How long would you wait untill you make a decision to move in with the person you are dating, assuming you are in your early 20's?
2006-08-14 08:20:58 · 49 answers · asked by George 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well speaking from experience...My boyfriend moved in with me after dating for 6 months. Some people will tell you that you should wait until marriage, but I think that living with someone tells you a lot about the person. It gives you a heads up on whether you could be with this person forever, or if there quirks would drive you crazy. Like I said I waiting 6 months and we have now been living together for 4 years. It depends on if you are ready for that step in your relationship.
2006-08-14 08:27:19 · answer #1 · answered by blueyegurl0283 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Seriously dude? Do NOT move in together. I've made that mistake many times. Sure, you guys might get along great and love each other, but it's a huge pain in the *** to reverse if it doesn't work out. It's much better (and wiser) to let the relationship develop on its own and then once you get married (or decide to take the relationship to the next level), then move in.
Another thing to consider is that one of the houses (or apartments) belongs to the other person. For this reason, the one who's doing the moving in is basically invading that person's space. Better the two of you get a whole new place together so it's new and can be decorated and made to be yours...together.
2006-08-14 08:30:18 · answer #2 · answered by supermarine67 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Wait until you are sure that you want to be married to this individual. If you ever break up it would be a terrible thing to go through. You will have made yourself acustomed to your living arrangement, thus, making it impossible for either of you to move out and find another place to go. So you will be broken apart, yet living together. So she will start dating other guys and eventually you would find yourself in a situation where you came home from work and found some other dude layin the pipe to your ex and you can't do a doggone thing about it.
2006-08-14 08:30:02 · answer #3 · answered by Joe K 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I personally don't think I would until I was married. Just because, I think that is part of the fun of being married. Moving in together. But many people do that nowadays before getting married, and I guess I would say 6 months. I mean, you want to make sure that you really want to see this person all the time.
2006-08-14 08:24:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Early 20s...young, very young, but an age where you THINK you know what you are doing.
Do not shack up. Live separate lives until you are ready to make a valid commitment to each other ... meaning marry.
If you shack up, and in 6 or 8 months one of you realizes how stupid it was, well, the moving out is much harder than the moving in.
2006-08-14 08:27:43 · answer #5 · answered by carolewkelly 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I would say until you know each other very well...like a year and a half to two years... Just remember it's a big step, even though you might not think so. It's basically like getting married without the papers. You will discover new things about each other, it might be good things and bad things. Good Luck in making a decision.
2006-08-14 08:29:09 · answer #6 · answered by Moonfairy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ideal is to wait until your married... but depending on the situation like if she's prego-right away! but if you are boht working and maintaining a life for yourself dont do it too soon I would think 1-2 yrs would be a good time to do it. But remember if you do it what the consequences are if the rekationship doesnt last... lease, frutniture, all that stuff can be tough
2006-08-14 08:27:04 · answer #7 · answered by Capricorn82 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would give it about a year and only do it if there was intent on eventually getting married after a total of about 2 years.
There are women who stay with men for 4 years and then complain of non-marriage. Following what I stated above prevents that, or at least keeps a non-marriage from dragging out.
2006-08-14 08:49:21 · answer #8 · answered by Tony T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We waited about a year and a half. I think you need to find a time when you are both comfortable with the move. If you move in too soon, it could end up bad for the both of you.
2006-08-14 08:23:40 · answer #9 · answered by bounceabout8402 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did that, and I won't do that again..... I am not in my early 20's but I am just recently turned 30, and now, no sex period, and no moving in until I am married to the guy......... I am tired of relationships that last for 2 to 4 yrs and we live together never progressing to marriage!!!!!!!!! and then when its time to breakup, the disiccion on who is going to move out and so on....... i will never be left with nowhere to go ever again. I don't recomend it unless you are going to marry the girl, and you know that for a fact and your not going to change your mind.
2006-08-14 08:26:43 · answer #10 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋