Okay well im 19 and I dont live with my parents as of a week ago..and on Saturday night I got pulled over for speeding(which my sister-in-law as well as myself know i was not speeding)and I got a a ticket of course...however my parents are the type to *****..it normally wouldnt bother me if i had to tell them..but i recently had gotten my grandmothers car after she had passed and it was the only thing she owned at her time of death...so my family urges me to take specail care of the car....I dont know if i should tell them and risk losing the car and starting a fight with my parents....?
2006-08-14 07:06:49 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you are independant enough to live away from home then you don't need to tell them everything. Use your judgement. I think if there was no harm done then don't tell them.
2006-08-14 07:11:30 · answer #1 · answered by weegleajeems 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you so worried about, if you tell them what are they gonna do, kick you out of the house? I know, I know, they'll take the car away. Don't worry about it, unless your parents are the friggin Brady's-I'm sure your parents have been pulled over once or twice. Tell them, besides, wouldn't you rather tell them now than have your sister-in-law accidently spill the beans. It's a speeding ticket honey, not like you really did anything wrong-unless you killed someone and forgot to include that in your question??? Tell them, it'll be fine, it's the responsible thing to do, as long as you don't approach the situation like a little girl I think your parents will recognize your efforts to do the right thing. As an adult, **** happens, your parents know this and they will be proud of you for telling them and taking care of it rather than trying to keep it from them-that's a childish thing to do and you are not a child anymore. Congrats on getting out on your own, live life fully and STOP SPEEDING!! Oh, and if you actually weren't speeding demand to see a print out or something from the radar to prove that you were. If the cop doesn't actually have anything to prove that you were speeding then it's your word against his/hers and it will most likely get tossed out and you'll come away with nothing on your record. I don't suppose either of your parents is a lawyer??? Then you could really mess with this asshole cop.
2006-08-14 07:41:26 · answer #2 · answered by sarahsmiles1222 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember those days. However, if you want the respect of being an adult you need to tell them. They may or may not find out but you could phrase it as I am telling you since you may find out anyways. Tell them you plan on taking care of it. Hey if you are innocent then fight it. My friend plans on fighting a ticket based on the fact that there were multiple cars passing hers, so she will pose the question"how can you be perfectly sure it was MY car you tagged?"
I know confrontation is scary but acting like an adult is so much easier in the long run
2006-08-14 07:16:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you need to tell them. you are on your own now and you can take care of yourself, hopefully.
however, if they are paying your auto insurance, that will be a problem because your rate might go up. if that's the case, i think you should handle the speeding ticket yourself, then when it's renewal time for your insurance (you can find that out by looking at the expiration date on your insurance card) tell your parents what happenend, how you handled it, and offer to take over paying for your own insurance.
i hope you will realize a couple of things. the speed limits posted on roads are there because engineers have evaluated the curves in the road, how many side roads there are, width of the road and other things. speed limits keep you safe. also realize that when you are driving your car 50 or 60 or 80 miles an hour, YOUR BODY is hurtling through space at that rate of speed.
take good care of yourself, and any passengers you might have.
*hugs* and good luck
2006-08-14 07:18:17 · answer #4 · answered by georgia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know you were not speeding and can prove it go to court and fight it see how that comes out and decide from there what to do as far as your parents go since you are 19 and don't live under their roof if the car is totally in your name then there really isn't anything they can do to take the car away from you
2006-08-14 07:14:57 · answer #5 · answered by lonly_male4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its easier to tell now and be responsible then to get caught later. Maybe they can offer some advise on how to get out of the ticket if you have a witness that you were not speeding. Just cause your young doesn't automatically mean your in the wrong. Sounds like you are right this time, stick up for yourself. Good luck!
2006-08-14 07:13:11 · answer #6 · answered by Badkitty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, your parents have probably been pulled over before too, its not that big a deal.
when you go to traffic court tell them you want to dispute it, if the cop doesn't show up (usually they dont) you wont have to pay the ticket anyways.
if you are over 18 your parents dont need to know anything.
if they are still paying your insurance, it is unlikely the insurance company will even find out, the only reason your insurance provider would find out is if it was an accident and you had to make a claim to get the car fixed.
2006-08-14 07:13:04 · answer #7 · answered by Fluffington Cuddlebutts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say be responsible pay the fines. if you messed the car up have it fixed .yea tell them if you think you should but if you live on your own and your grandmother left you the car and your paying insurance and taking care of the car yourself then you really don't have an obligation to tell your parents, however if your parents are helping you out with the car then yes you should tell them plus your sister-in-law knows so your parents will eventually find out...good luck and be safe out there on the road.....
2006-08-14 07:24:35 · answer #8 · answered by tinker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just pay the ticket and act like you never did it. Dont tell them anything....but take VERY good care of the car. Drive at the speed limit at all times!
2006-08-14 07:13:32 · answer #9 · answered by ♣ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it even their business? Don't tell them. Get court supervision so that the ticket does not go on your record and raise your insurance. Or fight it in court, since the cop may not show up --they often don't. Is the car in your name now? If so then they can't take it away.
2006-08-14 07:14:54 · answer #10 · answered by Wyld Stallyns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult and you do not live at home with your pa rants and no matter where it came from the car is yours. I am sure as a 19 year old you do not tell your pa rants everything you get up to. What they don't know wont hurt them
2006-08-14 07:14:19 · answer #11 · answered by stephen c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋