I am 26 years old and I am dating a fine African man who has been here for 3 years. I have trying to find someone just like him but only American for as long as I could remember but American men never really treated me well. He treats me like a Queen. I am scared because I feel like I am not good enough for American Men. What advise do you have for a girl like me. (I don' t want to seem desperate because his still a man to me.)
2006-08-14 09:11:49 · 23 answers · asked by lovely 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have no idea what your question is...
2006-08-14 09:15:51 · answer #1 · answered by doc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem here is not american men, or any men. the problem is that u do not see ureself as worthy! whY?? and if so, work on THAT instead of falling back on someone u obviously dont' respect that much.. =T that is not fair to this man who treats u like a queen.
work on ur confidence. work on urself, ur appearance, ur mind, ur ability maintain and grow relationships w/ friends, family and even strangers. once u feel good about urself, u will realize that u are Worth something. and u are Worth a Good man, regardless of race or ethnicity. make sure You are a Good Woman, and u will be worth a Good Man. because u lack confidence in urself, u are attracting people that don't meet up to ur expectations. but if YOU meet ur own expectations, how could u take any less than what u deserve? continue to be better, a stronger, confident, Wonderful, Happy, Positive woman, and u will be able to filter out who is negative, or bad, or just not good enough for you, and u can keep the Good, Positive, Happy, Confident, Strong Man in ur life. u may see that the one u have is a great person too. doesn't mean he's right for you though.. u need to find someone u truly respect, admire, and trust. until then, keep working on urself, and be happy with urself.
2006-08-14 16:22:31 · answer #2 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
American, African, a man is a man. Don't let his nationality intimidate you. A man's may have different cultural beliefs or differences depending on where he is from but, people are people for the most part. There are a lot of American guys that would be just as good to you. But, why leave the African guy if he is treating you so well? Don't lose your faith in good American guys, they are out there. Good luck.
2006-08-14 16:25:38 · answer #3 · answered by Peace2All 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl the race or the color does not make the man. It's d affection, love, warmth, care and tenderness that he shows you that makes HIM that man of your Dreams. All the above qualities is what u were searching for and that African Man has proved to you he possessed those qualities and you have found in him your true companion. Well American men don't c u 4 what u r inside only 4 ur physical attraction and they only want one thing honey and that is body. If i were u i'd stick to the African man because the one who loves u cherishes u and the one u love rejects u because when u love the american men they become unattracted to u.
2006-08-14 16:19:54 · answer #4 · answered by Italian Empress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a lot you don't state about your hesitancy about this African man. Apparently he treats you well, but you seem to be holding out for an American man, but you don't explain why.
But I think the real question you have is, "Why am I not good enough for.....?"
The advice I have for you is that you're basing your fundamental premise of your worth on the wrong criteria. You're weighing your personal value based on how a member of the opposite sex treats you.
I understand why, since you're a 26 year old American single woman - everything around you in this culture constantly tells you that your primary value is to be found on the arm of a wealthy, sexy, handsome man.
But the truth of the matter is that the culture around us is wrong - your value is based upon your own character, integrity and strength. God has made you, and that is the only real value you need.
The real truth of the matter is you've probably been attracted to the wrong kinds of guys, for the wrong reasons, and that the natural consequences of those kinds of relationships have taken their toll on you.
Good luck, best to you.
2006-08-14 16:20:17 · answer #5 · answered by Timothy W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares if you're good enough for American men if you found a great African one?
Most american men are just jerks ha, don't worry about it. Probably just bad bad luck, american men really arn't the cream of the crop - promise
2006-08-14 16:16:35 · answer #6 · answered by attila 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why do you want to find an american man if you're already dating a great guy who treats you like a queen...?
2006-08-14 16:15:47 · answer #7 · answered by orange juice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, men are men. African or American.
2006-08-14 16:20:11 · answer #8 · answered by Spiked Coffee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you want from a american men? whats with them ha??
2006-08-14 16:21:46 · answer #9 · answered by lolipop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it should not matter whether he is american black white or hispanic. all that matters is how they treat u. whether or not u 2 have the same out look in life, & the same goals. u can take it slow allow him to know that u want to take it slow so u will know whether or not this is for u. look beyound where they are from and look inside if their hearts and try to feel their souls
2006-08-14 16:20:34 · answer #10 · answered by 1plum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
certain men can be jerks, but trust me, there are alot of good men out there. my advice to you is to not be so quick to look for a man. if you are patient then the right man will appeal to you. see, when you are looking for the right man, you tend to only see what traits you want to see, not paying attention to the bad aspects of a person. if you are patient and real to yourself then you will eventually have the right man for you right at your feet
2006-08-14 16:18:48 · answer #11 · answered by Knuckles06 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋