i've never done anything bad to any body or against the law but i'm very unhappy and unlucky my wife wants adivorce i'm suicidal i just can't get over her.she was the second woman to do this to me.i've been told i'm a good guy/nice iknow i'm not bad looking what can i do to move on
2006-08-14 08:07:38 · 23 answers · asked by Rob C 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
i've been in conselling for years i'm taking zoloft but i'm still depressed she was everthing to me and i'll never feel that way again.she bettered her self and ran out on us.it is wrong what she did to me and the kids but she doesn't see it.i need her to realize what she's done.
2006-08-14 10:20:00 · update #1
I can not give you a better answer than those who answered before me, but I will add you to my prayer list.
2006-08-14 08:23:58 · answer #1 · answered by forgottenprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rob dude,
Look, you got through this once, right? Now perhaps the current situation is different because the lady who helped ya move on through that one is the one who left recently.
If so, and you think about it, any "help" you received from her was an illusion.
Love is an illusion in the sense that we fall in lust and let "love" overcome all the imperfections as they occur.
Life may only be an illusion. Might not be. All I know for sure is that nobody who's ever got off this ride as ever got back on, IMO.
If life is like an amusement park ride, and we're only conscious of our existence during the ride, then whose to say how long we waited to get on this thing.
Eventually we all loose our grip, but continue hold on tight and enjoy the ups and downs as they fly by.
Eventually someone else will take the empty seat beside you and the thrill will return.
In the meantime, there are a myriad of pharmaceuticals out there to get the brain stew balanced again. See an M.D. and get referred up to a good shrink and they'll hook you up.
Hold on brother, it might even get scarier, but in the end, it's the only ride we get.
2006-08-14 16:10:39 · answer #2 · answered by Chronic Observer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just know that God will never burden you with anything that you are not strong enough to handle. Take it from someone who has had ALLOT of heart break. Rely on your other friends and loved ones to see you through. Sounds so cliche but the pain will fade. Spend some time taking a hard look at yourself and see if you are the man that you want to be. You can find happiness in your heart and when you do everything else will fall into place.
2006-08-14 15:18:52 · answer #3 · answered by Native 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Rob, don't be hard on yourself, if you were to subscribe to karma and reincarnation, all this will make sense to you.
It is not that you may have done anything wrong in this life, but in the past one, that's why you are 'paying' for it in this life. Also, there is always something better for you In this life, you just have to keep looking. Everything happens for a reason and its not just God's plan, but for you to find that out with the help of God.
Ever think maybe this is so because there is something else out there for you that you just can not find given your present situation? There always is my friend, you just have to keep at it. Sometimes you just have to seek within and your answers are right there. Good luck.
2006-08-14 15:22:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A support group sounds like a good idea. You might also consider professional help and meds until you get past the critical stage.
The thing most people don't like to admit, is that humans are not really monogomous. We are serially monogomous with a typical relationship lasting 3-7 years. Lifelong marriage is an artificial construct.
2006-08-14 15:19:04 · answer #5 · answered by lenny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. I really feel your pain. My first wife thought it would be fun to have an affair - blaming everyone else for the situation except herself.
My second wife was, at times, cold and insensitive and that drove us apart.
So, after 2 failed marriages in 10 years I have finally found happiness.
I felt like killing myself many times. I know this hurts now, but you have to trust me, it will get better.
Email me if you want to talk about it - I promise I won't preach at you, but will be honest and frank about things (sometimes it is hard to hear what needs to be heard).
2006-08-14 15:20:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to talk with a professional. It might only take a few visits to make you feel better. You first have to be honest with yourself about what you might have done that you could change now, or for a future relationship. And....it might be that you have done nothing, and you made a bad decision on who to marry and need counseling to make a better decision next time. God Bless You
2006-08-14 15:26:25 · answer #7 · answered by tobinmbsc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants a divorce because your unhappy? Well, get happy! How? Get a phone book, find a Spirit-filled church and GO! Every one of us has a God-sized void in our lives that we try to fill with everything BUT Him - you'll find peace, joy and a greater happiness you've experienced before!!! Take your wife with you - the family that prays together stays together!! God bless!
2006-08-14 15:17:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like some counseling is called for here. There might be something in your personality that is a problem that is only discovered when people get close to you. If you want to find a solution I would look at myself first. If you feel suicidal as you said you do PLEASE don't wait find someone to talk to NOW.. Don't put it off even one more day....Jim
2006-08-14 15:18:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes we look for love in the wrong places I had a similar exprince my wife left me with a 21/2 year old son to raise on my own. for years I did not trust women it took ma along time to get over her. but I put God back in my life (I knew I had been running from God) started doing what God would have me to do. I prayed to God to send me someone that would love me for who I was, finnally after about 15 years God sent me a wife and a helpmate not in my time but in his time it takes three to make a marriage work you your wife and God .I an now happier than I have ever been .I hopr this helps you if you nee someone to talk to just email me will be glad to help
2006-08-14 15:19:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know this: GOD loves you! The most powerful being, the one who created you and everyone else LOVES YOU! He doesn't want you to give up your life. He still has a purpose for you. He wants you to be happy. If you lean on him you can find true happiness. Get your bible out and read it. I can promise you that once you have talked to God, you will feel better. Much love
Peace in Christ
2006-08-14 15:17:23 · answer #11 · answered by frog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋