I have a guy friend but im in love with him I would do anything for him,but he is in a relationship and now him and his girl are fighting he is in the wrong and my advice was for him to oppologize and work things out with her. now I feel sad and wish i had given him the wrong andvice to bring him to me.
2006-08-14 08:04:46 · 25 answers · asked by sexy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your actions alone show just how much your care for him. What you did was admirable, and it was most definately the right thing to do. If he found out you purposefully sabotaged his relationship because YOU liked him, he may have resented you and you wouldn't have him in your life. This way if things don't work out with the girlfriend, he will see you as the one who was supporting him the whole time. If it's meant to be it will happen. Just keep being honest and be an encouragment to him...It won't be long before he notices you like that.
2006-08-14 08:10:36 · answer #1 · answered by Brea1243 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't want what you can't have! You probably don't have him for a reason. I am a firm believer of that, I have wanted things so badly and was so impatient that when I got it, it was the worst thing that ever happened to me! Hey, there could be something you don't know about him that may just be so bad that you couldn't accept him. Which brings me to why you feel so bad, well that's easy that the brains way of dealing with guilt, the guilt of guilty pleasures!
2006-08-14 08:13:39 · answer #2 · answered by souljagirpart2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously deep down you care more about his happiness than your own. that's a good quality and you shouldn't feel bad because of it. if it's meant to happen between you and him, give it time. I really liked this guy when i was 14 and he was 16 but nothing happened, then we stopped talking for 2 years. I started working at the same place as him and we started dating. I was 16 and he was 18. I'm glad it happened later because we managed to have a more mature relationship.
2006-08-14 08:10:24 · answer #3 · answered by RLJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did a very good thing, even though I'm sure it was hard to do. Sometimes the best thing to do is simply tell him how you feel. You'll probably feel better. Infact, i bet if you tell him exactly what you wrote in your question...about how you wanted to give him the wrong advice but didn't, might get him to really start thinking about you. It could very well work out in your favor.
2006-08-14 08:10:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing! You are being a good friend. He will see this and if things don't work out with him and his girlfriend than just by you being there for him and being honest with him that could work out to your advantage (maybe). If not, than you will still have that friendship with him that you may not have if he feels you've been dishonest just so you can take him for yourself. Don't worry about this, be thankful knowing that you can still be there for him and that you do have a good friendship.
2006-08-14 08:17:09 · answer #5 · answered by ginger sue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can love someone, and someone can love you, but if you both aren't in love with each other, it's better to not be together. If it is meant to be, he will come back to you, but don't wait for him. That will only make you hurt more. You need to try and be happy he is happy and keep looking for someone who makes you happy. True love is the best feeling, and one sided love is the worst feeling. That's why you are sad, and if you want to be happy again, you need to move forward. You are standing still and living in your pain.
2006-08-14 08:13:03 · answer #6 · answered by Just Some Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing by helping him out with his relationship. Maybe you guys are meant to be friends or its not the time to be together. Don't feel bad you helped him in his time of need. Thats whats important.
2006-08-14 08:10:57 · answer #7 · answered by ♥BlackBarbie™♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. if you and your friend got together as a couple you wouldn't want it to be because you duped him out of trying to be a good guy to someone else. Like the old saying say "What goes around comes around" and you don't want that type of karma.
I know it's hard but you did the right thing.
2006-08-14 08:10:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. You need to move on, though. Stop trying to be too close to him.
If things work out that you're there, when/if he breaks up with this girl, it might not last between you two. He'll realize what you're doing.
Get your own interests, and start dating other people. He might realize that you're the one for him, or he might end up marrying this girl. Either way, protect yourself. Get some distance between you and their relationship.
I'M PROUD OF YOU FOR DOING THE RIGHT THING!
2006-08-14 08:10:02 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Saffire♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends if his girlfriend was a b***h you should have give him the wrong advice but if she was a wonderful girlfriend then you did the right thing.But i think you should tell him how you feel and if he does not feel the same way just get over him.It his fault that he has not seen what a worderful friend you are to him and just tell kiss your a**.
2006-08-14 08:20:08 · answer #10 · answered by Pink Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋