When I came home my hubby was very upset, in fact we quarrelled about it for nearly two hours. Okay so I didn't tell him before what I was going to do, but I had only been blonde for 5 years or so and we've been together for 16 years. We're fine now, although he still doesn't like my do (I LOVE IT). Just thought I'd get your opinion.
2006-08-14 08:37:08 · 15 answers · asked by LAUGHING MAGPIE 6 in Beauty & Style ➔ Hair
solving this with a condition. Hubby and I are desperately in love with each other..... NO COMPLAINTS ITS ALL GOOD. We have the greatest love for each other, no doubt. Only thought I could prove something, this just reminded me how important it is not to be right just to be happy being together. STILL keepping the do for now. Really like it, just being a bit more open to his needs right now. And it feels soooo good
2006-08-14 17:56:06 · update #1
let me start by stating that i'm a guy, and a guy who usually likes long hair. but i must admit that it disturbs me when someone tries to control another person. it's YOUR hair for crying out loud. it's one thing to give an opinion that he doesn't like it as much, but it's quite another to get upset over it. you were 100% right in this situation and shame on him for at the very least respecting your PERSONAL taste and desire. i'm sure you look lovely.
this is an addition after reading some other peoples remarks. you don't HAVE TO tell him crap. you may chose to, but everyone else needs to grow up. really!!!!!!
2006-08-14 08:45:34 · answer #1 · answered by naveh4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow what would happen if you had a serious disfigurement? After 16 years I would think he would be a little less superficial and a little more concerned with what makes YOU happy and not HOW you look. Hey but that is just me....I came home with a wig....my husband didn't know it was a wig.....and it was GREY and VERY SHORT.....he always knew me with long dark reddish brown hair.....he was so turned on....change is good and spicy.
2006-08-14 08:54:01 · answer #2 · answered by PRISSY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men do not accept change very easily so you probably would have been better off if you had asked or got his opinion first. How would you feel if he went and did the same thing to you?? Shaved all his hair off? Made himself bald? It is just courtesy to include ytour mate. It does not mean you still could not go get it done just include him in the changes.
2006-08-14 08:51:25 · answer #3 · answered by curiosity 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's nice that you were brave enough to make a change. I'm glad you like it......but this is always one of those touchy subjects. And when I hear people say, "it's my head, I dont' need my spouse's approval."......I just think to myself, "yeah.......BUT.........if my spouse comes home one day with his head shaved and a tattoo, I'm not gonna be a happy camper."
I think that we have to spend our lives with the person we married, and we have to look at them every day. I think it's fair if they at least like how we look most of the time. I recently put blond highlights in my hair, I looked very different. I know my husband wasnt' too thrilled with how it looked, but he was very nice and said nothing (which told me he didn't care for it).
I changed it back. I want him to think I'm attractive, so to me it's worth it.
So yes, I think you should check with your partner before drastically changing your appearance. Looks do matter to some extent. Sad, but true.
2006-08-14 08:46:13 · answer #4 · answered by paintgirl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
While it's a good idea to run changes by your SO before making them, it is in fact, your hair and you're the one who has to manage it and care for it. Ultimately, while his oppinion should be worth considering, the decision is yours.
And I like short red hair :-)
2006-08-14 08:45:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a big change to make without telling him first. I personally would have told my husband what I was doing
2006-08-14 08:42:55 · answer #6 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, they don't like it if we don't ask about their opinions over big changes about ourselves. Like your hair, never cut your hair without as least talking with him first, never get a tattoo either. Honestly I wouldn't want my boyfriend go and get his hair completely changed without talking about it with me first. I'd be shocked even if it looked good. But since you like it so much, he should respect and get used to it. His fuss was because he felt you didn't care about what he thinks.
2006-08-14 08:45:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, honey as you saw he got over it. I hope that hairstyles or colors are not grounds for divorce, change for women are good, it shows individuality. Good luck.
2006-08-14 08:49:25 · answer #8 · answered by bigsexyhair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did he quarrel with you? It's your hair.. and you are entitled to change it when ever the urge strikes you!... tell him to grow up.
2006-08-14 08:43:06 · answer #9 · answered by Sorcha 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you like it then great, although you might want to run big changes by him in future.
2006-08-14 08:42:41 · answer #10 · answered by Shockey Monkey 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋