me and my bf have been dating for 8 months and about 2 weeks ago he said that hes not sure if he loves me! he thinks that he does and he says that he cares about me alot but he wont tell me that he loves me anymore! but he says that he really wants us to work on it! now we have ben living 2gtr for the past 2 months! and all of his actions show that he loves me! like for ex we had this really bad storm and i was workin and he called my cell phone alot but i couldnt answer it b/c i was so busy (i am a waitress) so then he called my work phone 2 make sure that i was ok b/c i was supposed 2 b home already an i hadn called him 2 let him no that i had left yet! he said he was worried b/c i tottled my last car in the rain an i hate drivin in it! so he said that he would come pick me up an he would drop me back off in the mornin! he also bought a plane ticket to fly me down to Px for 2 days while he was doin work down there! all his idea! please tell me what you think is wrong with him! or me!
2006-08-14 08:37:41 · 4 answers · asked by I love him!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sometimes guys move faster then there brains, so once there brains catch up then they start to think wow am I really ready for this. that is what happened to me but we were never living together but we did date for almost a year and a half, now it's over, he just wasn't ready and the whole time he showed me that he was. ?
2006-08-14 08:48:08 · answer #1 · answered by kimber g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u are unsure that he loves u, that is it. it doesnt' matter what he says or does. u are not sure. and what are u looking for in a boyfriend?? don't u want someone who makes u So SURE u don't have to ask? i'm sure he cares for you, and he may even love you. but if he cannot fully commit, or do what it takes to ease your worries, then u are in for a rocky relationship. be careful...because if he is unsure, how will u ever be able to be sure? do not question him, do not try to figure it out..wait until HE figures it out, if u love him. but u have to remember, how long are u going to wait around until he's sure? i would suggest giving him some time to work things out, and not pressuring him. if u keep working on urself, in ur expectations for yourself as a girlfriend, u will be Sure that u are really Worthwhile. u will be a GREAT girlfriend....and if he is unsure, unsure... u will realize, what is he waiting for?? =T..... so, give him time to focus, and work on urself, but make sure u have expectations from a boyfriend, and find out if he MEETS them. then u will be able to filter out who is good enough for u, and who doesn't cut it. love is part of it, but he has to be Man enough to satisfy u, and keep u safe and secure and wanted and loved. if he can't do it, it doesn't mean he doesn't care, it means he's not willing or able to do what U need.
2006-08-14 08:49:28 · answer #2 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The idea of love is solid... it's set in stone. He's just not sure that he wants to be set in stone yet. There is so much to expeience in life, he may just want to think that "if I don't say it, and we break up I wont get hurt." Notice the IFs in there.
I'm sure he does love you, he just isn't ready to be committed to you, if you love him talk to him about it and what you two should do about it.
2006-08-14 08:50:08 · answer #3 · answered by matt_tarwater 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
calm down. some people need more time to figure out that they love someone. just give him some time.
hope this helped!
2006-08-14 08:48:00 · answer #4 · answered by wuteverittakes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋