My husband received an envelope marked "party tent rental" and then when I asked him about it, he hid the envelope. I have also heard bits and pieces to certain information pertaining to my birthday..like my stepson asked me, the other day, "can I have some cookies?" I said, "No, we are out of cookies, because there have been a lot of people in and out of this house lately." He says, "Oh yeah, your birthday party!" I said, "No, just visitors from out of state." Anyway, all of these things, PLUS more lead me to believe there is in fact a party for me, and it is obviously meant to be a surprise....my question is, and I did not "snoop" purposively, I just happen to be the one who gets the mail, and my stepson must have slipped....either way...if in fact I am correct and there is a party planned that I know about, how do you act surprised, so you don't ruin it for all who worked so hard trying to surprise you? I don't know when it is, or who is coming (so that is still a surprise)..
2006-08-14 07:20:18 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Thank you for the birthday wishes. I am definitely not much of an actor, but I guess I will have to practice in some respects, and you are right I do not know the details, so I could be really surprised..even more so, if there really was no party! haha. Thank you for your help, I feel bad about thinking that I know something!
2006-08-14 07:31:39 · update #1
You are very lucky to have such a great husband and son to want to celebrate this special day with you, their special person!
You are also very sweet to want to play your part in their happiness by pretending to be surprised!
I'm sure this happens all the time, that the honored surprise guest discovers beforehand that they can "expect" a surprise party.
Practice in the mirror, and think about it when you are by yourself. Don't behave out of character for you... but think of it this way. When you hear "Surprise!," you will be happy, yes? Be happy! Turn and give your husband a huge hug, and tell him THANK YOU! Don't forget to turn and give your stepson a hug also, but don't go into whether he knew about this...etc. Of course, he is going to say yes, and you did too. Children are brutal is their honesty.
Just enjoy the prior anticipation, but don't let them know that you know. If there is something that your husband does in front of you, ask him with all curiosity what is going on. Let him have his secret.
When the party is going, just tell him several times what a great party this is, and if he asks you if you knew, tell him you had hoped. Leave it at that, and happy birthday to you!
2006-08-14 07:31:08 · answer #1 · answered by purplesometimes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't know who exactly is coming & when it is & what the place is going to look like then in a way it'll still be a surprise! Just go with the natural reaction that you have when you enter the room or whatever they throw at you. Obviously you'll be happy, impressed & feel excited and loved - so show it! Who knows maybe they did this all to throw you off guard! Happy Birthday either way!
2006-08-14 14:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by Luv_star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can still be surprised by who shows up, and what they did or what food is there. Just act normally, and thank everybody for coming. It's ok if a "surprise" birthday party isn't a total surprise. Your party will be remembered by if the guests had a good time and everybody got along, not by the look on your face.
2006-08-14 14:45:06 · answer #3 · answered by ht_butterfly27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happy Birthday!!! You have such a sweet family. I think it's cute how your stepson gave it away. Either way just smile and thank everyone. The excitement of it all will help. To see all your loved ones coming together for your Birthday will surely help you with the surprise as all you will be able to do is smile. Have fun and enjoy!
2006-08-14 14:35:37 · answer #4 · answered by zero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happy birthday, early!
I'd try to stop thinking about it, first of all. Then, when it's time for the party, just put on your best "oh my god, I can't believe it" face. Try and remember a time when you felt totally suprised and just use that. No matter what, they love you enough to suprise you, so just keep saying how much you love it and how wonderful that is. That should keep you in the clear.
2006-08-14 14:28:03 · answer #5 · answered by Autumn BrighTree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop inadvertently snooping! ;) You don't know the details, so don't worry about it.......you will be surprised by the fun things you don't know about - and who is coming. Pretend that there is no party! :) The fact that they worked so hard should and I am sure will be appreciated and expressed by you - just enjoy the ride and Happy Birthday!
2006-08-14 14:27:44 · answer #6 · answered by Fortune Favors the Brave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 41 today and I happened to find out the way you did, I would skip out. Now that would be a surprise.
2006-08-14 14:33:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're obviously not an actress, but anyone can "act" surprised. If you're unsure of your talent, practice in a mirror, it's not hard.
2006-08-14 14:28:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't assume anything... just wait and see what happens... and if there is a surprise... try and win an Oscar... Congratulations on your 30th birthday!!!
2006-08-14 22:32:04 · answer #9 · answered by cinsaint1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happy birthday honey, and you're gonna have to act on this one. Looks like they have something nice planned. You don't have to be fake either, but at least show enthusiasm for their efford!
2006-08-14 14:35:46 · answer #10 · answered by Kookoo Bananas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋