What is you opinion on this topic?? there seems to be so much pressure on young ppl these days to loose their virginity that it seems nobody waits until an appropiate age.
2006-08-14 09:04:52 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I personally think that sex before marriage is OK but i do believe in waiting until u are mature and ready to loose ur virginity.
2006-08-14 09:22:28 · update #1
Ok sex b4 marriage aint dat bad but havin it under 18 or evn 21 is wrong when you dont do it wit some1 u think u will spend most of yo life with. As a tenn why have sex???....as an adult if only he's right!!...Do what makes you happy!
2006-08-14 09:08:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
To much emphasis is put on the importance of sex in a relationship. Sex will not keep a marriage or any other relationship from falling apart. A long lasting marriage is based on many things more important and durable than sex. I don't care how good the sex is in the beginning, it will become less and less important as time goes by, no exceptions. You should learn about what pleases each of you together, not from the experiences you shared with someone else. It's no coincidence that the rise in the divorce rate mirrors the rise in acceptable premarital sex.Take control of your life and your person, do what is right for the long term, not what someone else thinks is good for now.
2006-08-14 16:20:08 · answer #2 · answered by hikerboy3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately - society today has perpetuated the myth that having sex is a function (usually selfish) and therefore has nothing to do with emotional attachment or a spiritual connection of any kind.
however - all anyone has to do is ask any person who has had sex before marriage, and you will find disillusionment, disappointment, sorrow, emptiness, fear, etc. All you have to do is read the questions on this board or in any magazine or advice column or listen to your friends lament about their failed relationships or their regrets for giving in.
In reality sexual union between a man and a woman is so powerfully spiritually connected (and the proof is in the statistics people) , that it follows that sex without commitment (specifically and exclusively marriage) is detrimental to your health both mentally and physically - and until society realizes that fact - heaven help us all.
2006-08-14 16:22:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
And what's an appropriate age? Everyone is different. I agree that there is too much pressure though. I think that sex before marriage is fine, but I think that all sex should be in caring long term monogamous relationships - which MOST teens do not have.
I think that it's great with someone waits, but I've also seen people rush into marriage so that they can have sex...
2006-08-14 16:09:04 · answer #4 · answered by attila 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am amazed at how often this topic comes up. Age really doesn't have much to do with it (assuming you're over the age of consent). I feel that the world would be a better place if everybody just waited until their wedding night. I know that makes me a tiny tiny minority but that's my opinion and I'm sticking to it.
2006-08-14 16:10:11 · answer #5 · answered by Cybeq 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it happens. And I think that denying it happens, or trying to stop it from happening, leads to very bad things, like rape, unwanted pregnancy, and an increase in STD transmission.
I do agree, though, that it would be great if there was less pressure. But keep in mind 2 things: it's the fault of all of us that there is pressure, because we by the products that are supported by the music, ads, movies, etc. that are pushing sex. And, historically, people would be married by 13-15, so that would have been considered an "appropriate" age. In other words, don't forget that all ideas like "appropriate" are socially constructed and linked a specific set of historical contingencies.
2006-08-14 16:14:36 · answer #6 · answered by Qwyrx 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's not exactly the matter of age, it's whether or not you're married. Sex before marriage is a sin according to the bible. Some may say, "Yeah, whatever," but it's true. And bad choices have consequences.
2006-08-14 16:16:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Waiting until marriage does still happen. It just takes so much worry out of your life if you don't - no worries about pregnancy - no worry about STD's - no worry about facing a guy you had sex with and later broke up with.
It will also tell you a lot about the guy you're dating when you tell him "no" - and that it will remain "no". You'll know if he's interested in you or in another sexual conquest.
Hold fast, and good luck.
2006-08-14 16:18:03 · answer #8 · answered by kids and cats 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It may be a selfish point but this is what I believe....
Every part of a relationship should grow at the same time. If you get to the point where you are so comfortable with one person then you have sex and its horrible, to the point where it splits you two then what was the point.
And don't think two people that are incompatible sexually stay together for conversation.
2006-08-14 16:15:15 · answer #9 · answered by what it do 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, it will probably depend on whether you approach the issue from a religious perspective or from a purely secular perspective. Most religions would frown upon premarital sex, so in that sense, the issue not whether it is right or wrong, but whether one will follow their religion's precepts or not. From a purely secular perspective though, I still don't think it is right, in the sense that it cheapens something precious that husbands and wifes share. Of course I could just be biased because of my religious beliefs...
2006-08-14 16:12:18 · answer #10 · answered by Ronsard 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋