Split up with my partner about 6 weeks ago, and I have been with her 6 years. Just started a new job at a call centre and there is nice classy looking girl who I fancy the pants off.
She talks to me slightly and I think she is showing interest accept I have a problem. I have completely forgot how to pull someone in that environment. Whats your best solution ladies? What would you have me do if it was you?
2006-08-14 05:59:10 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been out of the dating scene for about 6 yrs now...but harmless flirting and if she's seeming interested ~ just keep being charming...the rest will come back to you... Good luck
2006-08-14 06:03:47 · answer #1 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be yourself with her. Bear in mind that whoever initiated the split, after six years and such a recent split, you will be emotionally vulnerable, even if you do not realise it, and if you are not ready for another potential committement, don't go there within the work place, as it can get really messy if it doesn't work out. Keep talking to the nice classy girl, could be she thinks your cute but has a boyfriend of her own already. The only way you will get to know is if you continue to talk to her. Engage her in conversation, bit by bit, day by day, over time. If you can make her laugh or smile, so much the better, but we girls know when a guy is putting it on, and using lines, and quite honestly, it aint attractive. So keep it simple, ask her abou therself, as you have the job in common, you could start with that topic. how long has she worked there? What does she like about it? What did she do before? What does she want to do long term. But intersperse it with information about yourself as well, otherwise she will feel like she is being interviewed. If she looks nice, tell her so, if you like something she is wearing, tell her. Be as natural as you can with her and gauge her response. If she is interested you will soon know, if not, you will soon know that as well. Don't hound her, just be all friendly and smiles, maybe even a wink when you get to know her better, but take it slowly, as subconsciously you are still learning lessons from your past relationship and break up. Your best bet would be to take a break from dating for at least six months, but if you absolutely have to, try cultivating this girl as a friend first and foremost, and remember, if you do get together, and she becomes your girlfriend, treat her with the same respect you would treat any other friend. Best of luck.
2006-08-14 13:10:13 · answer #2 · answered by Tefi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NOT AT WORK...
it could be misunderstood as SEXUAL HARASSMENT!
Also you do not 'FANCY the PANTS off' of a CLASSY Woman...
You be a gentleman!
Do not PULL IN...
LISTEN and OPEN YOUR MIND...
You are acting too over baring and she will back away into a corner and get defensive.
Hold off a while you just got out of the fire and already jumping back into the volcano!
Be friendly and maybe suggest lunch.
See where that leads...and DO NOT LET IT LEAD TO BED SO FAST...
just talk and lunch...being too desperate is a TURN OFF...
it would read to ME...
"HI I AM IN HEAT LIGHT A FIRE WITH ME!"
No, you need to settle down and let the flame warm her, not scorch her!
2006-08-14 13:14:34 · answer #3 · answered by Samuella SilverSelene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hand her a nicely written note inviting her out for a drink. Make sure you dont be 'sloppy' with spelling and sloppy with sentiment.
Here are the words to use.
Hi there ( her first name)
I would very much like to take you out for drink at (name a place)at the weekend
I hope you are interested. Would you like that? I hope this is not an embarrassment for you but I just think you are so nice/cool (choose here).
sign it (first name) with your phone number at home, and your cell/mobile number. Please leave me a text or if you like ring me at home.
No girl could refuse this unless you are downright ugly or have hairs growing from your ears, or she has someone else 'in tow' lol
2006-08-14 13:21:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just flirt with her and if she flirts back ask her out for a drink or get a group of people to go to the pub one night and invite her. That way there will be a whole bunch of people so there wouldn't be too much pressure. .
2006-08-14 13:04:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all you need to get to know this girl on a friendship basis.
Ask her to come on your lunch break, take her to the local cafe and get to know each other.
Just take it from there but don't be too pushy, that will put her off.
Good luck!
2006-08-14 13:37:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
first make friends with her cuz theres nothing worse than a stranger hitting on u then be like " can i call u some time' then if she is intrested she will be like " yeah sure heres my # " well good luck
the date Dr.( the female version )
2006-08-14 13:08:41 · answer #7 · answered by blonde chick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all ask her if she has a boyfriend. If the answer is no, why don't you ask her out for a drink after work and take it from there? Good luck.
2006-08-14 13:06:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be yourself and talk to her. Ask little questions at first just to get to know her and go from there. Good luck!
2006-08-14 13:04:53 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Flirt with her a little or organise a staff night out and stick by her side all evening I hope it goes well
take careâ¥
2006-08-14 13:06:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋