2006-08-14 05:20:43 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Another man just asked a similar question. Here's what I said:
Let her know that her body is much more likely to be permanently damaged by abortion than by childbirth. Childbirth is a natural process. Abortion is unnatural. Her cervix (tightly closed to protect the baby) will have to be forced open, so that sharp instruments can be inserted. This may result in tearing and permanent damage to her cervix. Abortion is a "blind procedure." The abortionist cannot see what he is doing and may puncture her uterus, bowel, or bladder.
Here is information on abortion risks and deaths:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm
Also, share this information with her:
Photos of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
A Four-Minute, Must-See Video on Abortion:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html
Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com
Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm
http://www.lifeissues.org/ultrasound/11weeks.htm
Pain Perception in the Unborn:
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/fetalpain.html
Stay calm. Stay loving. You don't want her to abort the child out of anger or spite. Let her know that you will think she is beautiful pregnant! Tell her that the baby is going to be beautiful, just like her. Take her shopping for some cute baby things (if and when she seems to be in the mood). Let her know that you are sure she can handle the pregnancy. Tell her that you don't want to see her OR the baby hurt. Bring her flowers.
Legally, there is nothing you can do to stop her, but please keep on trying to save your child and don't give up.
2006-08-15 02:51:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can ask her to sit down with you in a nice environment to have a good talk over this topic. Tell her more on the disadvantage of abortion. Try to control your anger if you are a hot-tempered person. Give her a sense of security and make promise to her. Do not make empty promise. Tell her that the baby belong to both of you. Tell her that you will respect her decision. And you must respect your wife decision. Do not force her to do anything. Be sincere. Give her a nice good hug at the end of the negotiation. Be fully prepare before having a talk with her. Also, be mentally prepare for the worse outcome.
2006-08-14 05:39:54 · answer #2 · answered by Dead Man Chest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it is not as simple as that. you don't give us reason why she wants to have an abortion and her reasons may be valid. you may be having problems as a couple? she already had enough children? she may think you will not be a responsible father and she doesn't feel she can handle it alone? maybe she is depressed?
you must understand that a pregnancy is not just simply being pregnant for 9 months. hormones do crazy things to a woman's body and mind. it is an emotional attachment and she may not be ready for it again, or at this time.
for men it is easy to want to have a child. all you do is have some fun, say "ok i want you to keep it", and maybe hang around to see the child grow.
you should get some counseling, but in the end it is up to both of you to find a solution together.
good luck.
2006-08-14 05:35:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm so sorry for you about this. i comprehend how complicated this might want to be.. my cousin went with the aid of this. there's a small probability a courtroom ought to provide you with custody of the unborn newborn, yet with the aid of the time you're extremely in courtroom, it must be unnecessary using both a million. she's already had the abortion ....or... 2. she's thus far alongside that no human being can do the abortion and he or she's wanting to shop the baby consequently making the courtroom unnecessary. regrettably, it is her body and he or she has the right to do what she needs with it. back, i'm sorry. the most you ought to do is confer jointly with her and tell her you'll cover all expenditures if she incorporates the newborn and provides finished custody at the same time as she resources. good success.
2016-12-06 12:48:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
besides a conversation? absolutely not.
you need to talk to your wife. i'm sure (and i hope) you know why your wife wants an abortion. ease her worries. when you two got married, was a family in the picture to begin with? did you two not see eye to eye on the subject? maybe the timing was off? is there a health reason? TALK TO YOUR WIFE!!
AND NO, YOU CANNOT GET A COURT ORDER TO PREVENT HER FROM GETTING AN ABORTION! IT'S UNCONSTITUTIONAL!
2006-08-14 06:01:04 · answer #5 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are a few sites for why not, also in the search area of yahoo put "why not abort" and select images. It is graphic so beware, but they have photos of aborted babys. It was the pictures of the babies that changed my mind about abortion 20 years ago.
Take care and pray.
2006-08-14 05:39:33 · answer #6 · answered by Connie H 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on her reason for wanting one. Is she unsure you two can take care of a baby? Is it for financial reasons? Is the timing bad? If you want to keep this baby, then you'd better assure her that you are going to do everything you possibly can to make sure that she and the baby are well-taken care of. Even if it means taking another job, finding better insurance, being willing to stay home sometimes and help her out. Sounds like she's unsure of the situation the baby is entering into. Find out what's going on in her head.
2006-08-14 05:26:57 · answer #7 · answered by kitten lover3 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's tough. It depends on her reasoning. It depends on your marriage. Do you guys have a bunch of kids already? Will it hurt her physically to carry out a pg.? Is she just CFBC? It sounds like you guys need to have a long talk but really it is her decision in the end not yours. Unless you guys can be open and honest about this you could be ruining your marriage.
2006-08-14 05:46:00 · answer #8 · answered by michelle K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow..umm..I really don't know if you can..talking to her is the only thing you can do. If she respects and loves you she would be considerate of this...then again she may have a reason she feels is good enough to want to do this. Just let her know that her doing this will ruin her unborns life and it will probably wreck your marriage too...ask her if she really feels that she can live with that and if she can....do you honestly feel she's the right person for you anyways?
2006-08-14 05:29:14 · answer #9 · answered by gooterscooby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no there is nothing legally you can do. you do not own her body. talk to her, find out why she wants an abortion, see what you can do to allay her fears, see if you can get her to wait a few more days for you 2 to think and talk about it. but if you start yelling and saying im not going to allow you to do this she'll never listen to you. try some compassion
2006-08-14 05:28:04 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋