how do i get my 3 yr old daughter to sleep on her bed?

Question

and not come out to the couch at 2 am. and do i get her to go to bed and not use excused like having to use the potty to stay out of bed?

Answer 1

Establish a bedtime routine; quiet play, bath, story in bed, hugs and kisses. Tuck her in, say goodnight.
If she has to use the bathroom, take her right back after.
Make sure she sees enough of you in the day so she'll separate at night. Some parents don't give enough of themselves to their kids.

Answer 2

Are you on the couch or awake in the house when she comes to the couch at 2 a.m.? If you are, what happens then? Do you talk to her or let her hang around? If so, you should take her straight back to bed. As soon as you see her out of bed, take her hand, U-turn her and walk her back to her own bed. Once she figures out that she isn't going to visit, or get picked up or whatever she's getting out of this, she should start to stay there.

Also, maybe you should put her to bed a little later or shorten her nap during the day. Possibly she's just waking up and isn't sleepy anymore and gets up because she's bored. Taking steps to get her to sleep through the night would also solve your problem.

One unasked for hint. Make sure your house is always locked up. My sister and I used to share a place and I worked nights. She always left the back door unlocked for me. I came in at 1 a.m. and locked up and went to bed. One morning at 4 a.m. her son woke her up crying outside her bedroom window. He'd managed to get out of bed and outside before I came home and got locked out! We got another key made for the door after that!

Answer 3

Well, when you put her to sleep, lay in bed with her for a while untill she falls asleep. Then, get up and go to bed yourself.
And if she gets up at the middle of the night wondering were you went, tell her "mommy" or what ever needed drink or something of that nature, then follow her back to her own bed and wait untill she's asleep again...okay?

Answer 4

Estabilsh a decent bedtime of around 8:00 PM. Check out the schedule below:

6:00 PM - Supper Time
6:30 PM - Play with her, quietly
7:00 PM - Bath Time
7:30 PM - Read her a book
8:00 PM - Bed Time

Before putting her in her bed,
1. take her to the bathroom and have her use the potty, tell her that she shouldn't get back up before she goes to sleep to go potty.

2. give her a small drink (about a 1/4 cup) and tell her she can't have another drink tonight.

3. place her in her bed about 7:30 PM and read her a book or story. Tuck her in, give her a hug and kiss and say "Goodnight".

4. If she gets up, put her back in her bed immediatley, and don't say anything. Repeat this everytime she gets up, before falling asleep.

6. If she wakes during the night (like 2:00 AM), take her to the potty, give her a drink and put her back to bed. Repeat #4 as often as needed till she goes back to sleep.

Soon, she will develop a routine, and do this on her own. It may take up to 3 months (like potty training) to train her for bedtime.

Also, if you don't go to bed until late, then turn off most of the home's lighting, letting her know it is bed time. Keep these lights off until she is asleep. Keep her room darkened, with maybe a dim light light. When she wakes at 2:00 AM, turn the lights back down until she's asleep agian.

Don't lay down with her, it builds a false sense of securtiy, she will expect you to be there if & when she awakens. You can stay in sight of her but don't speak to her at bedtime. Just enforce the fact that she must stay in bed until she goes to sleep. You can't force a child to go to sleep, only to lay still till they drift off to sleep.

If she is too wired or active at her bed time, then shorten her nap during the day or get her up earlier in the mornings. A good time to get up is around 7:00-8:00 AM with a one hour nap after lunch 1:00-2:00 PM.

Best of luck with you! This is working with my 3 year old. She hates to miss anything and will try to stay up with the rest of us. I sometimes don't get to bed until 1:00-2:00 AM because my husband works nights and he calls me around 12:00-1:00 AM every night (His lunch break).

Answer 5

i had the same problem with my oldest at the same age. i just took him back to his bed everytime he crawled in with me and told him you need to be a big boy and sleep inyour own bed. it took about a week or two of repeating this

Answer 6

GET OUT OF HER BED PEDOPHILE SO SHE CAN SLEEP.

Answer 7

i just agreed to the 1st answer.