, once you have the baby you will be able to go out and do things again, but for right now just clue your friends in to your feelings and then find things that you can still do together.
Congrats on your pregnancy, hang in there it will get better
2006-08-14 17:52:05 · answer #2 · answered by kimberly b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are on bedrest, it must mean you are tired and can not go out. Why don't you call your friends if you miss them? You can connect with them over the phone, too. You can tell them to visit.
You need alot of rest, anyway! Don't stress yourself out during pregnancy.
Pretty soon, you'll forget about this problem entirely once you have a beautiful, healthy baby in your life. Also, once you have your baby, you can begin living your life to its fullest again. You can ask your husband or boyfriend to take care of the child, or leave the child with your parents while you go out and do yourself a favor by relaxing with friends, etc.
Good luck!
2006-08-14 16:21:38 · answer #3 · answered by Stella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same way when I was pregnant. My baby is now 3 months and hey here are all my friends again. I told them how I felt after having her. I mean I dont know what it is with ppl when they have a pregnant friend its like they feel we are not a person but now a foreign object. My friends used to say they didnt want to drink in front of me so they didnt call me. I just found new people to talk to. I even got closer to my sister she was always there for me.
Good luck.
2006-08-14 16:22:27 · answer #4 · answered by rainymar143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey at least two people came to visit you!
I've had 3 kids and the only people who can to see me after i deliverd were my husband and my mom!!!
I have no life other than my husband and kids now. I am a stay home mom because i cant work. So i dont even get to have "work buddys" that i actually cant stand. and no one ever comes to visit me other than my mom. not even my inlaws or my sister!!
talk about forgoten!!
2006-08-14 16:22:35 · answer #5 · answered by naightengale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While pregnant you can't. Hormones rage during that time. I am sure your freinds, especially the women who have children, all know what is going on and are giving you space they think you need.
2006-08-14 16:33:17 · answer #6 · answered by mikeae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,
I think it is your hormones talking. It seems like you are sensitive about everything! Instead of them making the effort, how about you reaching out to them?
Take care!
2006-08-14 16:20:35 · answer #7 · answered by mx3baby 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell them how you feel and they shouldn't feel left out
2006-08-15 08:35:14 · answer #8 · answered by www.dominiquehoopz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we're here talk to us
2006-08-14 16:29:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋