how do u now when u are ready to have sex?

Answer 1

When you are an adult and ready to get married to a good man!

Having sex too yound is what makes young parents. Plus, it is not safe, with all the sexual diseases out there!

WAIT FOR AS LONG AS YOU CAN!!!

Answer 2

You are ready to have sex when you're in a serious relationship (i.e. at least 6 months together), know how to use a condom and other birth control methods, have talked about sex and contraception with your boyfriend, and are mature enough to deal with the consequences in case the birth control or condom doesn't work (it works 98% of the time, not 100%.) You should also be the age of consent, and know of a gynecologist or planned parenthood clinic in your area. Emotionally, you know when you are ready because you will feel completely comfortable and confident, and 100% of you feels ready. Even 99.9% is not enough.

Answer 3

When you get the urge you are ready to go. Sex with yourself is great.
Now sex with others is a different story. You have to consider the other person's feelings and desires. Also you need a good job so you can pay the bills for a baby.

Answer 4

For a girl usually when you reach age 35. Sorry a dad here.

If your thinking on having sex with your guy ask yourself this question. Are you emtionally and financially ready to handle the consequences of your actions. I am not just talking about getting pregnant.

There are other considerations, STD, HIV and Aides, Cervical Cancer, just to name a few.

I am not saying be married first. Heaven knows I wasn't. What I am saying is be careful and make sure you are not being forced into the sex act because your boyfreind wants to.

Will he support you should something happen or would he just walk away? You need to ask yourself that question above all.

What ever you decide talk to a freind whose been there. Sex may be fun and feel good but it only is fun and feels good when it is with the right person.

Answer 5

I suggest holding off on sex until you are old enough not to use a lower case "u" in place of the world "you". Truly, you are not old enough to have sex if you are young enough to wonder if you are ready. You will know, and feel confident in yourself and your partner when you are ready.

Answer 6

you are only ready if you are mature enough to handle the responsibilites it can bring. if you are 17 or older and finished high school then yeah but dont do it with any guy make sure he loves you and you love him back and you have been with him for a long time and are ready to take the next step in your relationship

Answer 7

Just dont decide to do it when u "think" ur in love. You might just be in lust, not love. And love comes and goes. Ur "cherry" won't. Lol. Trust I know. Maybe u should wait for marriage, or a long-term relationship. If u cant talk to the person about having sex without being shy about it, then u dont need to have sex with them or anyone else for that matter. And for heavens sake use protection and get them tested first!

Answer 8

When you think you are olden enough to handle the potential outcome of sex. Parenthood is wonderful, and a huge responsibility. I understand waiting for sex is difficult, but so is catching a disease or bringing another life into this world.

Answer 9

well, since your screen name is grade schooler than you're for sure not ready. Be a kid while you can-you don't want to worry about all the problems that come from having sex....

Answer 10

If you are unsure then you are too young to be having sex. Sex is something that needs to be share with 2 people that not only love each other but are good friends too.

They have to be able to know all the consequences of what may happen if they have sex (pregnancy and STD"s) and they will take proper percautions to prevent it. They know that birth control is not 100% safe and they have talked about what will happen and what they will do if what they are doing fails.

They know that neither of them will blame the other and they both have a part in this. They are old enough to take care of a baby and will bring it into the world with love, not "oh my God, what am I going to do?".

Sex is not just physical, it's emotional too. You don't have sex with someone unless you totally trust that person. Think about it...is this person you are going to be giving your most precious thing worth it? Can you see yourself with this person, married, and having kids and grandkids with them? Can he see that with you?

NEVER EVER have sex with a boy that "forces you" or makes you feel guilty if you don't have sex with him. NEVER fall for him saying "you will if you love me". Just because he says he loves you does not mean that he truely loves you.

Go with your "gut" feelings. That is like God talking to you. You can almost never go wrong if you listen to that. One thing I've always told my kids, and the kids I've taught is, if you have to hide what you are doing from your parents then you know it's wrong and you shouldn't be doing it.

You need to meet a boy, get to know him, date and find out more about him. See if you really do like him. Know that in the beginning he is going to be on his best behavior and will be trying to impress you. If you don't like him at this point, get out right away because this will be the best he will be. As you get used to each other he will begin to be himself, which is usually not as nice or attentive as he was in the beginning. After the 3 or 4 months of getting to know each other you will begin to see the "real" him and then you need to make another decision...do you still like who he is now?

Remember, if you do something with a boy and later regret it, you don't have to do it again. you can always say no the next time. Don't let him force you into doing it again either. Tell him you're not comfortable with it and you're not going to do it again. If he says he's going to tell or you will if you love him, just tell him you don't care if he tells because you'll just back it up with "and now I'm not doing it anymore. I tried it and changed my mind."

Please, please, please, do not have sex as a young person. Just look on this site at all the ones that have and how their lives have changed forever because of it. Once you have sex, you loose that "first time" forever. You want it to be with someone you really love and plan on spending the rest of your life with.

I've worked in labor and delivery for over 7 years and there have been plenty of young girls delivering babies at 12, 13, 14, etc. So don't think you are too young to get pregnant. Most said it was their first time and many have said they didn't even "have sex"...they just messed around on the outside. Still can get pregnant that way.

Labor is hard and painful work, especially for someone who is very young. You would be a high risk pregnancy and so many complications can happen in regular pregnancies, and when you're younger many other things can happen.

The medication they give moms in labor that are adults is not regulated for young teens, so doctors don't really have anything to give them for the pain they go through.

Don't have sex, talk to your friends and tell them not to.
Talk with your parents about sex. They will be uncomfortable, but it's something you need to do. Find out what they think and what their beliefs are. If you have more questions go to them or talk to a trusted adult or the school nurse. They have plenty of information too.

Good luck and have a great life!