I am really worried about my boyfriend?

Question

Hi. To paint you a picture I am 21 (Female) and have been living with my boyfriend, who is also 21, (Who I ador) in York for the past year. He owns and operates several businesses with his father. We have quite a big family and lots of friends. We have plently of money and live very comfortably.

Recently he he become really withdrawn from everyhing really. He seems to be under so much stress. He is not really eating properly and have lost quite a lot of weight. I wouldnt say he neglects me but we have drifted apart. I understand that he has a lot of work to do but he seems to be living meetings and client interviews. I am really worried he is going to do himself some serious damage. I have spoken to him about this time and time again but he justs gets annoyed. He is really ambitious and not much satisfies him so he is constantly working, even at home. I am really worried

Answer 1

Ask him if they are having problems with any of the businesses. Let him know that being financially secure is a good goal, and you understand how important that is to him as well. But that you'd much rather have time with him thatn all the luxuries in the world.
If you don't get anywhere with the boyfriend, consider talking to the father -- same dialogue as above.

Answer 2

Help him out with his work. You need to decide how you want to live together. If your just making ends meet maybe its time to sit down and say we'll cut back here so money isn't so stressfull for him. He hopefully is just trying to give you the best by working so hard. Let him know what things you could go without to get him to be healthier and closer to you.

Answer 3

You have a right to be really worried. He is literally killing himself with work.

I was a workaholic when I was younger. I worked long hours and saturdays and sundays. I brought work home. I did everything I could to ake a name for myself and thought I was providing for my wife being this way.

Until one day when I got home from work and found my wife in the kitchen with her bags packed and our newborn sun in her arms.

"If you continue to work yourself like this, I and are son refuse to stick around to see you die at the age of 25."

Talk about a wake up call.

Answer 4

It sounds like he's depressed or doing drugs and as for the weight lost I hope you guys have been monogamous or using condoms. All you can do is live for you, you're young and rich so maybe you should consider dating someone else.

Answer 5

I think he's become consumed with his work (business). .

You maybe need to evaluate if this is who you want to be with for the rest of your life.

Have you talked to him about this situation?

That's probably a good first step.

If you can't find the words, then just print out the question you just posted and hand it to him.

Answer 6

it sounds like he iether is getting depressed, OR is just under alot of stress.this may contirbute to the depressedness. ot he is having a rare case of male PMS.... just kidding.
can you talk to other members in the family about it? oyu may be able to work somthing out when more people know you are concerned!
good luck!

Answer 7

Tell him that you love him very much, but that for his own good you will have to leave him if he doesn't accept proffessional help soon. He is either depressed or a workaholic or both. Either one needs attention. Get him help if you can.

Answer 8

you should probably just wake up really early one morning and cook him breakfast in bed and eat it together in bed...then talk about how you can help him get all of his stress under control...if he still gets mad and irritated and doesn't appreciate your attempt to help him then he's not worth it...

Answer 9

Tell him to get blazed a few times and watch craigslist

Answer 10

All you can do is keep trying to get him to talk to you...