I wish I knew the definitive answer because I have the same problem. Basically someone like that is a negative thinker.
The thing that works the best is to force yourself to be positive. Try to stop and think about what you're doing/thinking and try to do the opposite. Instead of thinking why something won't work, think of reasons it will.
Another thing is to have the person figure out a way to resolve the "bad things" that have happened to them. If it was something someone did, ask for an apology, or explanation. Even if they refuse, the attempt might bring some closure.
2006-08-14 07:22:05
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answered by Aaron E 2
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If some REALLY bad things happened to him it's not surprising that he would think about them all the time. If that's the case, he needs to talk to a professional about it. Maybe he can eventually turn it into a positive experience, like counseling others who are going through the same thing.
If you mean that he's an anxious, worried person who obsesses over all the big and little problems in his life, the best thing is to go out and get involved helping other people. I'm not trying to be a goody-two-shoes here; I'm talking about a very practical, selfish benefit. Doing something concrete to make a positive difference in someone else's life really does lift your spirits and take your mind off your own problems. Of course, that's not the only reason to volunteer, but it is a great side benefit for someone with your friend's particular anxiety problem.
2006-08-14 14:25:50
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answered by hquin_tset 3
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There is no easy solution. He has to want to change first and foremost. I started with putting things through a simple test. Is this making me richer, is this making me poorer, or is this effecting my wellbeing. If it wasn't then i didn't worry about it. Then make yourself look at the brighter side of things. People thought i was a little crazy at first, but it helped so much. When i got a flat tire, i didn't think about how life was out to get me. I thought "well at least I have 3 tires that aren't flat". When my car broke down i thought "at least i have a car that just needs repairs and i don't have to buy a new one." It may sound silly but after awhile I started to just look at the good side of things and life looked a whole lot brighter. Hope this helps some and good luck.
2006-08-14 14:48:30
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answered by Joe P 2
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Its all a state of mind. People who think negatively cant see the good in anything. Dont give this person a pitty party. I think some people do this for attention and as long as they are getting the reinforcement for being so negative they will have no reason to be positive because they are getting the attention and pitty for being negative. He has to want to change. All is you can do is bring it to his attention how he is being.
2006-08-14 14:22:56
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answered by Shay 2
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He sounds like me.
Make him want to change. Unless there's something seriously wrong with this guy, if he has the motivation to toughen up a bit, he will succeed. I've been changing for only two days and I'm so much less sensitive to what people say and do, just by telling myself that it's their problem every time they do it.
2006-08-14 14:19:34
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answered by wizfen 2
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The guys is being to hard on himself....he has to learn that things happen beyond our control. He needs to start thinking positive, once he does then life will seem more easier. I am the same way, can't get over things that easily which for me it has to with depression.
2006-08-14 14:26:56
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answered by Moni 2
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its hard to change and sometimes letting go means change.
sorry wish I could give you an answer or better still a solution, you obviously care enough to be there for him
2006-08-14 14:23:23
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answered by Mof 1
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easy introduce him to Jesus. prprincess196@juno.com
2006-08-14 14:54:30
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answered by boricuaangel196 2
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