Why do family members lie about you?

Question

I have changed my life in every way to better myself. Why do family members treat you the same. I am good to my friends and family. I let the past go and try do do better in life, I am a helpful good, giving person. Sometimes I wonder if it really matters that you are a good person to family. They don't treat you any different.

Answer 1

well, you've sort of answered ur own question.. i mean, u said urself that YOU are different. YOU have changed. You let the past go and Try to do better in life. You are helpful, good, giving.

are you doing it for yourself, or for ur family's recognition? regardless if they appreciate or not, you ARE doing it for your family. and that is Awesome. remember this: you can Never CONTROL what other people do or think or say; u can only control yourself. so even though you Do deserve respect, attention, honor, and appreciation, it doesnt' always mean u will get it. what u have to do is, Not let that bring u down. Don't let that change you and pull u down to negativity. anyone or thing that does that to you is not a positive, healthy, constructive thing in ur life. of course u love ur family, but that doesn't mean they are always Right. so, instead of doing these good things to get recognition, do it so u can recognize urself. it doesn't matter what others say or do, what matters is how u feel about yourself.

i truly am sorry that u don't have family that encourages u, and gives u positive reinforcement for your changes. but u know what? in the end, you will be able to forgive them for that. as long as u keep pursuing what is good, honorable, happy, and positive, no one can Ever take it away from you. and u will never Need to blame things on ur parents, or ur family, or the past... u Did it on your own. u changed on ur own. u've become Better without their help. Yes, it would've been so much better, easier, if u could have given those "props" to ur family, but they don't want it. they dont' want to encourage u. they want to make u feel bad. not cuz tthey are bad people, but because they don't know how to be encouraging. so give those props to urself, and thank GOD that u've been able to change! it's nice to get appreciation for ur efforts..but if u don't get it, Never ever let it change you to becomem negative, or sour. because then u'll just blame others for ur misfortune, and not be able to push thru that and succeed on ur own.

remember, all the negative things in ur life, USE it to help you become better. if u can learn what Not to do to ur family, or ur friends thru this, then already you will be able to forgive, and thank them for helping u become a better person. as u work on urself to be a confident, good, positive, healthy person, that hate and frustration will go away. u did it urself! congratulations! keep doing positive things, and keep positivity around you, ignore tthe negative, and u will see how happy u can be. if others don't want to do the same, that's their problem. they can be unhappy, negative, selfish all they want...it has nothing to do w/ you. :)

Answer 2

My family is sort of the same they stop talking ome because I got a new car (secondhand) and then I brought into a buisness..I hav't heard from them since even when I spent two weeks in hospital sick not one word! I thik alot of families resent the fact that we have bettered ourselves and made our own paths in this world and they are stuck where they are because they expect everythign handed to them. Jelousy is a curse!

Answer 3

I know how you feel. My family put the "funk" in dysfunctional. What you probably need to do is distance yourself and not rely so much on their opinion. There are people who will see you for the good person you are. Find them and surround yourself with them.

Answer 4

Once labeled always labeled, get a new family this is speaking from experience.

Answer 5

Well, that sucks! I'd never be from a family like that!!! lol

Answer 6

THEY MAY BE JEALOUS BECAUSE YOU ARE SUCH A GOOD PERSON...DONT LET THEM BOTHER YOU THATS THE BEST REVENGE... TO HE LL WITH THEM ..