Just bought an expensive gift to my boyfriend for his birthday, thought it was something he'd like. Now he happened to see it in advance and seemed dissapointed.
Should I buy him something else too, even though my finances are limited or just wait and see will he eventually like his gift or not, and take the risk he don't like it?
2006-08-14 09:05:36 · 27 answers · asked by Sini H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just to say, no, I'm not trying to buy his love. I know he loves me.
But it's his birthday and I'd really want to see him happy. He probably does not know the gift was pricey.. But is it really the though that counts, are guys hard to impress or is it true that they are glad you at least got them something?
2006-08-14 09:13:12 · update #1
It was an antique item he said he liked when we were in the shop but I don't think he saw the price, he probably does not know it wasn't cheap, it's not a very obviously expensive piece of antiques..
He happened to see it when he was at my place and guessed it was for him.. Maybe i'm just over reacting, I wanted him to like it and tell him I love him.. Maybe I'm just analyzing his reactions a bit too much..
2006-08-14 09:22:07 · update #2
Does he know it's for him? And does he know YOU know he saw it? It's tough to say if he don't like it, or if he's uncomfortable having that much spent on him. Depending, his reaction might have been guilt at having seen the gift early. If you're pretty sure he don't like it, and there's plausible pretense, you could play the "changed my mind" role, return it and get him someting else. If the "gig's up" it'll make more of an uncomfortable scene to acknowledge you know he did'nt like the gift. In that case, let him feign delight and save face. He MIGHT come to like it, but even if he don't, it'll become important to him as a reminder that you cared enough to spend alot of $ on him. It IS after all, the thought that counts. Remember, it may be that he loves it and just feels guilt over the cost. If so, a "Knock it off Buster! I'd spend more to see you enjoyin something, so it's a bargain deal in my mind" attitude would be the way to go.
2006-08-14 09:37:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't buy something else in addition. If you do then you are setting a pattern that you might not want to live up to in the future. If he loves you then he will appreciate what ever you got him. The key is that you took time to try and find something for him you thought he would like. If he gets all sad and disappointed about what you got him then that should give you an indication of what a long term relationship holds in store for you on a regular basis.
2006-08-14 09:10:40 · answer #2 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely don't buy seomthing else with it. He loves that it's from you...it's not about the gift. Maybe next time you can ask him to go shopping with you, and make the suprise a dinner or tickets to his favorite band (safer bet when trying to find somone something for a suprise). Not everyone is made of $$$, neither am I. Don't spread yourself thin to ttry and impress him, cause you won't always be able to do that and won't be happy if that is the only way to please him.
Good Luck!
2006-08-14 09:12:18 · answer #3 · answered by apshawnhunt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him about it.
If he does not like it, take it back and then get him something else. (Maybe ask him about it this time or give him a gift certificate...)
If he does like it, don't worry about it.
It sounds cheesy but it's true - it's the thought that counts.
2006-08-14 09:10:59 · answer #4 · answered by snape4good 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're with a good guy then he will enjoy any gift you give him as a thoughtful gesture. But, if you already know that he doesn't like it and you havn't given it to him then you can always return it and get something else.
2006-08-14 09:13:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't like it, return it. Depending on how long you've been with this guy, expensive may be a bit too "desperate" of you. Besides, he may not want you to spend that much on him, if he is not planning on spending that much on you!
He might really enjoy tix to a sporting event or concert better.
2006-08-14 09:10:25 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Saffire♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him directly. If he really doesn't like it take it back. Are you at that level of honesty with him yet? Don't buy him something else. It's not the money you spend that matters...although when you're young sometimes that's all you guys see
2006-08-14 09:10:23 · answer #7 · answered by chica123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give more information what excatally did you buy him.
You should really take him places and see what kinds of things he likes before you buy him anything.
I wouldnt buy him anything else if he dont think he will like what you bought return it and get him something else.
2006-08-14 09:10:35 · answer #8 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him. Tell him that he saw it and you would like to return it and get something else if he's not thrilled with it, it wont hurt your feelings. Then he can get something that he likes and you can take it back and save some cash if he dislikes it :):)
2006-08-14 09:10:18 · answer #9 · answered by attila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't need to buy him ANOTHER gift.. you already bought him one that was pretty expensive..
if you don't think he'll like it, then offer to exchange it and get him something else, or let him exchange it himself..
isn't it the thought that counts
2006-08-14 09:10:16 · answer #10 · answered by orange juice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋