My boyfriends mother is becoming a huge stress in his life. She works a secretary job, then comes home and chain smokes ciggarrettes, but does not take care of herself or the house. She is very hedonistic and spends all of her money on CRAP avoiding her bills and rent. She is disgusting us, how can we make her change? She has never acted like this before.
2006-08-14 05:53:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She recently went to Las Vegas, and has been OBSESSED with it, she wants to move there. She think that she lives this fabulous lifestyle, sitting home alone watching tv, no husband, but she gets her hair and nails done regularly. Also she would rather buy ciggarettes over food. I watched this woman eat doritoes for dinner because she is too lazy to do ANYTHING.
2006-08-14 09:52:40 · update #1
She does sound depressed, jeez.
2006-08-14 09:53:30 · update #2
Tell her to shape up and stop being a baby and take care of her responsibilities.
2006-08-14 06:09:37 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like her life is stuck in a runt, has a bad burn out some where and is also suffering from depression. Depression is very serious to say the least.
She is not going to do stuff on her own with out being coasted into to doing it. She needs motivation in her life. Start help out around her house, give her a reason to want to do stuff again. Get her to go places with you, if nothing else right now, go for walks or what ever. Once she sees that someone really does care for her, she will change. It is not going to happen over night. She has been getting this way for sometime, so it will take awhile to reverse it, maybe a month maybe longer, depends on how long she has been this way.
I know what I am talking about here, been there, done that. I have had total strangers to come into my life and turn me around. The strangers are what has made me start feeling good about myself. Be there for her, she needs it!!!!!!!!
2006-08-14 13:25:05 · answer #2 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make anyone change that doesn't want to. If she has never acted like this before there could be something very troubling happening in her life, she could be going through menpause, severe depression or a physical ailment.
Have you boyfriend have a talk with her noting the changes in her behaviour and how concerned he is about her and encourage her to go to doctor to get a physical. If it turns out to be a non-physical ailment, the doctor can refer her to a counselor or some will prescribe anti-depressents.
2006-08-14 13:02:56 · answer #3 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she is suffering from some form of depression. Does she have any friends or family that she is close to, besides your boyfriend? Any hobbies? Outside interests? Try to encourage her to spend time with something besides the house. Would she go for a walk with you? To the park? Take a picnic for supper and just sit on a blanket and listen to music or talk. Ask her what her interests are. If you think she is in danger physically, ask her if she would consider going to the doctor. I know that will be difficult.
2006-08-14 13:00:37 · answer #4 · answered by curiositycat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all dose she live with you? IF she dont live with you its her problem. If she lives with you move her out.AFTER you do that your both not responsible 4 her bills and if she keeps up she will be in the street. SHE sounds like she is depressed and on drugs or early alhimzmers
2006-08-14 13:00:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is going through something right now that is stressing her out. are you sure she is not depressed? does she live with you? i think that you should talk to her and tell her how you feel, and find out why her behavior has changed. maybe its a cry for help.
2006-08-14 13:03:58 · answer #6 · answered by bumblebee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is your bf living at home? If not, don't worry about her. She is an adult, and she will have to work it out on her own. He needs to not feel the guilt, and enjoy his life. Don't let her sob story hold you back...
2006-08-14 12:59:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she`s ur mum,
talk to her.
she will understand. who knows. maybe she wants to get away as well, but needs some support.
be by her side, and never let her down.
you should always be proud of ur mum, so give her the courage she needs...
2006-08-14 13:02:24 · answer #8 · answered by trishnah * 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk nicely to her warning about her health.
2006-08-14 13:02:22 · answer #9 · answered by Ahmad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck with that one. I don't know that you can make her change. If you do, let me know I have a mother-in-law from hell.
2006-08-14 13:07:34 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋