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Question

as the first time you had sex (as teens) did it make lots of pain your first time??? i tried to had sex with my boyfriend, never had defloured someone before, it was kind of hard and i have no clue what to do, he was like nice and understanding, but his stick could not enter the "hole " completly, he told me it could be that i am nervous and this is why it doesnot work, we tried it like twice, but i donot know, should he use force and try to push hard the first time? what to do to reduce pain, and please give me good solutions,

Answer 1

lube it up, and yes it hurts the first time

Answer 2

It didn't hurt me at all the first time at 16. I had been fingered a lot by my boyfriend before. It wasn't because you were nervous, it was because he's either huge or you're tight as hell. Fingering would reduce the tightness a little. Lubrication would definitely help. Use spit if there's nothing else, but you really may just want to go out and buy a small bottle of water-based lube. Don't have him be forceful, gentleness is always the best when you're losing your virginity. Good luck! And have fun with it.

Answer 3

Be care full, you are a teen and first you have to make sure one of you use protection. It will hurt if you just want to have sex and be one of the rest. When you give it up, make sure it's the right guy and don't let him push you to it. Or course he was nice and understanding, he was going for a virgin. Forget about reducing the pain, just think if this guy is the one who should earn the "privilege",
I don't think so, be care full and good luck

Answer 4

i didn't have very much pain my first time but i know of some that had a lot. sorry but i don't know of any ways to reduce the pain except trying differant positions. keep trying eventually your hymen will break. if u get impatient then go ahead and have him push harder, but be ready its gonna hurt like hell. if he isn't completly hard then he will have trouble gettin in. be safe

Answer 5

I had the same problem the first time. First off you do need to be relaxed. Second have him finger you ALOT, when he can feel you getting a little looser he should know and you can try then. Also a lot of lubrication the first time.

BE SAFE

Answer 6

Don't worry about it so much. If you don't relax, it will continue to hurt. When you are truely in the moment and not trying to force anything then it will fine. It won't hurt that bad and only for a couple minutes.

Answer 7

sorry but it does hurt the first time and maybe the second time, make sure it is properly lubricated and you are relaxed, then go for it, he is going to have to push to brea through the barrier (hymen) and most importantly make sure it is going in the right hole

Answer 8

well does he preheat the oven before you guys try to stick it in?...you have to have 4 play first before you try and have sex with a virgin because it is a tight hole and when you preheat the ove it losens it up so he is able to slide right in

Answer 9

yes it hurts. you just need to relax. just breath. ask him to be gentle dont use force. you may bleed a little. please make sure you are safe and that you really want ot be with him. just try and relax and maybe use some lube. just dont forget to breath. good luck

Answer 10

By the way you ask this question i am going to assume your very young and you should not be having sex ...you can barely spell and put sentences together ....wait until you are older to be "deflowered" good luck in life i hope you wait...