i have 3 kids 2 sons 1 daughter 7,8,9 and my daughter has been very bad?

Question

i told her next time she cusses at her teacher i was going to put her over my knee pull her pants down and give her 5 good swats with the spanking spoon should i follow through she is coming home from school in 10 min. what should i do any advice i know i should follow my word though

Answer 1

Yes, you should do exactly what you have threatened.

The next time she will think twice about cussing at her teacher or anyone else.

I have found that to be very effective as a form of discipline.

Answer 2

You know - you should just be honest with your daughter and tell her why it is so bad to cuss. Life is reality - people go through good stages and bad stages - your daughter is in the "cussing stage". My father has always been honest with me about everything, and in the end I think it made me a more responsible person - or at least I wasn't to curious about trying drugs, or drinking alcohol or anything like that because he was always very honest with me and told me about his experiences. He has always been the type to say - alcohol isn't good, but I know one day you might be curious...so just tell me, and you can drink with me. Then at least I would know you were safe rather than behind my back out with friends in a perhaps unsafe situation. I tried it once or twice, but because of his honesty and the way he focused his rules around reality, I've never found that excitement teenagers feel in doing stuff behind their parents back. So just be honest with your daughter, focus rules around life - because lets face it she's gonna get curious and try stuff whether it's a rule she can't do it at all or not. Just don't make is seem so interesting by saying that's off the limits no matter what - because people want what they can't have. Luckily right now you're daughter is only in the cussing stage...so just tell her what's up about, tell her it's not right, and that she hurts your feelings when she cusses or something along those lines. Take care!

Answer 3

Once you tell a child that they will be punished a certain way if they misbehave again then you must follow through with your threat. When you don't the child doesn't for 1 get disciplined and 2 starts walk all over the parent and will know that the parent is full of crap and 3 loose all respect for the parent. "NO" is always NO, not "yes" today and "no" tomorrow. If you can't spank your child then don't make that a form of discipline. There are other methods. Take the child's favorite game/toy away for a couple of weeks. If the child is older then take their cell phone, computer, car, etc whatever they have that they enjoy take from them until they can change their attitude. Being a parent isn't easy and we're not always nice. It's a dirty job and no one is going to help us with it. Good luck to you and your kids.

Answer 4

I'd say do it if the punishment was really severe such as hurting sombody else or something, but in this case, I'd say a nice taste of grounding would do the trick....nothing hurts a 9 year old kid more than being denied perks like tv or dessert and the like...it drives the message straigh home and warn her that you'll be calling the teacher up everyday to make sure she doesn't repeat it again....normally, kids are terrified of any sort of interaction between the parents and the teachers outside school...so it could work...

Answer 5

Never spank your children. They learn nothing from it except that people stronger than them have the right to use force. There is no empirical evidence that children who are spanked are any better behaved than children who are not spanked. Take the time to teach your children how to act. Never spank them. That is just an expression of your own frustration and inability to solve the problem in a constructive way. And yes, I have children. I have never spanked them, and they are quite well behaved. Never spank your children.

Answer 6

You need to really use your words and lay some very important rules and you just need to explain to her how it feels to be cussed at and ask her why she does it, if she still does not listen you need to exclude her from special activities, after ask her why she was discluded. Best of luck... and lets pray to god she understands without hurting you.

Answer 7

The spoon is out. That will be considered abuse in any State. You must keep your word or it will never have any meaning and she will continue in bad behavior. Kids are great a recognizing hallow threats and promises.

Answer 8

Find something that she loves and take it away. If she loves to have her hair beautiful and long, cut it off, take away her makeup, cell phone any kind of fun she likes to have. If all fails whip the
sh*t out of her. Hope this helps you out. My kids just laugh at me when I spank them, their like immune to the spanking now.

Answer 9

I think a good old fashioned spanking is in order here.

If you would like help, I'll pull her pants down and bend her over and spank her with my bare hand.

OHHHHH Yeahhh.

Answer 10

You must follow through and be consistent, but I suggest some parenting classes so you can find another better way to discipline your children. Violence begets violence.