How would you know if your man is cheating? Relationship involves children!?

Question

We don't live together nor have a joint bank account. He works overtime but complains about no having enough money but gets paid more then me.

Answer 1

Unexplained absences (early to work/late getting home with no extra money on paycheck), phonecalls that he keeps secret, hidden email accounts, new cologne, he comes home smelling like a women, he wants to go out to the bars/movies and doesn't invite you, he changes his appearance drastically, he is no longer interested in sex or he is suddenly alot more interested in sex, he talks about places he's eaten or movies he's seen that you know you didn't do together, but I think the best bet is a women's intution, if you think there is something wrong then there usually is!!

Answer 2

First off don't panic or stress out.
Has he shown any symptoms of a cheater? Staying out, working later, weekends especially. Phone calls that hang-up on you, or he stays on the phone for long periods talking low but loud enough to avoid suspicion. If he has a cellphone check your incoming & outgoing calls from your bill. I fhtere is anything unusual either call the numbers and find out who they are and what relationship they have with your man.
Never involve your children. This is an issue between you and him. I cannot tell you what to do if he IS cheating, I can only tell you that if you stay together the trust and security of your relationship has been flushed. It will take some time to recover IF he is cheating. If he is not you need to collect your thoughts and go over why you would suspect him of doing so.

Answer 3

1. Unexplained absenses from the home
2. Always accusing YOU of looking at other men
3. Provides TOO MUCH detail as to where he has been. Liars ALWAYS offer explanations with TOO much detail (in hopes of lending credence to their lies.)


After a second reading I have to revise my answer a bit. I assumed you two were married, but it sounds like you are NOT married, yet you've had children together. If you are not married, (in that case), then he CANNOT be cheating. How can he be cheating when you two never made any formal, legal, recognized commitment to one another? What commitment is he violating? There isn't one. Spitting on your palms and shaking hands is NOT a formal commitment--neither is taking off your clothes and having sex. He doesn't owe you any alligence and you don't owe him any. You two AREN'T MARRIED. He is simply getting tired of having sex with you and is looking for another easy girl that will let him have sex with her without expecting marrige either. Cheating is only possible in either an engagement situation or in marriage. For couple who choose to simply have sex outside of wedlock and never think enough of their relationship to enter into a formal marriage there is, by definition, no such thing as cheating. This is simply the price one pays for immorality. Sorry I couldn't offer a more positive answer.

Answer 4

If he is not willing to sleep (have sex) with you, or turns you down frequently. Constantly looks at or is on his cell phone. On the computer late at night (well after everyone goes to bed). Calls you from work and tells you he's going to be late, or that a couple of friends called and wants him to go out to dinner with them. Always wants to go to the store right then and there when you run out of something at home (even though it could wait) Check you bank accounts for frequent money with draws. There is a whole list of things these are just a few.

Answer 5

Obviously, he's give you a reason to suspect something.
Stop spending your life wondering, and get out with the kids!!
In my opinion, cheating is a character flaw, and is easy to continue once it's started. It shows that people aren't happy with where/who they are, or who they're with. You don't deserve to be the back-up plan in case another relationship doesn't work, especially when the kids are involved.
Also, think about the example this is setting for your children (if in fact he's cheating)- do you want them to think that real relationships involve third parties? Or that it's okay not to be faithful to one person??

Anyway, don't get me started. :) Good luck, hope everything works out!

Answer 6

why does this question cross your mind if the children are involved do whats best for the kids if abuse is involved moving on is what's best

GOOD LUCK AND WELL BEING

Answer 7

Gut feeling never lies to you.

Answer 8

grouse, you should reconsider your relationship the first place...