If you divorce, you married someone that you didn't truly know. Obviously, because one of you did something serious that the other didn't like. Either that, or one of you was not completely satisfied with the other.
You really should not marry someone that you don't know without a shadow of a doubt is the one. The only way to know that is through honesty, and years of "courtin'". Now, the Bible looks down on casual dating (according to withered old Bible Coots (I don't recall ever seeing the Bible condemn casual, non sexual relationships between singles)), but without it, you have no idea who you're marrying. Arranged marriages are the philosophy if an iron-fist government that delights in finding new ways to subgugate it's will on the masses. But, I must admit if the parents know eachother well, and they each know their children well, they'd be making your job a little easier.
We owe it to ourselves and our kids to take the time to get to know the people we intend to marry.
2006-08-14 08:54:32 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
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2006-08-14 08:54:46 · update #1
Only fanatically conservative Christians discourage casual dating.
2006-08-14 09:02:24 · answer #1 · answered by berry_chuckle 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The major reason why a person should want to get married is so that they have children of their own to raise and educate into a better human being in society. Sex for pleasure is not to be considered in a marriage. So when a person is married he should stay married to that other person. Love between to persons is cultivated and worked at. Therefore, casual dating is really not necessary. If a persons only worry that they is good sex with his partner, then he is totally selfish and uncaring. Sex being the motivation is no reason to get married.
2006-08-14 09:16:59 · answer #2 · answered by SK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun?
I'm Catholic - Christian. There are lots of single events for us Catholics. We are taught to date and to get to know someone before we get married. We have group trips to the mountains, concerts, bars, movies, putt-putt golfing. Yeah, very casual dating. It's not like someone says, "Here you will marry him and like it" ... choice is a big thing in Catholicism.
In fact, at my parish, the Priest requests that after the engagement that there is 1 year before the wedding. During the engagement, couples go through couple therapy. It's modern stuff like teaching the couples to manage money, time, and how to compromise. Additionally, they are taught about child planing and how to control their number of children without Birth control (rhythm method).
2006-08-14 09:06:57 · answer #3 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although parts of what you say makes sense. I would like for you to think about this. If we as a culture make it harder for people to get divorced, then would people take more thought about getting married before hand? Think of it, people do not work at their marriages as much anymore. All they have to say is that they are different and it will not work out. If they had to have a good reason like adultery to get a divorce then wouldn't people think about marriage as a more sacred union and work at their marriages a little more?
2006-08-14 09:01:43 · answer #4 · answered by cwenui 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are getting more sheeplike everyday, opting for the government and religion to make many choices for them.
I don't know the reason why...maybe they're scared of taking responsibility for their own lives.
2006-08-14 09:01:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋