I am not saying it is your fault it is like this, but i want to know!!! Why do men have to do everything like make the first move, give his number, plan the dates, etc.? I am not complaining I just want to know why ...you fought so hard to show that you are stronger than you may seem, but why dont you flex some of your pull on us guys? Y dont you give out your numbers? make moves on a guy first? suggest the plans for the first date? I think it is 2006 and things need to change...I do not see how males or females can be inferior to one another...we are all equal, step outside of the box!!! There is a whole new world out there...discover it!
2006-08-14 06:20:20 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"men lack sensitivity and emotional development"...I do not know where u learned this sh*t! but I do see what u r saying... I guess...some guys are like this...but i also do not see how if a woman becomes the bread winner that the man will start to resent her...I know many women that have been the bread winners and their husband have been just fine about it. I should have been more specific...not ALL women, but QUITE A FEW are like this...maybe SOME men are meat heads when it comes to this, but NOT ALL...there that is better
2006-08-14 07:13:26 · update #1
Some women are comfortable making the first move, some aren't. We grew up in a society which looks down upon women who are too forward, and it's hard to break that.
It's the way things have worked for thousands of years, with some exceptions, so apparently humans are very slow to change.
2006-08-14 06:27:46 · answer #1 · answered by Muskratbyte 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not always the man. My mother proposed to my father. She also made the first move.
You can't honestly say that every woman waits for the guy to make the first move.
Actually, come to think of it, women give men their numbers, not the other way around.
Some girls are just "old fashioned" and that's the way they were raised.
2006-08-14 13:26:03 · answer #2 · answered by grimm.fixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok.. i can see what u are saying here... i agree that we fight to show we are Stronger than we seem..but that's not the same thing as being Equal.
what i have learned is, males and females are just..different. not cuz one is necessarily *better* than the other...but that we have different Roles, and we need to learn to perform those roles to the best of our ability; that way, we will be able to offer the best to eachother, and form a Whole, Working relationship.
sooo....Men are typically the Breadwinner, the Head of the Household, the Decision Maker, the Physical Support. Women are typically the Nurturer, the Care Taker, the Emotional Support. if a woman finds a man that is doing all those things, sure, she can go ahead and be strong in her womanly roles and ask out a guy who she deems "worthy". same goes for a man, he can go ahead and be strong in his manly roles and ask out a girl whom he deems "worthy".
the problems arise when there are no clear cut roles. if a man doesn't make a woman feel Stable, Secure, and that he has the ability to Take care of her in his physical and financial ways, there will be a problem, lack or respect, expectations, and the relationship will sour. same goes for women; if she doesn't make a man feel Stable, Secure, Supported, and taken care of in Emotional sense, he will take advantage of her. the thing is, women will not "take advantage" of men they deem worthy. but men lack sensitivity and emotional development, which allows them to "take advantage" of women whom they deem worthy.... which is why it is up to a woman TO be strong, and take charge of what she Wants in a man. not to dominate him, but to choose a man who is good enough to take on his Manly roles. too many times do we confuse the roles that we play; a woman will start paying, be more financially "stable"... eventually a man will feel Not Good enough, because his Role is to be the breadwinner. he will resent her, and eventually cause problems. even if the woman doesnt' mind paying! also, if a man can't make good decisions and be a strong foundation, a woman cannot respect him, and therefore cannot help to support him emotionally. it's a give and take.. no one is "better" than the other, because we are just better at different things.
***btw..it is easier for a woman to take on "manly" roles in this day and age, such as go to school, get better jobs, be the breadwinner. it is much harder for a man to take on "womanly" roles, be caretaker, nurturer of the house, emotional support..because they are not trained that way. a woman is already born w/ an innate sense to be emotionally sensitive..which is why she is fighting to be seen as "stronger". however, men need to realize that they need to Step Up and be worth respecting and trusting. if they do their job, a woman can do her job. and it won't matter who asks who out, but who does thier job and can keep up the relationship to grow Healthy and Positive and move forward.
Just an opinion, i'm not saying i'm right, it's just worked for me!
2006-08-14 14:06:46 · answer #3 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just the way the dating scene goes. The men are to court the females, and the females are the ones who get to make the decision on whether or not the man is worth while.
Same goes in the animal kingdom, if you think about it. The male animals flaunt and fight to attract the female, it's just nature! lol
2006-08-14 13:26:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in my case we both take turns it not always the man. My relationship is very different because we are so close. For most women its always the man for the sake of tradition.........You are right women do need to step out side the box but they are afraid of change!!!!
2006-08-14 13:27:08 · answer #5 · answered by Toya J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We do make the first move sometimes, but only with certain guys, and usually after we've developed some rapport with them first.
2006-08-14 13:25:18 · answer #6 · answered by onemorealternative 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me ,
Men and women equal,
And i have no problem with,
Telling a man he is attractive,
( don't mean i would sleep with him )
I have no problem with holding a door open for a man , if im there first.
I have given, flowers , cards there favorite candy, to men.
So for me , it,s part of the norm ~!
~*~*~*~Peace.
2006-08-14 13:27:59 · answer #7 · answered by Brat-tett & Brat Pack's 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you just meet the wrong kind of ladies...look around tell you find the right one. Not all us woman are like that...
2006-08-14 13:30:29 · answer #8 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man - only if you guys could have babies too!! lol
I think now I'm still shy to do that just as much as the guy is....Atleast the approaching part.....
2006-08-14 13:27:02 · answer #9 · answered by Mary 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to try dating different types of women! I have done everything that you are saying women don't do......broaden your horizons
2006-08-14 13:25:53 · answer #10 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋