And she doesn't want to talk about so don't give me any of that "communication is the key" crap... Anyway I love her and I don't want to dump her and we are getting married soon and I think she just wants to have sex a little bit when we are like 30 to have kids... HELP?
2006-08-14 07:05:54 · 13 answers · asked by The Wise Man 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe you should deal with this problem Before you get married, or there might be problems later.
Tell her that she owes it to you to explain to you why. If you don't find out why, then the issue can't be resolved.
"Communication is the key" crap?? It's not crap - it's what makes a relationship. If you guys can't communicate about something this important, then what?
2006-08-14 07:10:45 · answer #1 · answered by Cina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's experienced what sex is capable of doing with a relationship (as in making the relationship hard and distancing the girlfriend and the boyfriend) and she doesn't want to go through it again. Or she might be a virgin waiting until marriage (but if that's it you would probably be aware of that). If it is trust issues, tell her no matter what happens during sex you will still love her and respect her and that she is the only person you want to experience that kind of intimate relationship with.
2006-08-14 07:14:01 · answer #2 · answered by loosenupmybuttons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may have been molested when she was younger and is having a difficult time dealing with it. If that is the case she'll benefit from your love and support as she deals with the memories. There has to be some reason she's afraid of sex. I know that most pre-marriage counselors would FORCE her to talk about the issue -- it's a really important one!! Having a sexless marriage is not something to look forward to.
2006-08-14 07:12:26 · answer #3 · answered by GirlfromUncle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U wanna marry a girl that doesnt trust u enough to talk about why she's so afraid of sex? U cant keep secrets in marriage otherwise everything will go down the toilet
2006-08-14 07:12:36 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. E 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow this must be hard for you. Maybe she has been rapped or molested. People that have had this happed are afraid of sex. She might have this problem for the rest of her life. Maybe you both or only her, should go see a counsler or something. This can be a difficult situation. Just be understanding.
2006-08-14 07:17:53 · answer #5 · answered by Susa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first poster...but you need to find out what she's afraid of. You don't need to go all the way with intercourse at first. You gotta ease into it, with fingers and such. Usually when they get the first O, they can't get enough. If she was raised extremely conservative, that might be crappy, she might believe her face will be melted off if she does anything before marrage.
2006-08-14 07:14:09 · answer #6 · answered by Phoenix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that doesnt sound like very much fun...but maybe she just wants to wait till marriage then she might turn in to a freak in bed lol..but i dunno if i could handle not having sex what if it really sucks and your all unhappy nevermind im not helping lol sex isnt that important i guess but i would tell her you definately want to talk about it..if shes scared she'll get pregnant have her take the pill
2006-08-14 07:12:10 · answer #7 · answered by lonely heart club 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it's cause she wants to wait until ur married.. ask her that, and if that's the case then respect her wishes.. u tryna pressure her or force her into it is only gonna maker her hate u more and it'll cause strain on the relationship since she wasn't ready to begin with..
if u gonna leave her cause u can't get none.. then u deserve to be alone..
2006-08-14 07:12:34 · answer #8 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woah...i dont know....even though u said dont give me the communication is the key crapp...there is no other way,..u NEED TO FORCE HER to talk to u...this isnt a small thing that can be forgotten...
2006-08-14 07:12:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're obviously not mature enough for marriage, so stop the wedding before you screw up her life and yours.
2006-08-14 07:15:59 · answer #10 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋