I am very upset and desperate. I need some serious help. I have been in a marriage for almost 4 years and my husband is smoking,buying and selling POT and hard to tell what else!I am very hurt by this and very frustrated!!!He keeps telling me that he will stop,but he never stops and he is going behind my back. I want to set up a STING. I don't want it done here at our home,because we rent and I do not want to lose my home. I want to make sure my kids are safe and don't get hurt by this.And I certaintly do not want to go to jail over his habit! Or have him discovering I was behind the bust. PLEASE somebody help me. What do I do? Feel free to email me as well.Please, Serious inquires only!!!
2006-08-14 06:59:20 · 18 answers · asked by ? 6 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
I've prayed for him to stop for the years we've been together. He says he will not stop. My marriage is falling apart. He does not want rehab or any help. So I've decided I'll move on. It hurts me that he keeps on doing it without having any remorse or care how I feel about it.
2006-08-14 07:14:08 · update #1
Even the police are corrupt here in our small town! I have police officers in my family and was told that they too smoke pot,because I was gonna go to them. Hell they probably smoke it with him!
2006-08-14 07:20:37 · update #2
you better take the needed steps to get him out your home and whatever he has in your home because a mother's son was selling and dealing out of her home and she went to jail as well as her daughter and they were totally innocent. if you are serious, call you local police and talk to them about the situation and ask them to set up a sting for you when you think that he will be selling again or you could have them search your home while your children are not there believe me there are ways that it can be done without involving you and your children but you better know what you are doing because he could become abrusive and want revenge on you if you are ever found out.
2006-08-14 07:07:45 · answer #1 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Uhm, what's the big deal? Is he dealing the pot out of the house? That would be big deal.
Is he doing NOTHING BUT smoking buying and selling? That would be big deal.
Does he not have a job where he can make a future for you and your family...i.e. a career? That would be a big deal.
Otherwise, just make sure that he keeps no more than a few grams at the house (misdemenor) and that all of the felony activities are done outside of the home. Since the police are "corrupt" and do it as well, you probably don't have much to worry about unless he's unloading pounds at a time.
You married the guy, and I doubt that he just started when he married you. And ask yourself this question, "when all is said and done, all positives and negatives weighed, is it better for all parties involved for this man to be in jail?"
2006-08-14 14:49:38 · answer #2 · answered by Manny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must tell the authorities - often there is an interdepartment drug task force - usually doesn't have the corruption. There is a problem you didn't address: If Family Division/Services gets involved, you may lose your kids for "failing to protect" them from the drugs. Don't want that. But do be prepared, as someone stated earlier - with pot, he won't go to jail for long if any - they're just too busy.
2006-08-14 19:23:33 · answer #3 · answered by Sherri H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as though you are between a rock and a hard spot. Look in your local directory and find the number for FDLE. You can set up an appointment with them. Do this before you or your kids get hurt. Remember, if for some reason there is a drug bust, you will be hauled to jail as an accomplice. Your kids will be taken away from you. So.............call FDLE now before it's too late.
2006-08-14 14:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by skyeblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right. you are not alon. dont be scared of him, guys like those make trouble and then come to say sorry .. if you think that not asking for help is protecting your kids you are wrong. Call the police and explain them the whole situation. I can understand you dont want to be alone with him outside and being the one that talk to the police. but if you this in the correct way (even anonymus) it should work
2006-08-14 14:08:49 · answer #5 · answered by simone10008 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he is dealing in pounds,his stay in jail will be short.Even bail will probably be low.
Your best bet is to give him a reality check by packing him a bag the next time he leaves and locking the doors.Let him know that his days of bringing drugs into your home are OVER,and mean it.
If he has any love for you and his children, he will straighten up his act in a hurry.
2006-08-14 14:07:33 · answer #6 · answered by hott.dawg™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you rather him go to jail or rehab? You have children and have to consider how this will effect them. My sister is a recovering Heroin, pot, alcohol, you name it she's done it addict, and she has been through rehab for months now and it's doing wonders. Jail will only anger an addict not help them. Try talking to your Clergyman/woman, a Dr. or someone who can help your whole family. Take care & I wish you the best of luck.
2006-08-14 14:08:30 · answer #7 · answered by Tortured Soul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smoking and selling pot is not that awful unless he is selling to kids. The only thing l would worry about is the fact that your kids may see him smoking it. If you loved your husband you would try and talk it through with him rather than setting him up then leaving your children fatherless for a while.
2006-08-14 14:07:48 · answer #8 · answered by georgia1980 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The laws are so lenient towards women, you could come up with any charge against a man and have him railroaded. Any judge or jury will take the word of the woman in such a case.
2006-08-14 14:08:53 · answer #9 · answered by Craig G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just call your local police department drug enforcement unit. They will be happy to help you, and they will know what to do to keep you and your kids safe. Good luck.
2006-08-14 14:04:10 · answer #10 · answered by TigerLilly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋