She moved in 5 months ago. Everything is just too complicated. She has a son (part-time) and I have 2 daughters (part-time). My daughters (6 & 9) do not get along with her son (5). She's always commenting on how I interact with my daughters. She says that I let them rule my life and that I'm too affectionate. Now my daughters aren't too excited about visiting dad anymore.
On top of that she's extremely jealous and possesssive and untrusting. I've caught her checking my phone, email and mail several times. She's never found anything, but she's still suspicious.
The problem is that she's extremely sensitive, and I hate hurting people. But I'm unhappy and I don't know what to do...
2006-08-14 07:01:27 · 36 answers · asked by chillwill 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
G'day OMG72,
Thanks for the question.
If I were you, I would sit down and have a heart to heart talk with her saying that you are unhappy and explain why. Hopefully, you will be able to sort things out.
If it doesn't work out, you probably best off asking her to leave. You don't want to ruin our relationship with your kids.
I hope it all works out for you.
Regards
2006-08-14 09:44:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to make sure that the kids are not around for this when it happens, and you need to sit down with her or just plain talk to her.
You need to either flat out it isn't working and that she needs to move out, or you need to let her have the place where the two of you now live and look for another place to live at yourself.
If it isn't working then just say so and get it over with, the longer you wait the harder it will be and you need to do what is in the best interest of the two kids you already have and don't worry so much about her and her child.
There is always baggage when two people come into a relationship with kids from another relationship.
good luck
2006-08-14 07:08:41 · answer #2 · answered by Not a Daddys Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya know - she may feel she made a mistake, too. Sit her down and talk about the whole situation. She probably wants out, too. If that is not the case and you really want out - simply tell her. But offer to help her find a new place to live and help her move. She will probably say no - but at least you made the effort. Talk to her alone - not with any of the kids around.
2006-08-14 07:08:19 · answer #3 · answered by Blond Logic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sack up and take your balls back from this woman. Sit her down and give her a little bit of advance notice, but make it clear that she gots to go. Also do yourself a favor and make sure that nothing you care about can be broken or stolen. If you want to be a real hardass about it, you can wait until she's left for work and gather everything in the house that's hers and get it ready to move out, maybe even in a PODS container.
2006-08-14 07:08:20 · answer #4 · answered by zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nip it in the butt right away. I would sit her down and just say that it's not working out. Let her know that your kids come first and that they are uncomfortable with the situation. Also explain that her jealousy and untrusting nature has made you miserable. Let her know that you will give her some time to find a place but sooner than later.
2006-08-14 07:08:31 · answer #5 · answered by mackey208 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are u waiting for? The next thing she's going to do is tell you not to visit your daughters anymore... Have a serious adult to adult discussion... or you could work it out like this: talk to your children and to her 5 year old boy... they must learn to behave! And she is jealous... talk to her about it...
but if u think this relation is never gonna work then you 2 must end it up in a civilized way!
I hope i helped you!
GOOD LUCK!
2006-08-14 07:17:11 · answer #6 · answered by ronzygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you should grow a backbone. She might be right when it comes to your daughters, and it sounds like she has some good ideas. I don't like the idea of her possessiveness and checking phone, emails, etc. I hope you haven't given her reason to suspect foul-play. Be reasonable and give her some time to leave, but tell her ASAP to give her time to find a new place. Hope this doesn't turn into a bloody mess.
2006-08-14 07:17:36 · answer #7 · answered by Falcon Boy Toy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to grow up and be the big boy of the house. Have a heart to heart talk with her. If that doesn't work, then it's time to help her find another place to live and move her out.
2006-08-14 07:07:06 · answer #8 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her know that this isn't working.. let her know that ur children come 1st and that ur relationship w/ur girls is now strained because of comments that she's made, or because of how she treats and reacts to them..
also let her know that ur not beat to have her searching for something that's not there, u know like cheating.. let her know that u don't appreciate her going through ur things cause if she didn't trust u then she shouldn't have moved in w/u...
let her know that it would probably be best if she found her own place asap... so that u can start mending the relationship w/ur children..
also let her know that when u interact w/ur children, how u treat them is ur business not hers since she is not their stepmother.. tell her to focus her time and energy on her son...
2006-08-14 07:09:21 · answer #9 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BABY LISTEN SHE'S NOT SENSITIVE SHE'S ACTING LIKE THAT SO SHE CAN HAVE WHAT SHE WANTS. AND DONT AND I MEAN DONT STOP DOING WHATEVER YOU DO WITH ur BABIES. SHE MAD B/C SHE CANT RULE UR LIFE. UR DAUGHTERS ARE UR EVERYTHING,REMEMBER THAT. AND YOU ALREADY KNOW SHE'S WRONG FOR GOING THRU ur SH$T-LIKE MOST FEMALES DO IT. SO SOME OF US LIE AND SAY WE DONT DO IT-OTHERS WILL ACTUALLY DO IT IN UR FACE. YOU NEED TO LET HER KNOW THAT UR NOT HAPPY AND THE ONLY WAY YOU FEEL THAT RELATIONSHIP WILL WORK IS IF SHE MOVES THE FU$CK OUT. THIS AINT THE BRADY BUNCH BABY.JEALOUS AND POSSESIVE SOUNDS LIKE A RESTRAINING ORDER EVENTUALLY. GOODLUCK.
I WOULD HAVE BEEN LIKE "GET THE FU$CK ASAP"
2006-08-14 07:20:19 · answer #10 · answered by GrownNSexy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋