we had al planned a four hour road trip to see Dave Matthews months ago but this guy has been a complete flake about the whole thing. doesn't return calls makes NO effort to hang out with us. i even had to buy his ticket which he has not payed for. this is one of my oldest friends and i hate to jsut ditch him at the last minute......but the other 2 people in the group and i have closer friends who would like to go and actually make an effort to see us. my idea was to tell Tommy that one of the people in the group had developed mono and since they couldn't go it would not be the same and then this weekend not answer my phone?? either that or hold a Survivor like bonfire and vote him off the island type meeting??? what should i do i am open to suggestions.....
2006-08-14 08:05:25 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
i talked to him a week ago (first time in ages) and he said he was excited i have told him if he didn't want to go it would be okay so i have run out of nice people options. i feel like if i tell him he cant go because he doesn't call enogh that it would make him feel like i was trying to bribe him to be my friend or had a hang out with me quota that people had to fill before we could do cool things together
2006-08-14 08:49:31 · update #1
Just tell him that he has shown a lack of interest in the event and the group, so you found someone to take the ticket (which you had to pay for - proof of his lack of interest). Say you tried to get his responses/input but you could only do so much. Maybe next time he'll be more responsive.
Don't make up some lame story to one of your oldest friends. Adn that survivor style thing is lame - it just makes everyone uncomfortable and the end result is the same.
2006-08-14 08:13:24 · answer #1 · answered by KB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel the need to lie about this? That is horrible!
Why don't you just tell the guy that you have bought the ticket and he hasn't answered the phone or returned your calls (you might have to leave this message) and that you never see him so if he doesn't call back by whatever time to let you know he's going to pay you back and go along to the concert, you'll be selling your ticket to another person who really wants to go to the show. It's pretty simple, but I'm glad you wrote the question here to get help.
Stop watching sub-human-reality television shows, they're not good for you. And apparently they teach you to lie.
Peace.
2006-08-14 08:17:49 · answer #2 · answered by Polly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have been friends for so long just confront him and say,"Hey, you haven't paid me for this ticket yet and I have another friend that would like to go.....are you still in? Cause I really haven't seen much of you lately so if you could let me know now if you still want the ticket, but I need the money so......"
Something along those lines sounds good to me (and reasonable to ask without upsetting him) Maybe he doesn't even want to go anymore and actually wants a way to get out of it.
Good luck!
2006-08-14 08:16:18 · answer #3 · answered by zetamomma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you need the money for the ticket ASAP.. if he can't pay ASAP then you will have to sell it... If he comes up with the money.. then let him come... you will know better next time... Try and live by the golden rule... "Do unto others as you would like others to do unto you" If the shoe were on the other foot... would you be happy if he was planning to get rid of you (his good friend)....
2006-08-14 16:13:30 · answer #4 · answered by cinsaint1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he wants out of the trip. That would explain why he won't return your calls or hangs out with you. Just be honest.
2006-08-14 08:38:43 · answer #5 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I wouldn't call him again....if he wants to go, he'll call you. If he does go, let this be the last time you invite him and pay his way. I would no longer go out of my way for a person like that!
2006-08-14 12:42:18 · answer #6 · answered by Easter Bunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him. Don't bother sparing his feelings since he has been a flake about the whole thing.
2006-08-14 08:11:58 · answer #7 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that depends on how far out the concert is. if it is close you can avoid him until after and when he calls you out on ditching him just say that you tried to call him, maybe his phone wasn't working, like all the times you missed HIS calls.
2006-08-14 08:12:43 · answer #8 · answered by BRYAN w/a Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you have all cancelled the trip. But behind his back carry on the trip maybe on another date.
2006-08-14 17:43:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
when he finally called you, you should have told him that since he didn't call back you didn't think he was interested, and you didn't buy a ticket for him.
2006-08-16 19:16:16 · answer #10 · answered by watcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋