2006-08-14 06:05:45 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Yes.You may be surprised that they will give you a gift in other ways.
2006-08-14 06:08:54 · answer #1 · answered by eugene65ca 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
The guests in a wedding are there to share with you the beginning of your new life. It's courteous to send them a "thank you" note for participating in that joyous occasion. After many years you will probably forget who brought what, but you will always remember the smiling faces you saw at your wedding.
Also, perhaps they couldn't afford a gift or for some good reason they were unable to bring one. Perhaps their wishes were warm and sincere. Why should they be penalized by a lack of acknowledgement of their physical presence?
2006-08-17 10:34:33 · answer #2 · answered by Mariaell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. "Thank you" notes are to acknowledge the receipt of a gift. Why would you thank someone for attending your wedding? You invited them to share your special day and possibly fed them at the reception. Besides, if you send a "thank you" note to someone who didn't bring a gift, it could look like you're purposely pointing that out to them.
2006-08-14 07:58:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely. Thank them for the gift of their presence on your special day. Keep in mind that sometimes people that are attending a wedding have to take a day (or more) off from work which costs them more than a gift. IF they are tight on money, losing the day of work may keep them from buying a gift. Also, if they are from out of town and had to pay for a hotel and travel expenses, then that in and of itself is a gift. They have given you their time while losing a ton of money to share the special moment of your wedding with you.
2006-08-14 06:11:33 · answer #4 · answered by a6stringjedi 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You thank them for attending your special event. Rejoice that they thought it was important enough to come to the wedding when they could have taken a weekend and spent it in a way they would have actually have preferred.
Realize they might have pitched in on a gift with another relative or friend who neglected to put their name on the gift card. Any number of things might have happened and not being able to afford a gift is one of them. Should you be nasty to someone who is in rough financial shape? Or should you be understanding?
The greatest gift a person can give at a wedding is the joy of dancing. To eat and dance at a wedding is to approve of the marriage, it is the truest meaning of a wedding celebration. To remove social expectations and waltz, schottische or shake your booty is to give a chunk of joy to the newlyweds. It is the joy generated by dancing that is the rocket fuel for a marriage. It's a celebration and it's supposed to be FUN!
Peace.
2006-08-14 06:30:56 · answer #5 · answered by Polly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OF COURSE ..
Their presence is the gift!!!!!!!!!!
Can you imagine half your guest don't turn up for your wedding? How about all don't turn up but sent you gifts? would that make you happier?
Just bear in mind that gifts are optional and up to them to give or not to give. Attending your wedding is hassle enough, so don't expect too much. If you get gifts, be grateful but if you don't; be grateful too that they did attend anyway. That is giving you alot of face already.
2006-08-14 19:10:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course. just if you have a general card which expressed how happy you were that they were at your wedding.
now for the ones who did send a gift, if you wrote down who send you what, make the card more personalized by expressing how much you will be enjoying the "toaster" you received. or the "plate settings" which were send are gorgoeus and I will think of your thoughtfulness whenever i used them.
for the ones you can not remember what they gave you just send a general thank you and saying that you will enjoy their present.
also if anyone gave you money, express that the funds will be used for remodeling the house, for buying furniture, accessories. please do not tell anyone thank you for the money it will be used to pay bills from the wedding. tacky, very tacky even though i once got a card like that.
2006-08-14 06:13:46 · answer #7 · answered by lasalle_1986 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How horribly rude of them! Attending a wedding without giving a gift is unthinkable. I would call and say something like the following:
"Hello Aunt Maggie, how are you? I'm just calling to let you know how wonderful it was to see you and Uncle Miltie at our wedding last month. It was a truly joyous occassion and we were so happy that you could join us. But I do have some bad news for you. Something must have happened to your wedding gift as we cannot find it anywhere. We would hate to think that it was misplaced so I'm calling to find out what you gave us so that we can look again for the missing item."
2006-08-14 06:10:58 · answer #8 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
yes. you invited them over to share and witness your "big day". and they did. those who offered presents wanted to help you with your start up of a new home so your thank you note should state the item and express how delighted you were receiving it.
so for those of you who gets invited to attend birthdays, anniversaries, weddings, christenings, etc., it is more appreciated when you bring a gift/present. as to the cost or amount, it should not be lower than cost of the food that you will eat.
2006-08-14 06:24:16 · answer #9 · answered by babytalk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes,
you should send them a thank-you card: for "attending your wedding", and is it possible they might have forgotten to include a gift? in any case,
you invited them to share in your special day,although it's nice to have guests bring a gift,it is not required.
2006-08-14 06:15:11 · answer #10 · answered by elizabethtmai 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if it were me, I would send it. Because they were willing to celebrate one of the best moments in your life. There could be circumstances to why they didnt bring a present. But a wedding to me is not about what people can give me, it s about the celebration of union and having family and friends there.
2006-08-14 06:20:14 · answer #11 · answered by x_angel_0f_darkness_x 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋