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my bf and i have a great realationship i mean he play around all the time and he always tells me that he loves me he has taken care of me better than my parents have but there is just one thing he is not the making out mussy kind of guy and another thing he can tell me if he thinks a girl on tv is hot but he has never really tells me when i look good or anything like that he is not really affectionate at all i mean i get the lil kisses on the lips before work bed and we make out only before sex or if we are ****** up. do u think something is wrong

2006-08-14 06:08:57 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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I think that's just him, largely because of the way he was raised; and since you have all the evidence in the world of how he feels for you based on how he treats you, a certain amount of this you should just accept as being part of his personality. To the extent that you would like him to be more affectionate and demonstrative, you're in a better position than anyone else to bring about this change. Just don't make it a point of contention, and he'll likely come around to a happy medium you can both live with because he does care about you.Lovers have to communicate their needs and wants all the time; that's one of the benefits and challenges of being in a caring, committed relationship. Keep it light and fun, and reward any effort toward change ( positive reinforcement) no matter how small, and you'll get where you want to be in no time. Enjoy...it's sounds like you've got all of the raw materials together to make it work. Shaping it is the fun part of this adventure. Good luck to you both.

2006-08-14 06:23:50 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1 0

gurl if he ONLY makes out with u before " bed " then something is wrong guys brains r programed to think about that stuff ALL the time so it is kinda unusual but don't break up with him or nething he seems like a ok guy from what u tell me but i don't think it is a good idea to have sex before ur married cuz u can get allll kinds of things well sit him down and tell him how u feel cuz u can't try to fix a prolbem if he don't kno bout it

2006-08-14 06:21:00 · answer #2 · answered by blonde chick 2 · 0 0

there's nothing wrong, you just need to talk to him and expain that those are the things that are important to you and you feel are missing. As guys we sometimes miss the boat and do what we feel is good, but that might not be what the girl is looking for. So tell him that for example he loves sex but you'd love for him to tell you how wonderful you look. Hopefully that makes sense

2006-08-14 06:15:31 · answer #3 · answered by George 2 · 0 0

Doesnt sound like a great relationship to me. I think "mussy" was supposed to be "mushy". Men dont have to be mushy to show they care. Not all your needs are getting met so you need to talk to him.

2006-08-14 06:14:45 · answer #4 · answered by taz4x4512 4 · 0 0

No, he just seems like the type that is still shy and can't really express his feelings about certain things. Maybe in his mind he thinks about things, but he can't say it to you because he's feels weird (in a good way).

2006-08-14 06:19:17 · answer #5 · answered by starr 4 · 0 0

Just give him some time to come around.If he doesn't start to improve,then dump him.Ask youreself this:Why be in a relationship where he isn't really affectionate towards you.

2006-08-14 06:14:22 · answer #6 · answered by turtle_rosie 3 · 1 0

No there isn't anything wrong lots of guys behave this way, maybe you should start asking him if your outfit looks good or if your hair looks pretty.

2006-08-14 06:13:26 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 1 0

baby girl, was he like this before you met him? i think that who he is, he's the type who doesn't show show emotion that much. there is nothing wrong with your relationship. just accept him of who he is. or just ask him. he'll tell you the same as what i'm telling you.

2006-08-14 06:22:54 · answer #8 · answered by harmony 7 · 0 0

i hope nothing is wrong because my husband is that way. he is not the kissy kissy type. but i think you should just do what i have done.....learn to deal with it. we have been married for three years and he has been that way the whole time. it's just how he is. but i love him and i know that he loves me too.

2006-08-14 06:14:43 · answer #9 · answered by amandy245 2 · 0 0

i kind of have the same relationship with my bf he loves you just dont worry ask him if you look sexy every once in a while

2006-08-14 06:17:19 · answer #10 · answered by sandilou23 2 · 0 0

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