She goes pee very well in the potty (without being told to) but she poops herself instead of on the potty. I always have her in underwear, hoping she wouldn't like the feeling of being poopy but it does not work. HELP! (serious answers only)
2006-08-14 06:28:49 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
With time & lots of praise when she does go in the potty. Make a "poopy chart" if you're through the potty chart phase, give her a sticker for every time that she poops in the potty, after so many stickers in a week, she'd get a small treat. My 3 1/2 year old, went through this for a while, at about that same age, maybe a little younger... and it wasn't normal poo, it was stomach virus poo (yuck).... we threw out a bunch of her undies, cause I got tired of trying to clean that stuff out of them! Now the only problem I've got with her is when she is too "busy" and doesn't make it to the bathroom in time... and a puddle ends up in front of the toilet.
Maybe let her pick out some undies at the store (if you haven't already) & let her know that she has to poop in the potty, not the panties... maybe if she thinks that she's the one in charge of it all (which technically she is), she might have more incentive to keep her panties unsoiled. Good luck!
2006-08-14 06:39:52 · answer #1 · answered by Theresa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SHE WILL NOT DO IT UNTIL SHE IS READY!!!!
I just got my daughter poopy trained about 2 months ago. She was 3yrs 3mo. I couldnt believe how long it took. She has been peepee trained for a long time (maybe 9mo.) but refused to go poo. She would sit on the potty but hold it until she got her pull up back on. Then one day she just went. Her doctor told me it was a controll thing. That was the last thing that she had complete controll of in her life. You cant MAKE her go poo. We did use the present thing and I think it worked well. We wrapped several presents (just little things from the dollar store) and put them on the back of the potty. At first we let her have one every time she made a reall effort, like pushing five times. We also would watch and when she started to go in her pants we would put her on the potty even if it was half out or already done. As long as we got it to fall in the potty, even if half was in her pants, she got a present. When she got used to that we made it so if she did half in the potty she got one present if the pul up was clean and she did it all it the potty, she got two. Finally, when she got really good we made her go an entire day, if the pull up was clean all day she got one. Then it went to if the pull up was clean allweek she got one. It was a lot of presents, thats why I did the dollar store things (giant ballons, princess purses, bubbles, crayons, colorbooks, little farm animals). She didnt care what the present was. You just have to stick to it and no matter how much she crys for a present, if she doesnt go, she doesnt get one. When a friend told me this, it took like a month for her to get one, but when she got the first one, in two weeks we were done. After a year and three months of trying. I would have done it a year ago if I had thought of it. $20 at the dollar store was totally worth it to me.
2006-08-14 13:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by froggy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be patient. It often takes a little longer for the poop thing to get under control. My youngest was wearing panties and staying dry DAY AND NIGHT at that age but still having problems with pooping in her pants. It took her until she was almost 3.5 years to get the poop thing down.
Make a big deal when she poops in the potty. High fives, do a dance, call dad and tell him, whoop it up! If she has an accident, DO NOT PUNISH HER and clean it up with little comment. Ask her where poop goes. Leave it at that.
Consider a sticker chart for the poops. When she fills it up, she gets some kind of prize. (My daughter went to get a helium balloon the first week she was totally clean and dry.)
2006-08-14 13:35:32 · answer #3 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try getting her into a routine of sitting on the bowl after meals. Eventually she'll train herself to go.
Kids her age have kind of bizarre "fears" - maybe she fears the poop will bite her or something if she does it in the potty. Maybe she got splashed once or had a similar experience and it bugged her. (Some kids who have one painful BM will hold it for ages until they're going to explode because they're afraid it'll hurt again. This could be the same kind of thing. ) The other thing to think about is - make sure she knows she's going. You know how some kids don't realize they're wetting themselves until after they do it? The same thing can happen with BMs. If that's the case, she needs to see the doctor and make sure nothing's going on intestinally.
Good luck!!
2006-08-14 13:38:49 · answer #4 · answered by zippythejessi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs a routine...Starting as soon as she wakes up ask her if she has to go poo, and then make sure that you ask her at least once an hour all day long. Encourage her to go poo on the toilet by telling her that she will not get to play with her favorite toy if she goes poo in her pants because that is being lazy and it is nasty. And if you don't already, make sure you keep her in the soiled panties until she begins to complain from being uncomfortable or at least a couple minutes before you acknowledge that she is soiled. And then make her clean her own little booty and wash her own panties out, no matter how much she whines or cries. This is what helped my little cousin to learn that she must go poo on the toilet and not in her panties. Be firm with her, this is a life lesson that she must learn before she starts school.
2006-08-14 13:42:21 · answer #5 · answered by Coco G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Children under three are still learning to toilet train. The hardest part of which is the stool training. Kids these age will eventually feel the urge to poop in the potty, once they get conscious in pooping their pants.
My kid is 3 but she isn't that well trained yet. I'm patient though but very persuasive. Guide her through it and eventually she'll outgrow it.
2006-08-14 13:36:35 · answer #6 · answered by Jinky Winky 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Watch her, when she shows signs of beign squirmy, or pushing, rush her to the potty. It's time consuming, but it should work very quickly, as she is already using the potty. Also watch her closely after meals, and a pattern should develop pretty quickly to aid you in knowing when to take her.
2006-08-14 13:34:25 · answer #7 · answered by kevin m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my friend was having the same problem with her son and she came up with this chart that if the was no accident all day she would get a sticker on that day and at the end of the week if there was no accident he could get a toy. I think she started it out go 4 day and get a toy then added a day after he hit that goal. Then at the end of the month of no accidents he got a bigger toy. For him the toy was a game for his Vetch game. Hope this helps.
2006-08-14 13:36:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just keep on encouraging to poop in the potty, eventually she will catch on. Little rewards help, I used m&ms.
2006-08-14 13:33:47 · answer #9 · answered by mixemup 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give her a reward for making a poopy in the toilet then once she starts doing it on her own, wean her off the reward...this worked for a friend of mine...he would give the kid a piece of apple with peanut butter on it (a favorite snack), if the kid pooped in the toilet
2006-08-14 13:36:26 · answer #10 · answered by j w 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋