my girlfriend had a picture of her and her ex-boyfriend on her dresser faced upright. she told me she went out with him ten years ago. i asked her why do she still have his picture of him on her dresser with her. she told me that she didn't put it in the album book. and i responded" ten years and you still have that picture on your dresser draw". she didn't have anything to say. before i saw the picture she was always asking me to come in her room,like she was desperate for me to go in her room. i never go in her room. i usually stay in the living room.if i sleep over i sleep on the pullout sofa bed with her. we have been together for about six months and she say's she loves me she also show's it. she get's mad when i talk about my exgirlfriend or other girl's. and i even brought it to her attention that when i have mention at times about my exgirlfriend and other girls i dealt with she had that picture all the time on her dresser of her exboyfriend. and again she didn't say a word.hlp
2006-08-14 08:38:52 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she is just trying to make you jealous
2006-08-14 08:42:14 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that if her ex-boyfriend is still a friend, then she should put the picture in and album with all her other friends. If she doesn't do that, then you can also buy a frame and put a picture with the two of you in it and replace it with that picture. If she sees the new picture she will hopefully be happy. Put the old picture somewhere, If she asks where it is, ask her why. Maybe something happened in that old relationship, let her talk to you and maybe you will learn something new that would explain to you why she's holding on to it. Just tell her how you feel like you tell us...if she loves you she will listen to you and respect your feelings and do something about it. If she's angry, then GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-08-14 15:52:44 · answer #2 · answered by Moonfairy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ladies man, I think it's a bit offensive and disrespectful to the other person when you discuss your past relationships with your future one, unless they asked you. Past relations should stay in the past. I also feel that her picture on her dressser is inappropriate as well. You guys should talk about how those issues make you feel and how to resolve them. Don't let the pass ruin what could be a great relationship. Judge and treat that person based on your relationship and remember one key element- you got the girl and she's got the guy!!! Good Luck!!!!
2006-08-14 15:49:34 · answer #3 · answered by Yahoo Anwers 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For her, it is a picture of a friend, not an ex-boyfriend and may mean nothing behind it. She says nothing because whatever she tells you, you may not believe. Every breakup doesn't end in hate, especially when the people were really been good FRIENDS and remained so. But if it bothers you, you can try to make her see how it makes you feel.
2006-08-14 15:46:00 · answer #4 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's okay for her to have a pic....most girlfriends and boyfriend were best friends, so even while the relationship hadn't worked out, they still could be friends. It is not nice to bring up these topics to your defense especially when she is insecure about you discussing your ex-s...because it can hurt. Respect her feelings and try to be nice to her. she obviously cares about you but is a bit hurt from her past, which you may need to talk about.
2006-08-14 15:52:22 · answer #5 · answered by cradle2resurrection 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her how much does that picture mean to her, and is it worth
that since you are her man now, you have to discuss or fuss about it. It's not worth it if it was so long ago. So ask her nicely,
to please remove it cause it bothers you. If not, then you put a picture of your ex girlfriend on your dresser and ask her to come into your room.
2006-08-14 15:46:58 · answer #6 · answered by EVEI 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, may be you are not giving her the right thing.... I know a girl... who still loves her bf from 14 years ago.... she is trying her best to concentrate on the new one but her mind still goes back to the old one. This is because the 1st guy had something that the 2nd guy doesn't have.
2006-08-14 15:45:51 · answer #7 · answered by Galactic_Explorer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she finds comfort of the thought of a male in her room, such as a picture. Nothing personal as in "Oh I wish you were him" just like a watch dog. I have all my Red Sox stuffies at the top of my bed because they're male, and they make me feel more comfty to be alone all night. I wouldn't worry about it.
2006-08-14 15:43:47 · answer #8 · answered by roverriffer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, when two people are in a relationship, each person has a right to make rational requests of each other. as her boyfriend, you have a right to ask her to please put the picture away or for her to explain in more detail why she hasn't put it away. you, as her boyfriend, don't necessarily have a right to demand that she puts the picture away but you do have a right to simply ask that it be removed.
i think that it's kind of neat that you don't go into her room and respect her privacy, it's very sweet and it shows that you trust her.
good luck
2006-08-14 15:45:31 · answer #9 · answered by Lady D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alright man, I once had a g/f do the same kind of stuff to me, then she cheated on me. She is crazy, run for the hills, and tell her that you don't want to be with someone that will love you but try to controll you at the same time.
She is unstable, and you don't need that EVER.
2006-08-14 15:45:46 · answer #10 · answered by matt_tarwater 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to take the picture down. If she refuses then you need to leave her alone. She's not ready to put the past behind her.
2006-08-14 15:45:13 · answer #11 · answered by gemone523 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋